1. Parenting Tips for Dealing with the Teen Years
Harry Brown, MA, LMFT
Mercer Island Youth & Family Services

2. WEB Leaders Fall 2015

3. Survey Results Fall 2015 6th Grade 7th Grade 8th Grade Stress
Achieving in school
Gossip/Rumors
Fitting In
Friendships
Bullying or harassment
Self Image
Loneliness
Depression
Cyber-bullying/Loss
Achieving in School
Self-image
Girl/Boy Friend Issues
Peer Pressure
Family Issues
Self-Image

4. Ten Tasks of Adolescence
Adjust to sexually maturing bodies and feelings.
Develop and apply abstract thinking skills.
Develop and apply a more complex level of perspective taking.
Develop and apply new coping skills in areas such as decision making, problem solving, and conflict resolution.
Identify meaningful moral standards, values, and belief systems.

5. Ten Tasks of Adolescence
Understand and express more complex emotional experiences.
Form friendships that are mutually close and supportive.
Establish key aspects of identity.
Meet the demands of increasingly mature roles and responsibilities.
Renegotiate relationships with adults and parenting roles.

6. The Five Basics of Parenting Adolescents
Love and Connect
Monitor and Observe
Guide and Limit
Model and Consult
Provide and Advocate
Project on the Parenting of Adolescents Center for Health Communication Harvard School of Public Health

7. Parenting With Love & Logic 101
What style of parent are you?

8. Helicopter Parent
Hovers over child and rescues child from the hostile world in which they live
Makes excuses for child
Protects child from any negative feelings or consequences
Makes decisions for the child

9. The Turbo Attack Helicopter Model
Same as a regular Helicopter Parent, except that this parent does not just rescue and defend, they will attack anyone else who holds their children accountable for their actions.

10. Drill Sergeant Commands and directs the life of the child
Makes many demands and issues orders and threats
Uses many harsh words and punishment
Tells the child how to feel and what to do

11. The Love & Logic Parent: Coach / Consultant
Provides guidance and consultant services for their children
Models for child
Makes sure the child owns the problem, and helps child explore alternatives and make decisions
Allows child to experience life’s natural consequences

12. Resources at IMS IMS 6th Grade School Counselors, Dru Klein (A-L)
Jayna Rubin (M-Z)
MIYFS, Counselor & Prevention Staff
Harry Brown, LMFT, CMHS
Tambi Cork, Prevention Educator
Teachers
Administrators

13. Online Resources
Raising Teens, Havard School of Education Raising Teens: The Ten Tasks of Adolescence/The Five Basics of Parenting Adolescents
Parenting With Love and Logic
Stop Bullying Now Information for parents, youth and educators.
Common Sense Media Social/Digital Media info
Dan Siegel: Name it to Tame it Understanding Emotions and the Brain