1. IN MY OWN SWEET TIME: Making Time For Ourselves
MAMTA GAUTAM
MD, FRCPC, MOT

6. MAKING CHOICES Choose what you WANT to do
set priorities - self, family, work.
Choose what you CAN do
You can do everything you want, just not at the same time
PHASES

8. The Five Balls The Work Ball The Home and Family Ball
The Relationships Ball
The Friends Ball
The Self Care Ball

9. The SELF CARE Ball

10. SOLO TIME
Take time for yourself. Find a space where you do not have to be responsible for anyone or anything.
Ask for solitude; offer to partner
“Investment”

11. When I was young, I loved to…

12. If I had more time, I would …

13. What’s stopping you from doing that now?

14. What prevents me from doing what I would love to do is…

15. Or you spend your time meeting other people’s goals!
Set your goals
Or you spend your time meeting other people’s goals!

16. It’s not “How busy are you? It’s “What are you busy doing?”

17. Reasons why women do not set goals
Not convinced of the value of setting a goal for themselves
Too busy to think of one
Setting a goal implies a firm commitment
Fear of failure in reaching a goal
Are in a relationship, and are too busy helping partner with his goals
Fear of success, fear jealousy

18. Give yourself permission to take a break.
Let go of the guilt – 3 steps.
Investment.

19. Let’s do nothing.
How hard is this to do?

20. Why is it so hard to do nothing?
Empty time is associated with negative connotations – loss, need, desolation,
Being active and busy has Value, Virtue, Significance
Being busy is a defense – against grief, rage, anxiety, guilt, regret, sadness
-We don’t know what to do

21. How to Make Time Prioritizing – set this as a goal for yourself
Protecting – don’t try to convince others you need to do it. Just say you are “unavailable, booked, have other plans…”
Promise Keeping – write it down like a patient appointment. Follow through

22. Ways To Find More Time Delegate tasks and responsibilities
Group similar tasks eg. phone calls
Use technology, but limit it
Minimize time watching TV
Minimize interruptions; close your door
Get up minutes earlier
Buy time – clean, cook, paint, gardening

23. “Someday” is not an eighth day of the week.

24. “Me” Time What would I do with: 5-10 minutes 1 hour 2 hours Half-day
Full Day

25. With less than 30 minutes, I could…

26. With less than 30 minutes, I could…
Stop whatever I am doing. Breathe. Stretch
Mindful meditation
Read a magazine
Listen to my favorite song
Laugh out loud
Call a friend
Write in my journal
Drink more water. Go for a pee

27. With an hour, I could…

28. With an hour, I could… Read a book Take a walk Play music
Go to Starbucks
Practice yoga
Sleep

29. With a free half-day, I could…

30. With a free half-day, I could…
Exercise
Go to a spa
Play hooky.
Visit a museum
Browse around a bookstore
Fly a kite
Skinny dip

31. With a whole day free, I could…

32. With a whole day free, I could…
Ski
Go for a hike
Try out a new recipe
Go for a drive in the country
Go sailing
Not be available, and not check my or voice mail

33. Deal with your Guilt
Rule to follow