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1 “He Said, She Said: Understanding Gender Differences in Communication”
Sue Gillies BA, BAppSci, MBA CMGMA, September 15th, 2017

2 Guidelines/Underlying Assumptions

3 Communication Impacts All Aspects of our Businesses
Efficiency Quality Bottom Line Compliance/Legal Creativity/Uniqueness Competition Reputation/Brand Emotions Stress Levels Satisfaction

4 Many Ways to Evaluate Communication….....
Another tool in your tool kit

5 It’s Not That Black and White….
We all have masculine and feminine traits Where do you sit on the continuum? Masculine_____________________Feminine

6 A Story!

7 The Other Side of the Coin…

8 Equals but not the same! Speaking Listening Body Language
Conflict Resolution Problem Solving/Decision Making

9 Why? Brains- Different Wiring Evolution- Cave Men/Women
Socialization- Gender Roles

10 Attributes Masculine Feminine In control/take charge Independent
Focused Logical Decisive Disciplined Stable Confident Hierarchical Competitive Nurturing Interdependent Receptive Emotional Empathetic Creative Patient Vulnerable Communal Cooperative

11 Speaking Masculine Feminine Facts/report Reason for talking
Direct/demands Say what they mean Feelings/rapport Process out loud Indirect/ask questions Imply what they mean

12 Bridging the Gaps Masculine: Feminine: Take a moment to build rapport
Explain your thinking rather than simply jumping to conclusions Be aware that a direct communication style may be taken personally Tentative does equal lacking confidence Increase the feeling quotient Feminine: Be concise, get to the point Use statements A direct style does not equal arrogance or superiority Dim the emotional intensity

13 Speaking Masculine Feminine Facts/report Reason for talking
Direct/demands Say what they mean Feelings/rapport Process out loud Indirect/ask questions Imply what they mean

14 Listening

15 Listening Masculine Feminine Listen to fix Outcomes/content
Listen to one thing at a time Likely to interrupt View this as an interruption or a lack of attention Listen to improve People/feelings Shift back and forth in listening Take turns Participatory listening (finish off other sentences)

16 Bridging the Gaps Both: Masculine: Feminine:
Clarify how you would like the other person to listen (fix, improve, understand, just listen!) Masculine: Avoid interruptions Be cognizant of the feeling content Feminine: Understand that interruptions are not always meant to indicate disinterest Avoid finishing sentences

17 Listening Masculine Feminine Listen to fix Outcomes/content
Listen to one thing at a time Likely to interrupt View this as an interruption or a lack of attention Listen to improve People/feelings Shift back and forth in listening Take turns Participatory listening (finish off other sentences)

18 Body Language Masculine Feminine
Eye contact not important Nod to indicate agreement More attuned to verbal than the non verbal Eye contact indicates interest Nod to indicate interest Read body language and pick up non verbal cues

19 Bridging the Gaps Masculine: Feminine:
Use eye contact to indicate that you are listening and interested in the conversation Appreciate that the feminine is more sensitive to non verbal cues Feminine: Understand that eye contact is not as important to the masculine Appreciate that the masculine is not as aware of body language

20 Body Language Masculine Feminine
Eye contact not important Nod to indicate agreement More attuned to verbal than the non verbal Eye contact indicates interest Nod to indicate interest Read body language and pick up non verbal cues

21 Conflict Resolution Masculine Feminine Competing and achieving
Argue more and find it interesting to disagree Just fix the problem Harmony and relating Seek agreement and see disagreement as more threatening to relationships Hash out the details

22 Bridging the Gaps Masculine: Feminine:
Recognize that confrontation may cause the feminine retreat Try to reframe the conflict as more ritual than real Feminine: Be aware that the masculine likes to argue. Try not to personalize it Recognize the value of conflict and allow yourself and others to take a strong position

23 Conflict Resolution Masculine Feminine Competing and achieving
Argue more and find it interesting to disagree Just fix the problem Harmony and relating Seek agreement and see disagreement as more threatening to relationships Hash out the details

24 Problem Solving/Decision Making

25 Problem Solving/Decision Making
Masculine Feminine Goal oriented/linear Analytical One solution at a time At ease with order, rules Decisive/results oriented More comfortable giving and taking orders Assertive Want to get to work immediately Process oriented/holistic Intuitive As many options as possible At ease with fluidity Consultative/ collaborative More comfortable with giving and taking suggestions Cooperative Tend to ask a lot of questions before beginning

26 Bridging the Gaps Masculine: Feminine: Both
Be open to hearing several ways to solve the same problem Asking questions doesn’t translate to a lack of confidence Feminine: Limit solutions, prioritize Be sure the masculine has adequate information Both Clarify if you are gathering information to seek consensus or to be the ultimate decision maker Optimize your outcome by incorporating both styles; appreciate the benefits of collaborative and singular approaches to problem solving and decision making

27 Problem Solving/Decision Making
Masculine Feminine Goal oriented/linear Analytical One solution at a time At ease with order, rules Decisive/results oriented More comfortable giving and taking orders Assertive Want to get to work immediately Process oriented/holistic Intuitive As many options as possible At ease with fluidity Consultative/ collaborative More comfortable with giving and taking suggestions Cooperative Tend to ask a lot of questions before beginning

28 Workplace Needs Masculine Respected Admired
Sense of control over their environment Feminine Appreciated Valued for what they bring to the workplace Safe

29 Putting it into Practice
Understand the Differences Practice Know Yourself

30 What Went Wrong?

31 A Critical Business Decision!
Appreciate and Understand Gender Communication Differences To: Remove the Distractions Listen with Clarity Optimize the Results

32 Questions

33 Fun Gender Communication Quiz

34 Sue Gillies Change, Strategy, Improvement, Coaching, Consulting
Please feel free to contact me with additional questions and if you would like a copy of the reference list. Presentation Reference List Available Upon Request


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