1. Anti Bullying Presentation for Parents January 2018
1.9.17

2. Welcome
Purpose of this presentation: - To share some of the work that we have been doing with the pupils. - Share the children’s definitions of ‘bullying’. - To establish a shared understanding of ‘bullying’. - To share procedures for dealing with ‘bullying’.

3. Rationale Education Scotland inspection – November 2017
Questionnaires showed that:
5 pupils (P4-7) disagreed that the school helps them to feel safe.
3 parents (P1-7) disagreed that their child was safe at school.
Further exploration….’friendships, disagreements, falling out, bullying’.

4. What is Bullying? Working together: What do you think bullying is?
Define the key characteristics of bullying.

5. Bullying Definition
the repetitive, intentional hurting of one person or group by another person or group, where the relationship involves an imbalance of power. It can happen face to face or online.

6. Bullying
Bullying is repetitive. This means that the bully hurts someone over and over. It is not something that happens only once.
There is a difference between ‘bullying’ and ‘being mean or unkind’.

7. Symptoms of bullying Frightened of walking to and from school
Becoming withdrawn, anxious or lacking in confidence
Feels ill in the morning
Loss of appetite
Being unable to sleep
Possessions go ‘missing’
Asks for or steals money to ‘pay’ the bully
Is frightened to say what is wrong
Self harming

8. Bullying behaviour can be:
Physical – pushing, poking, kicking, hitting, biting, pinching etc.
Verbal  - name calling, sarcasm, spreading rumours, threats, teasing, belittling.
Emotional – isolating others, tormenting, hiding books, threatening gestures,  ridicule, humiliation, intimidating, excluding, manipulation and coercion.
Sexual – unwanted physical contact, inappropriate touching, abusive comments, homophobic abuse, exposure to inappropriate films etc.
Online /cyber – posting on social media, sharing photos, sending nasty text messages, sexting, social exclusion
Indirect - Can include the exploitation of individuals.

9. Cyber bullying
An Anti-Bullying Report (2017), compiled by a leading charity, found that the most common form of bullying now takes place online, with Instagram being reported as the most common, followed by Facebook and then Snapchat.
Many of our older children report that they have at least one of these accounts.

10. Pupil definitions of ‘bullying’
Bullying is something that is hurtful (P3 pupil)
When people gang up to hurt people (P7 pupil)
When people call people names (P7 pupil)
Fighting (P1 pupil)
Bullying is when someone keeps on annoying people repetitively (P7 pupil)
Somebody keeps on annoying people all the time (PSA)
Bullying is when someone is constantly picking on someone (P7 pupil)
Bullying is when someone is physically or mentally picking on them (P7 pupil)
When people keep calling you names every single day (P3 pupil)

11. More pupil definitions of bullying
Bullying is being bad (P1 pupil)
When someone is being mean over and over (PSA)
When someone constantly gets on at them (P5 pupil)
When someone annoys another kid (P4 pupil)
When someone is unkind all the time (P3 pupil)
Bullying can happen anywhere (P3 pupil)
Sending horrible messages about people online (P7 pupil)

12. Causes of Bullying behaviour
Children who are victims of domestic violence can become ‘bullies’ or be vulnerable to being bullied
Children can bully and be victim at the same time
May have witnessed a traumatic event
Influenced by media, family, wider community
Not always obvious, eg, cyber bullying
Possibly scared – peer pressure
Prejudiced motivated bullying

13. Some of the work we have done this week
P1-3
Recipe for a good friend
Friendship hand
Good friend/bad friend
Role play
Discussions
Analysis of thoughts/feelings/emotions

14. Some of the work we have done this week…..Theatre Group

15. Some of the work we have done this week…
P1-3
Recipe for a good friend
Friendship hand
Good friend/bad friend
Role play
Discussions
Analysis of thoughts/feelings/emotions

16. P1-3 activities

17. P4-7 Definition of ‘what is bullying?’ Discussions
Creation of ‘Anti-Bullying’ leaflet for parents
Role play – different scenarios
‘Choose kind’ written activity about what the children have learned so far

18. P4-7 activities

19. What does our school do to help?
Worry box
Staff at all levels are trained to be vigilant
Child protection
Class charters – devised by the children
Rights Respecting School
‘Emotion Works’
SHANARRI indicators
Targeted support from Pupil Equity Fund PSA
Support from other agencies
Health and Wellbeing curriculum
Open door policy

20. What does Maud school do to help keep me safe? (views of pupils)
The teachers and adults keep me safe in school (P6 pupil)
If people get hurt, teachers deal with it (P7 pupil)
The teachers talk to you about your feelings (P7 pupil)
The Head Teacher talks to mums (P5 pupil)
The school is enclosed and doors are locked (P7 and P3 pupils)
The teachers are there to help me (P3 pupil)
The PSA’s have walkie talkies (P7 pupil)
Monitors help in the playground (P5 pupil)
The teacher keeps me safe (P2 pupil)
The teachers are there (P4 pupil)

21. Steps that we take when responding to incidents of bullying
If bullying is suspected or reported, the class teacher (or receiving adult) will discuss this with the Head Teacher and logged in our reporting form.
If appropriate, the class teacher will discuss this with all concerned and a written record will be kept in our files.
If allegations are reported directly to the Head Teacher, she will keep the class teacher and support staff informed as appropriate.
The Head Teacher will investigate where necessary, meeting with and keeping parents updated as required. The school’s positive behaviour system will also support this.
Where situations are not resolved or keep occurring, the Head Teacher will seek the support of outside agencies – eg, Educational Psychologist, Behaviour Support Staff, Medical/Social Services or Police.

22. Getting it Right for Every Child Wellbeing indicators

23. What to do if you think your child is being bullied or is bullying
Parents who are concerned that their child is being bullied or is bullying others in school, should, in the first instance, contact the child’s class teacher or where appropriate, the Head Teacher.
Remain calm and rational, try not to get upset.
Listen to your child and talk through solutions with them.
Talk to your child about who they can go to and what they can do.
Work with and support the school to resolve the issue in conjunction with the school’s Anti-Bullying Policy. Allow them time to work through and resolve the issue.

24. Please… Do not tell your child to react or retaliate.
Do not tell your child to confide in another child – this only puts unnecessary pressure on our young people.
Use parental controls with electronic devices – monitor your child’s internet/gaming access on a regular basis.
Respect minimum age limits for social media use by youngsters – they are there for a reason.
Support the work being done in school with your child/ren.
Talk to your child regularly!
Keep ‘adult only’ conversations out of earshot of your child/ren.
Do not post comments on social media.

25. Useful information https://www.anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk/