1. What skills do you think you will need to be a good parent?
Bell Ringer:
What skills do you think you will need to be a good parent?
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2. Parenting Skills
Parenting – Unit 3
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3. Define terms related to parenting skills (3.1)
Objective:
Define terms related to parenting skills (3.1)
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4. Unit 3 Vocabulary Terms
Authoritarian: A parenting style where parents are highly demanding and controlling with little or no affection
Consistent: Repeatedly acting the same way
Democratic: the leader shares, is people-oriented, and is open-minded
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5. Unit 3 Vocabulary Terms
Discipline: Training that corrects, molds, and perfects one’s actions
Dysfunctional Family: family system in which one or more family members do not fulfill their responsibilities, throwing the system out of balance
Guidance: Help in learning acceptable behavior
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6. Unit 3 Vocabulary Terms
Negative Reinforcement: A response that tends to discourage a particular behavior from being repeated
Nurture: Providing love, support, attention, and encouragement
Permissive: A type of behavior allowing freedom, behavior that is tolerant of practices disapproved of by others
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7. Unit 3 Vocabulary Terms
Positive Reinforcement: A response that encourages a particular behavior
Potential: What a person is capable of becoming
Punishment: A penalty inflicted on a child for a violation
Responsibility: An obligation or duty for which a person is held accountable
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8. Unit 3 Vocabulary Terms
Rights: A special privilege, benefit, or personal favor to which one is entitled
Self-Concept: The mental picture people have of themselves; their opinion about themselves
Self-Control: The ability to control one's actions
Value: Ideas about right and wrong and what is important in your life
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9. Activity
Write a short poem incorporating 10 of the vocabulary words from Unit 3.
We will share these in a few moments.
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10. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Bell Ringer:
You will be sharing your poem today. Be prepared!
In the day and age we’re in, it seems that our rights are constantly being taken away. What do you think a parent’s right is regarding his/her children?
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11. Objective: List rights and responsibilities of parents (3.2)
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12. Parenting RIGHTS (3.2.1): Choose where children live
Control care and upbringing
Make education and medical decisions
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13. What are the responsibilities of parents (3.2.2)?
Meet basic needs
Nurture
Protect
Fulfill children’s intellectual, emotional and social needs
To promote moral development
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14. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs
When you reach your full potential
Gender, breathing, food, water, sleep, homeostasis, excretion
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15. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Bell Ringer:
How are you going to find the balance between what YOU want and what your KIDS want?
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16. List rights and responsibilities of children (3.3)
Objective:
List rights and responsibilities of children (3.3)
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17. What are your rights as a child? (3.3.1)
Adequate standard of living
Freedom from discrimination
Highest possible standard of health
Healthy and safe environment
Education
Protection from abuse and neglect
Expression of personal feelings
Age-appropriate rules set by caring parents
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18. What are your responsibilities as a child? (3.3.2)
To show respect
To abide by your parents’ rules
To be trustworthy and honest
To care for possessions
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19. Answer the following:
A: Write your greatest accomplishment to date in your life. B: Write the dumbest thing you ever did. C: Name one person who has influenced you the most for the good. D: Write down a place that is very special to you. E: Write one characteristic you look for in a true friend. F: Write the one thing you like best about yourself.
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20. Share time!!
Just as each of you are special and unique, your are each going to have your own unique parenting style.
Your personality, family, and history help shape you into the person and parent you will become.
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21. Bell Ringer: How would you describe your parents’ parenting style?
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22. Objectives: Describe parenting styles (3
Objectives: Describe parenting styles (3.4) Compare parenting styles (3.4.1)
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23. General approach to raising children
PARENTING STYLE:
General approach to raising children
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24. Describe Parenting Styles (3.4)
Authoritarian
Emphasize obedience
Clearly defined standards of behavior
MY WAY OR THE HIGHWAY!
Authoritative (Democratic)
Set rules and explain them
Kids have a say in things, but parent is still the authority
Permissive
Allows freedom
Behavior is tolerant of practices disapproved of by others
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25. Compare parenting styles (3.4.1)
Give one example of when the authoritarian style would be most appropriate.
Give one example of when the authoritative (democratic) style would be most appropriate.
Give one example of when the permissive style would be most appropriate.
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26. What’s the long term effect…
Of a child raised by an authoritarian?
Of a child raised by an authoritative (democratic) parent?
Of a child raised by a permissive parent?
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27. Bell Ringer:
If you won the lottery what would you do with your winnings?
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28. Objectives:
Explain the importance of parents as positive role models (3.5)
Compile traits of a positive role model (3.5.1)
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29. Just a thought… What does this mean?
