1. Welcome to a simple conflict resolution!

2. Are you a person that wants to: Save time? Reduce the amounts of conflict you deal with? Have a simple process to resolve conflicts? Have kids/adults take responsibility for resolutions? Increase student attendance? Reduce the amount of violence at your school? Have more productive conflict resolution?

3. What to avoid:

4. What is in the picture? What do you see? What do you feel? What do you see? What do you feel?

5. Instead of condemning [conflict], we should set it to work for us…All polishing is done by friction. The music of the violin we get by friction. We left the savage state when we discovered fire by friction. We talk of the friction of mind on mind as a good thing…That is what I wish to consider here, whether or not we can set conflict to work and make it do something for us! Mary Parker Follett, 1926

6. Vowel POWER!= AEIOU A conflict resolution format for kids of ALL ages by Lance Todd September 18, 2008 Seward Elementary School lance.todd@connectseward.or g A conflict resolution format for kids of ALL ages by Lance Todd September 18, 2008 Seward Elementary School lance.todd@connectseward.or g

7. A = Agree to talk Ask Can I talk to you? TWO ANSWERS: 1. Yes 2. Anything else= When can I talk to you? Ask Can I talk to you? TWO ANSWERS: 1. Yes 2. Anything else= When can I talk to you?

8. E = Experience Calm Watch and listen for a calm voice AND body If someone is not calm, ask them when would be a good time to talk *RULE: Must talk before the end of the school day, no matter what! Watch and listen for a calm voice AND body If someone is not calm, ask them when would be a good time to talk *RULE: Must talk before the end of the school day, no matter what!

9. I =I message I feel __________ (when ____________). I would like __________. * Avoid the words I dont likeand you when possible! THE LISTENER REFLECTS THE MESSAGE BACK in whole or paraphrase. I feel __________ (when ____________). I would like __________. * Avoid the words I don t like and you when possible! THE LISTENER REFLECTS THE MESSAGE BACK in whole or paraphrase.

10. O =Open Talk This is where kids resolve accusations, disagreements with what the other person wants, or request alternate ideas.

11. U =Unite Bring the problem-solving process to a close 1. Handshake 2. High five 3. Hug Bring the problem-solving process to a close 1. Handshake 2. High five 3. Hug

12. Now its Time To PRACTICE! Give kids of all ages every opportunity to practice and throw them every REAL curve possible after theyve mastered the basics. Give kids of all ages every opportunity to practice and throw them every REAL curve possible after theyve mastered the basics.

13. A= Agree to talk Can I Talk To yOU? E= Experience Calm I= I message I fEEL ____. I Would LIke ____. O= Open Talk U= Unite handshake, High Five, Hug

14. REFERENCES: Bodine, R. & Crawford, D. (1996) Conflict Resolution Education. Office of Elementary and Secondary Education. Conflict Managers, Sunburst Media. Conflict Resolution: Understanding the Theory, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.mindtools.com/pages/article/www.mindtools.com newLDR_81.html Conflict Resolution, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.co-operation.org/pages/conflict.htmlwww.co-operation.org/pages/conflict.html Bodine, R. & Crawford, D. (1996) Conflict Resolution Education. Office of Elementary and Secondary Education. Conflict Managers, Sunburst Media. Conflict Resolution: Understanding the Theory, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.mindtools.com/pages/article/www.mindtools.com newLDR_81.html Conflict Resolution, retrieved September 12, 2008 from www.co-operation.org/pages/conflict.htmlwww.co-operation.org/pages/conflict.html