1. RELATIONSHIPS

2. BROAD OBJECTIVE
Equip service providers with knowledge and skills to empower the young people to make informed decisions on relationships

3. Specific objectives
By the end of this session, participants will be able to:
Describe different types of relationships
Identify qualities of healthy and romantic relationships
Explain behaviours that can enhance or destroy relationships
State the difference between love and infatuation
Discuss sexual decision making among the youth

4. Definition
Relationship-means getting along with others even if you are not necessarily friends e.g., teachers of the same school are related because all of them are working towards uplifting the standards of the school

5. TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS
·        Parent/child
·        Sister/brother
·        Cousins
·        Grandparents/grandchildren
·        Auntie/uncle
·        Teacher/student
·        Friends of the opposite sex
·        Same-sex friends
·        Boyfriend/girlfriend

6. TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS…
·     Employer/employee
·     Colleagues working together
·     Business partners

7. Healthy relationships
·Good relationships are based on love, mutual respect and willingness to work at the relationship.
·In a good relationship, both people are honest with each other.
·Both people feel safe in the relationship and do not worry that the other will betray their trust.

8. Healthy relationships…
·Both people usually find enjoyment and pleasure in the relationship, and neither person tries to control the other person or to pressure them into doing things.
Neither person exploits or takes advantage of the other in any way

9. Qualities that make a relationship healthy
Respect
Responsibility
Understanding
Cooperation
Caring

10. Circles of Friendship CASUAL FRIENDS CLOSE FRIENDS YOU ACQUANTANCES

11. Reasons for dating
·Provides a variety of opportunities for personal growth. From every person you date you should learn something about yourself and others.
·Provides opportunity for girls and boys to understand and get to know the opposite sex.

12. Reasons for dating…
·It is basically a way of making friends. Girls and boys should become friends before they are lovers.
·It fulfils the basic need for love, friendship and companionship.

13. Behaviours that can enhance or destroy relationships
The following are some actions and attitudes that could be warning signs that the partner is potentially abusive.
Verbal or physical threats
Jealousy
Criticism
Controlling
Anger or violence
Verbal abuse
Manipulation 

14. Types of rape
Acquaintance or date rape
Stranger rape

15. How young people can protect themselves against date rape
Do not be alone
Avoid secluded places
Keep others informed
Split the cost
Think about your sexual limits
Do not worry about being polite or nice.
Mode of dressing(appropriate)

16. Differentiating between love and infatuation
Love comes gradually between two people. They grow into it after many experiences together.
Infatuation happens suddenly after an initial meeting between two people. They think they are “in love.”
True love is based on knowledge.
Infatuation is narrowly based on attraction.
Love involves the entire personality.
Infatuation argues that “you cannot explain love.”
True love kindles kind feelings toward others. It makes the other person happy and improves his/her disposition.
Infatuation damages disposition. A person becomes indifferent and disagreeable toward others who “do not understand their relationship.”

17. Differentiating between love and infatuation…
True love thinks of the other person. It desires to protect the person and to do things to make him/her happy.
Infatuation tends to exploit the other person for personal pleasure, security, or other personal gain. It may be materialistic or parasitic.
True love is trustful, calm, secure, hopeful, and self-confident.
Infatuation is insecure, distrustful, jealous, and fearful.
True love is patient and it says, “We want forever! We can afford to wait! Nothing can happen to our love for each other.”
Infatuation is impatient and it says, “We have only tonight. Let’s live it up or let’s get married now.”
True love causes one to be proud of the other person and eager to introduce him/her to others, including parents and other adults.
Infatuation is often embarrassed about the relationship and is secretive with parents and others.

18. Differentiating between love and infatuation…
In true love, physical expression has tender meaning and comes slowly, naturally, and sincerely. Each person respects the mind and body of the other.
In infatuation, physical contacts – common and ordinary – tend to be the end. The meaning is lacking. It is the thrill of the experience for personal gratification.
True love tends to occur in late teens or early twenties or any time after that.
Infatuation tends to be more frequent among young adolescents.

19. Sexual decision making among the youth
Reasons for Saying Yes to Sex
To stop pressure from friends or partners
To show loving feelings in a relationship
To avoid loneliness
To get affection
Reasons for Saying No to Sex
To follow religious or cultural beliefs or personal or family values
To keep a romantic relationship from changing
To avoid pregnancy

20. Cont… To avoid STIs, HIV and AIDS To get or receive presents or gifts
To avoid hurting parents
To avoid hurting your reputation
To avoid feeling guilty
To reach future goals like education and career
To find the right partner
To wait for marriage
To get or receive presents or gifts
To show independence from parents and other adults
To hold onto a partner
To prove one is an adult
To become a parent
To satisfy curiosity

21. Factors that influence decision about whether or not to have sex in young person
·sexual feelings,
partner’s desires
media messages
Pressure
parent teachings
religious beliefs
drug use

22. What young person need to know or be prepared to do if she or he is going to say ‘no’ to sexual intercourse?
feeling good about themselves
being assertive
communicating clearly
following through with a decision
combating peer/partner pressure or their future goals

23. What does a young person need to know if she or he is going to say yes to sexual intercourse?
risks of pregnancy and STIs/HIV/AIDs
possible school dropout
how to discuss for safe sex (contraceptives and RTI)
how to communicate with a partner, how to feel good about themselves, how to say no, how to be assertive