1. Quiz No quiz this week 100% if you are in class and on time!
Write your name on the quiz slip and pass it up
There WILL be a quiz next week (Chapter 9)

2. Chapter 8 Review
Self-disclosure

3. Reviewing Self-Disclosure
True/False: Self-Disclosure must involve intentionality, choice, private information, and risk
Which is more personal/private? History or Story
True/False: Self-Disclosure is an objective process
What are some reasons individuals choose to self-disclose?
What are some reasons individuals decide NOT to self-disclose?
What does the Social Penetration Model/Theory say about personal information and self-disclosure?

4. Close relationships
Chapter 10

5. Relationships and Interpersonal communication
Indicates close relationships
Develops close relationships
Interpersonal relationship not synonymous with interpersonal communication

6. Types of relationships
Role relationships vs. Close Relationships
Close relationships = unique communication patterns

7. DEFINING/Framing close relationships
Cultural Performances
Cognitive Constructs
Relational scripts
Linguistic Constructs
Labeling
Gender
Culture
Relational culture

8. Influences Attraction (short term and long term) Culture
Matching hypothesis
Culture
Gender and Sex
Electronic Media
Hyperpersonal communication

9. Communicating in close relationships
Systems Theory
Dialectics Theory
Social Exchanges Theories
Stage Models

10. Systems Theory Relationships as living systems 6 part system Wholeness
Interdependence
Hierarchy
Boundaries or openness
Calibration or feedback
e.g. communication
Equifinality

11. Dialectics theory Autonomy vs. Connection Openness vs. Protection
Novelty vs. Predictability
Specifically in friendships…
Internal dialectics
Judgment vs. Acceptance
Affection vs. Instrumentality
External dialectics
Public vs. Private
Ideal vs. Real
Dealing with the tension
Cyclic Alternation
Segmentation
Selection
Integration
Neutralizing
Disqualifying
Taboo Topics
Reframing

12. Social exchange theories
Social exchange (costs vs. rewards)
Theory of Interdependence
When costs outweigh rewards
Comparison level
Comparison level of alternatives
Relative power position

13. Knapp’s stage models Initiating Experimenting Intensifying Integrating
Coming Together
Coming Apart
Initiating
Short-term attraction vs. Long-term attraction
Experimenting
Small Talk
Intensifying
Integrating
Bonding
Differentiating
Possible conflict?
Circumscribing
Stagnating
Avoiding
Terminating

14. To maintain and/or repair
How To communicate
To Begin
To maintain and/or repair
Networking
Offering
Approaching
Sustaining
Affinity seeking
To maintain
Preventative Maintenance (assurance, openness, positivity, apologies, sharing tasks, social networking)
Support
Using Humor
To repair
Corrective Maintenance
Meta-Communication
Apology

15. Communicating in Context: Relationships Part 2
Chapter 11; THE LAST CHAPTER!!!!!!!

16. Family Defining family Understanding family culture
Blood related?
Voluntary kin
Intentional families
Understanding family culture
Family Stories
Rituals
Types of families (consider how times have changed)
Nuclear family (traditional and contemporary)
Gay- and lesbian-headed family
Multigenerational family
Sandwich generation
Single-parent family

17. Friendships Relationship of choice Authentic friends Expectations
Symmetrical reciprocity
Communion (trust and intimacy very important)
Solidarity
Agency
Healthy Friendships vs. Unhealthy Friendships

18. Friendships (Stages) Stage 0: Momentary Playmateship
Childhood Friendship
Adult Friendship
Stage 0: Momentary Playmateship
Stage 1: One-Way Assistance
Stage 2: Two-Way, Fair-Weather Cooperation
Stage 3: Caring and Sharing
Stage 4: Mature Friendship
Stage 1: Role-Limited Interaction
Stage 2: Friendly Relations
Stage 3: Moving Toward Friendship
Stage 4: Nascent Friendship
Stage 5: Stabilized Friendship
Stage X: Waning Friendship

19. Romantic Relationship
Triangular Theory of Love
Intimacy, passion, decision/commitment
Short term and long term commitment
Related research topics
Expressing romantic feelings
Consider individual’s love style, own self concept
Types of romantic relationships
Long distance
Military
Same sex
Multiracial

20. Relationship maintenance
C.A.R.E. (Constantly Assessing Relationship Excellence)
Recognize relational history
Keep relationship alive
Watch out for (and handle) relationship ruts
Equity

21. Informal Activity #6 Catfish (the documentary) and group chats
What did the film teach you about the bright side vs. dark side of technology?
What examples do we find of healthy and/or unhealthy relationships?
Consider how this creates a context for your discussion of an episode (for short paper #2—due 10/25)
Also consider how you are analyzing behaviors (more practice for film analysis project – notes, group time and examples discussed next week)