1. Appearance is especially important in which stages of a relationship?
Early
Middle
Late
Every stage; it is never unimportant

2. A large body of research confirms the fact that we like people who are _____ us, at least in most cases.
Different from
Similar to
Exactly like
Opposites of

3. Differences strengthen a relationship when they satisfy the other’s needs. These differences are called:
Symmetrical
Asymmetrical
Complementary
Symbiotic

4. Complementary attraction Reciprocal attraction
We are attracted to people who we believe are attracted to us. Conversely, we will probably not care for people who either attack or seem indifferent toward us. This kind of attraction is labeled as which of the following?
Proximity attraction
Mutual attraction
Complementary attraction
Reciprocal attraction

5. When it comes to initiating relationships, research finds that:
Online profile owners are rated more positively when they include pictures of attractive friends.
Online profile owners are rated less positively when they include pictures of attractive friends.
Online profile owners are rated more positively when they include pictures of themselves in a large crowd.
There was no correlation between online profiles and pictures included.

6. Similarity assessment
Revealing important information about yourself can help build liking. Sometimes the basis of this liking comes from learning about how we are similar, either in experiences or in attitudes. Our authors call this:
Disclosure
Self-talk
Competence
Similarity assessment

7. All of the following are true of attraction and similarity except:
We’re attracted to those whose language style matches our own
We’re attracted to those with similar financial strategies to ours
We’re attracted to others whose last names are similar to our own
All of these are true
Only choices 1 and 3 are true

8. Reciprocal attraction Lifestyle choice
We’re more likely to develop friendships with close neighbors than with distant ones, and the chances are good that we’ll choose a mate with whom we cross paths often. This phenomenon is referred to as:
Proximity
Closeness
Reciprocal attraction
Lifestyle choice

9. Some social scientists have argued that all relationships—both impersonal and personal—are based on a semi-economic model called social exchange theory. The basis of this model is:
Rewards – Costs = Outcome
Costs – Rewards = Outcomes
Outcomes – Liking = Rewards
Proximity + Availability = Love

10. A relationship model based on what you get out of a relationship compared to what you put in, or sacrifice, is called:
Scutz’s Theory of Interpersonal Needs
Johari Window
Social Exchange Theory
Dialectical Tensions

11. One of the ways to consider relationships is to think of them as “coming together” and “coming apart” as well as involving an activity called relational maintenance. Our authors refer to the systematic encapsulation of these ideas as:
Relational algorithms
Developmental models
Scientific relational explanations
Love stories

12. Initiating Bonding Experimenting Intensifying
After we have made contact with a new person, the next stage is to decide whether we are interested in pursuing the relationship further. This involves uncertainty reduction—the process of getting to know others by gaining more information about them. This stage is referred to as:
Initiating
Bonding
Experimenting
Intensifying

13. Bonding Differentiating Circumscribing Experimenting
According to your textbook, social networks like Facebook are more likely to shift the nature of which stage of relationship development?
Bonding
Differentiating
Circumscribing
Experimenting

14. Initiating Experimenting Intensifying Bonding
At which stage do couples spend about one-quarter of the time expressing their feelings directly, using metacommunication to discuss the state of the relationship as well as using less direct methods of communication: spending increasing amounts of time together, asking for support from one another, etc.
Initiating
Experimenting
Intensifying
Bonding

15. Intensifying Integrating Bonding Experimenting
As a relationship strengthens, the parties begin to take on an identity as a social unit. In romantic relationships, invitations even begin to come addressed to the couple. This occurs at which stage of coming together?
Intensifying
Integrating
Bonding
Experimenting

16. During the _____ stage, the parties make symbolic public gestures to show the world that their relationship exists.
Intensifying
Integrating
Experimenting
Bonding

17. Differentiating Circumscribing Bonding Disintegrating
Even in the most committed relationships people need to assert their individual identities. This activity is most likely going to occur in which stage?
Differentiating
Circumscribing
Bonding
Disintegrating