The footprints in which children walk, are often the ones the parents are trying to cover up.
What does this mean?
What does this indicate concerning the importance of parents as positive role models?
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30. Importance of Parents as Role Models
Children learn from their parents…
How to Manage Resources
How to Share Responsibilities
How to Communicate
Parents Teach Moral Standards:
compassion~respect~justice~responsibility honesty~integrity~ equality
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31. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Bell Ringer:
Why is a nurturing environment so important?
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32. Objectives: Describe the importance of a nurturing environment (3.6)
Determine ways to promote a positive self concept in children (3.6.1)
Determine the relationship between nurturing and the fulfillment of potential (3.6.2)
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33. WHY? Why is a nurturing environment so important?
Because it’s your absolute—your norm, your way of life, your truth…it’s what you expect, it’s WHO you become.
A nurturing environment aids in a child’s development. What happens without a nurturing environment?
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34. CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE
If children live with criticism,
they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility,
they learn to fight.
If children live with ridicule,
they learn to be shy.
If children live with shame,
they learn to feel guilty.
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35. If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.
If children live with encouragement,
they learn to have confidence.
If children live with praise,
they learn to appreciate.
If children live with fairness,
they learn justice.
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36. If children live with security, they learn to have faith.
If children live with approval,
they learn to like themselves.
If children live with acceptance and friendship,
they learn to find love in the world.
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37. Building a Positive Self-Concept (3.6.1)
Be accepting
Correct misbehavior
Criticize the behavior,
not the child
4. Offer praise appropriately
5. Offer help tactfully
6. Commend effort, not necessarily achievement

38. Building a Positive Self-Concept (continued)
Allow healthy risks and mistakes
Avoid comparisons
Encourage participation
Model appropriate self esteem
Give children time, attention and respect

39. Review/Reflection:
What are you going to do to build your child’s self-esteem?

40. Bell Ringer:
Write down the first word that comes to your mind when you see each of the following:
Discipline
Guidance
Punishment
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41. Objective:
Explain the role of guidance, discipline & punishment in parenting roles (3.7)
Compare and contrast guidance, discipline and punishment (3.7.1)
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42. Compare and Contrast (3.7.1)
Discipline
Guidance
Punishment
Training that corrects, molds and perfects one’s actions
*Positive reinforcement
*Negative reinforcement
Help in learning acceptable behavior
A penalty inflicted on a child
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43. What are the goals of guidance (discipline)?
Help children develop self-discipline.
Develop a good self-confidence, self-esteem and self-concept.
Become independent.
Get along with others.
Develop good character.
Become a responsible adult.
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44. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Objective: Designate guidance techniques for promoting positive behavior (3.8)
Parents should…
Parent with Consistency
Adopt a Parenting Style and stick with it
Start Young
Figure out what really Matters
Have Age Appropriate Expectations
Set CLEAR limits
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45. Setting Practical Guidelines:
Keep limits reasonable
Make sure limits have a teaching or a guiding purpose
Expand limits as children gain maturity
Consider the individual child
Consider the setting
Make limits consistent
Make limits specific
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46. Encouraging Positive Behavior
Modeling (monkey see, monkey do)
Teaching and Coaching
Positive Reinforcement
Praise (sparingly)
Record their Achievements (sticker wall)
Be…
Specific
Sincere
Timely
Selective
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47. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Bell Ringer:
What will you do when you catch your kid lying to you?
How will you react and discipline them?
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48. Be PROACTIVE—not Reactive
Prevent problems before they begin by…
Providing a child-friendly environment
(Put your hairspray away so they don’t spray it in their face)
Redirect their attention
(Oh, look at this!)
Offer constructive activities
(Give them something to DO)
Offer choices
(When applicable)
Avoid problem situations
(Make them take naps, avoid going places when they’re tired, hungry or sick)
Supervise children
(Don’t let them play with scissors by themselves)
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49. Bell Work:
What do you think the difference is between being PROACTIVE and being REACTIVE?
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51. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Designate guidance techniques for promoting positive behavior (continued)
Before you can promote positive behavior, you must understand negative behavior.
Why do kids act up?
Parents must realize that all kids will act up from time to time. Figuring out WHY and HOW TO PREVENT this are the two keys to promoting positive behavior.
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52. Possible Reasons for Negative Behavior (not the entire list!)
