1. Building the Relationship with Your Mentee

2. In this module we will:
Learn about communication styles
Determine your communication style
Review what it means to be an engaged listener

3. GETTING TO KNOW YOUR MENTEE

4. Why is it important to discuss this?
Getting to Know Your Mentee
Why is it important to discuss this?
First encounters can be difficult/awkward
Mentors serve the role of relationship developer
Rapport and trust building

5. Talk about balancing school, work, and social life.
Getting to Know Your Mentee
How to Get Started…
Introduce yourself and ask your mentee about themselves (hobbies, favorite movies, books, music, family, community where you live, academic and career plans, etc.)
Ask mentees about their hobbies, favorite books, music, family, school, academic and career plans, etc.
Talk about balancing school, work, and social life.
Holmes, 2006

6. LISTENING SKILLS

7. When talking with your mentee… Be clear and specific
Listening Skills
When talking with your mentee…
Be clear and specific
Use open-ended questions
Provide supportive and positive guidance
Avoid lecturing or passing judgement
Guide your mentee through problem-solving process
Holmes, 2006

8. ASKING QUESTIONS

9. Examples… What do you think? Can you tell me how to do that?
Asking Questions
Examples…
What do you think?
Can you tell me how to do that?
What choices do you have?
How did you do that?
Who helped you make that decision?
Do you have any role models (teachers, family members, friends, historical figures, etc.) who have handled this type of situation in a positive way?
Are you happy with how things turned out?
What would you do differently if you were presented with the situation again?
Holmes, 2006

10. Asking Questions
Why is it so important? You may witness that overtime, a student will become more capable of problem solving. This is one way that you can recognize student development – when students become autonomous.

11. CONFIDENTIALITY

12. Confidentiality
Confidentiality… Successful mentors build trust and communication with their mentees.

13. Confidentiality
Things you should to do provide confidentiality… Verbally confirm with the mentee that their conversations are only between them and the program coordinator.

14. Confidentiality
Things you should to do provide confidentiality… Any information they share that is not related to their academic success or well-being will not be shared with the program coordinator.

15. Confidentiality
Things you should to do provide confidentiality… Assure the mentee that they can share anything with them, as they would with a close friend.

16. Provide supportive and positive guidance
Confidentiality
Confidentiality…
Be clear and specific
Open-ended questions
Provide supportive and positive guidance
Avoid lecturing or passing judgement
Guide through problem-solving process
Holmes, 2006

17. BOUNDARIES

18. Boundaries
Boundaries
You should go back to your Defining Your Role assignment and reconsider what you’re looking to get out of this relationship…

19. WHAT’S NEXT?

20. What’s Next?
Assignment and Quiz Navigate to the Assignment Page under the Building the Relationship with Your Mentee module and select the two assignments and complete as instructed. Then complete the quiz before moving on to the next module.