18. Differentiating Circumscribing Disintegration Stagnating
In the _____ stage, communication between members decreases in quantity and quality. Restrictions and restraints characterize this stage. Rather than discuss a disagreement, members opt for withdrawal.
Differentiating
Circumscribing
Disintegration
Stagnating

19. Differentiating Circumscribing Disintegration Stagnating
The excitement of the intensifying stage is long gone, and the partners behave toward each other in old, familiar ways without much feeling. No growth occurs. The relationship is a hollow shell of its former self. This description characterizes which stage of coming apart?
Differentiating
Circumscribing
Disintegration
Stagnating

20. Dialectical tension Dialog contention Dystopic struggles
Some suggest that communicators grapple with the same kinds of challenges whether a relationship is brand new or decades old. The struggle to achieve these goals creates conflicts that arise when two opposing or incompatible forces exist simultaneously. Communication scholars refer to this as:
Dialectical tension
Dialog contention
Dystopic struggles
Critical resistance

21. We seek out involvement with others but, at the same time, we are unwilling to sacrifice our entire identity to even the most satisfying relationship. This tension is called:
Openness versus Privacy
Connection versus Autonomy
Predictability versus Novelty
None of these choices is correct

22. Studies have found that satisfied couples negotiate and adhere to rules about cell phone use to help manage which dialectical tension?
Openness versus Privacy
Connection versus Autonomy
Predictability versus Novelty
Strategy versus Spontaneity

23. The predictability-novelty dialectic reflects which of the following tensions?
Stability is an important need in relationships, but too much of it can lead to feelings of staleness.
Along with the need to disclose, we have an equally important drive to maintain some space between others and ourselves.
When a loved one is in an extended period of declining health, the partner often feels torn between the desire to stay close and the need to let go.
All of these choices are correct

24. Researchers have identified five strategies that couples use to keep their interaction satisfying. Which of the following is not one of them?
Positivity
Openness
Assurances
Assuming different tasks

25. Lack of commitment, distance, disrespect, problematic emotions, and aggression are examples of:
Relational transgressions
Dialectical tensions
Stages in the relational models of coming apart
Examples of poor communication in relationships

26. Dialectical Communication Relational Paraverbal
In addition to content, almost every message—both verbal and nonverbal—has a second dimension that makes statements about how the parties feel toward one another. That dimension is called:
Dialectical
Communication
Relational
Paraverbal

27. Affinity, immediacy, respect, and control are dimensions of what kind of communication?
Relational
Verbal
Nonverbal
Paraverbal

28. _____ refers to the degree of interest and attention that we feel toward and communicate to others.
Affinity
Immediacy
Respect
Control

29. Social scientists use the term metacommunication to describe what kinds of messages that people exchange?
Communication about relationships
Communication about nonverbal cues
Communication about communication
Communication about philosophy

30. Two characteristics are true of every relationship
Two characteristics are true of every relationship. These characteristics are:
Relationships become static and grapple with the same kinds of challenges whether they are brand new or decades old.
Relationships become static and they are affected by culture.
Relationships are constantly changing and they are affected by culture.
Relationships are constantly changing and all relationships begin, progress, decline, and end in the same linear fashion.

31. An effective apology to right a wrong includes:
A sincere delivery
Acknowledgement that the transgression was wrong
Some kind of compensation
All of these

32. Although a combination of several strategies for managing dialectical tensions is optimal, research suggests that which three are generally most effective?
reaffirmation, recalibration, integration
balance, segmentation, alternation
denial, disorientation, disengagement
recalibration, reaffirmation, alternation

33. Which of the following was found to be true of online daters and lying?
Those who lie about their profile often avoid the first person pronoun “I”
Online liars write long, descriptive profiles of their “presenting” self
Online liars are most likely to lie about their age over other information about themselves
All of these were found to be true