1. Bullying at School Quiz: Do you agree or disagree?
You’re a tattletale if you complain: this goes for kids and adults
It is not tattling to protect and assert your right to not be bullied. It is courageous - the bully wants you to be quiet!
Most bullies are boys
Most physical bullying occurs among boys. Most verbal bullying and shunning is caused by girls.
If a person is a bystander, they are not directly involved in the bullying
Bystanders are present in 70% of bullying incidents, they ARE just as involved.

2. Bullying at School Quiz: Do you agree or disagree?
Bullying doesn’t happen at our school
70% of students nationwide report being bullied in school, 15% on a regular basis
Bullying is a natural part of childhood
The height of bullying occurs between the 3rd & 8th grades. It is not natural, but is mean & cruel
“Sticks & stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Children can work it out on their own - through simple retorts like this
The emotional abuse of name-calling can lead to depression and even suicide

3. In a world without bullying…
School is a more peaceful place.
Students get better grades
Students feel better about being in school

4. The bullying triangle
bullies
victims
bystanders

5. In order to get power, they need:
Bullies want power BUT
In order to get power, they need:
victims
helpers
passive bystanders.

6. Reasons Why Someone Bullies
To gain power
To gain popularity and attention
To act out problems from home
To copy what someone else does that they look up to

7. Victims They are targets of the abuse.
They often have a hard time standing up for themselves.

8. LEAD BY EXAMPLE BYSTANDERS
They are the largest and most underused resource in our schools.
They are 85% of the school population - the silent majority.
Too often they ignore the violence and lose empathy towards the victims.
LEAD BY EXAMPLE

9. Why Don’t Bystanders Get Involved?
Fear of retaliation
Don’t know what to do
Afraid they’ll make things worse
Worry about losing their social status
Don’t believe that adults will help

10. Bullying is: Intentional, hurtful action against someone who has less power It is not normal conflict. It is not “just teasing”.

11. Normal Conflict vs. BULLYING Unequal power Equal Power
Usually your friend
Happens occasionally
Accidental
Not usually serious
BULLYING
Unequal power
Not usually your friend
Repeated negative actions
Happens on purpose
Serious hurt physically or emotionally

12. Hurtful Teasing Sensitive topic Purpose is to upset
Friendly Teasing vs
Equal power; friends
Neutral topic
Playful purpose
Purpose is to include
Funny
Hurtful Teasing
Imbalance of power,
not friends
Sensitive topic
Purpose is to upset
Purpose is to leave
out
Sarcastic

13. Telling vs. Tattling Unimportant Important
The situation is harmful or dangerous physically or psychologically
Need help from an adult to solve the issue
Your purpose is to keep people safe
The behavior is purposeful
Tattling
Unimportant
Harmless
You can handle it by yourself
Your purpose is to get someone in trouble
The behavior was accidental

14. You Decide: Joking? Teasing? Or Bullying?
Sonia recently moved to Lincoln Heights and just finished her first week at the local middle school. At 5 ft 8 in, she towered over most of the students in her 7th grade class. While looking for a place to sit, another student called to her, “Hey, shorty, there’s a spot over here!” Sonia paused for a moment and another girl from the group waved her over. “Don’t pay attention to her,” she told Sonia. “That’s just the way we talk to each other. They call me Einstein because I got all C’s on my last report card.”

15. You Decide: Joking? Teasing? Or Bullying?
For years, Nick has made fun of his best friend, Dave’s, peanut butter obsession. “You’d eat my gym sock if it was covered in peanut butter,” he once told Dave. One day in science lab, the students designed mazes to test the intelligence of white mice. When the teacher told the class that they would be baiting the mazes with peanut butter, Nick called out, “Better be careful - Dave might get to the end of the maze before the mice!” The other students broke out in laughter.

16. Bullying is a 3-headed beast
verbal
mental
physical

17. Verbal
It can include:
Name-calling, teasing, threatening, intimidating phone calls.
Racial and Ethnic Harassment:
Comments or actions containing racial or ethnic content which are unwelcomed and make the recipient uncomfortable.
Examples: ethnic jokes, racial name calling and racial slurs.

18. “Off Limit” Topics RACE ETHNICITY RELIGION GENDER APPEARANCE
SOCIAL STATUS
SEXUAL CONTENT

19. Mental Social/Relational Aggression:
Spreading rumors, excluding others
from your group.
Intimidation:
Graffiti, a dirty trick, taking possessions
Written Aggression:
Slam books, instant messaging, , note passing.

20. Physical punching pushing hitting kicking
destroying someone’s property

21. WE have the power to stop bullies.
WE have the power to make our school safe.
WE have the power to make HART even greater than it is.