1. Parenting With Love: Stepping Out of the Cultural Stream Dr. Peggy Kendall Bethel University

2. Busy Families

3. Default Values

4. 1.Identify the Trend 2.Discuss the impact 3.Model Healthy Choices

5. Things have changed

6. Busy Whats important Things Have Changed

7. Busyness McNuggets How do you see your life speeding up? How does a fast life impact your kids?

8. Proble m – Dont notice things – Dont notice people – Impatient – People = interruptions – No margins – Lack of commitment

10. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22-23

11. But the fruit of the Spirit is efficiency, productivity, being on time, the ability to multi-task and the ability to meet everyones needs in timely manner.

12. But the fruit of the Spirit is getting good grades, having tons of friends, being in lots of activities, looking good, and staying out of trouble.

13. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5:22-23

14. Solutions Figure out what is important Refine Combine Commit

15. Solutions Emphasize what is important Refine schedules Establish protected space Play ?

16. Alone Together

17. The Impact

18. Internet Use in 2000 46% of adults used the internet 5% had broadband 53% had cell phones 0% use social network sites

19. 2010 Internet Use

20. 2010 Cell Phone Use

21. 2010 Social Network Use

22. 65% of American households play video games The Top 5 Video Games: 1.Wii Sports (Wii) 2.Super Mario (NES) 3.Pokeman Red/Green/Blue (GB) 4.Tetris (GB) 5.Duck Hunt (NES)

23. Video Games

25. Alone Together ALONE TOGET HER Individualized Always On Dont think through things Miss the here & now Limit the power of God

26. Solutions Consider the impact Model good choices Set limits Talk about it Play together Learn to be quiet

27. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he restores my soul.

28. What can you do to slow down? How can you protect family time? How can you foster love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control in your kids? What can YOU do right now to role model these characteristics?