Inconsistent guidance
Never been told
Do not understand the rules
Have not mastered self-control
Is tired, sick or hungry
Is testing the limits
Is bored
Is trying to get attention
Has a physical or emotional problem
Is involved in drug or alcohol use
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53. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Things to consider…
Behaviors are related to a child’s age
We should still love the child even if we don’t appreciate the actions.
We should analyze the behavior.
Where is the child developmentally?
Was this within their control to prevent?
Does the child know this is wrong?
Was the child following rules that were set?
Was this intentional?
What might have made them do this?
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54. Appropriate Responses
Ignore the behavior (minor issues)
Redirect the behavior
Give reminders
Use natural consequences (results that flow naturally from a behavior)
Impose logical consequences (consequences imposed by a parent that make sense)
Use time out (most boring place in the house)
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55. Logical Consequence Guidelines:
Consequences should be…
Related to the undesirable behavior.
Important to the child.
Proportional to the behavior.
Timely.
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56. Inappropriate Responses
DO NOT:
Make idle threats
Shame or belittle the child
Yell or use harsh words
Withhold love
DO:
Manage your own anger (see p. 508)
Admit and apologize when you make a mistake
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57. Good Parents… Know how children develop Know what to expect
Consider what they WOULD do so they are prepared when it DOES happen
Never forget what it was like to be a kid
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58. 1) Inappropriate Language? Page 509
How would you handle…
1) Inappropriate Language?
Page 509
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59. Inappropriate Language
Model appropriate language
Don’t respond with shock
Suggest alternative words
Don’t laugh or give them attention
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60. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
How would you handle…
2) Lying?
Page 509
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61. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Lying
How to prevent lying:
Model honesty
Lead them to the truth
Understand kids make mistakes
Praise truthfulness
Explain why they shouldn’t lie
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62. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
How would you handle…
3) Aggression?
Page 510
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63. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Aggression
Recognize appropriate social behavior
Never reward aggressive behavior
Refuse to tolerate aggressive behavior
Never use aggression in response
Help children control aggressive impulses
Seek professional help for children
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64. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Aggression
If a child is overly aggressive towards all types of people, then you may want to seek professional help.
Never use aggression in response towards children because the child starts showing acts of aggression.
If a child makes a mess—don’t try to discipline them with aggression.
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65. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
How would you handle…
4) Cheating?
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66. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Cheating
Encourage them to study so they don’t have to cheat.
Don’t put pressure on them to be perfect at everything they do.
Parents should explain to them cheating is wrong and letting people cheat off of them is wrong.
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67. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
How would you handle…
5) Stealing?
Page 511
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68. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Stealing
Teach them not to take things that don’t belong to them.
Follow the GOLDEN RULE!
Don’t take people’s things if you don’t want yours taken.
Usually, when children reach the stage at which they understand stealing, then they understand right from wrong.
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69. Bell Ringer:
As a high school student, SHOULD your parents be involved in your education?
WHY or WHY NOT?
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71. Objectives: Name roles parents play in children’s education (3.9)
Explain ways parents can be actively involved in their child’s education (3.9.1)
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72. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
What role?
What role does a parent play in a child’s life when they are…
Preschool
K-5th
6th-8th
9-12th
Postsecondary
What is the common denominator among successful students—involved parents!
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73. How can a parent be involved? (3.9.1)
Take advantage of teachable moments
Provide encouragement
Facilitate adjustments to school
Provide a homework friendly environment
Interact with a child’s teachers
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74. Objectives:
Name guidelines for establishing a strong family unit (3.10)
Compile a list of guidelines (3.10.1)
Compare and contrast strong families versus dysfunctional families (3.10.2)
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75. HOW do you establish a strong family?
Families are only as strong as the weakest person…build one another up.
Be an encouragement to others, and surround yourself with people who share your values.
Communicate, trust, respect, and love one another for who you are—imperfections and all.
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76. Guidelines for a strong family (3.10.1)
Express love and acceptance
Spend time together
Practice effective communication
Share family rituals and traditions
Build trust
Demonstrate respect
Other: ____________________
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77. Mrs. Sheri Deaton--WHHS--2011/12
Bell Ringer:
Describe the kind of family you want to have some day.
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78. Strong vs. Dysfunctional Families (3.10.2)
Strong Families
Meet needs
Trust one another
Communicate
Dysfunctional Families
Fail to meet one or more needs
Distrust one another
Little to no communication
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79. Philosophy of Parenting
Application:
Philosophy of Parenting
Write your philosophy of parenting, including statements such as: “I believe that a parent should/should not…” or “To me, parenting means…”
Use proper paragraph formation, in 5 paragraph essay format.
(Introductory paragraph, three philosophies, concluding paragraph)
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