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3. What do coaching and positive psychology have to do with each other?•
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4. How do you define success?•
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Habit 1:
Believe You Can Do It
How you explain your success and failures predicts more about your potential than you think. •
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6. What’s your “thinking style”? Fixed Mindset vs. Growth Mindset
Habit 1:
Believe You Can Do It
What’s your “thinking style”?
Fixed Mindset vs. Growth Mindset •
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7. yourself permission to hope for?
Habit 1:
Believe You Can Do It
Coaching Question:
What do you need to give
yourself permission to hope for? •
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8. Habit 2: Get Off the Hedonic Treadmill
Why are we poor predictors of our own happiness and how you can get it right. •
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9. Habit 2: Get Off the Hedonic Treadmill
Women, on average, are less happy than 40 years ago •
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10. Habit 2: Get Off the Hedonic Treadmill
Women, on average, are less happy than 40 years ago
Happiness set point and what’s in your control •
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11. Habit 2: Get Off the Hedonic Treadmill
Women, on average, are less happy than 40 years ago
Happiness set point and what’s in your control
Expectations and the problem with comparing “up” •
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12. Habit 2: Get Off the Hedonic Treadmill
Women, on average, are less happy than 40 years ago
Happiness set point and what’s in your control
Expectations and the problem with comparing “up”
Create your own happiness action plan •
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13. What simple change could bring you the most joy right now?
Habit 2:
Get Off the Hedonic Treadmill
Coaching Question:
What simple change could bring you the most joy right now? •
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14. Habit 3: Stop Trying to Fix Your Weaknesses
Why you should stop obsessing about what’s wrong with you and start building on what’s right? •
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15. When are you at your best?
Habit 3:
Stop Trying to Fix Your Weaknesses
When are you at your best? •
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16. Habit 3: Stop Trying to Fix Your Weaknesses Coaching Question:
In what way are you more focused on weaknesses than strengths? •
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17. Habit 4: Build Your Muscle of Self Control
Why your talent isn’t enough and how to develop the trait that will take you to the top. •
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18. Habit 4: Build Your Muscle of Self Control Discipline trumps talent•
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19. Habit 4: Build Your Muscle of Self Control Discipline trumps talent
Instant gratification is an enticing B12 shot. Beware! •
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20. What’s the one consistent action you will take towards your vision?
Habit 4:
Build Your Muscle of Self Control
Coaching Question:
What’s the one consistent action you will take towards your vision? •
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21. Habit 5: Be Prepared for Battle
Skill #1: Build Self-Awareness using “TTR”
When you change your thinking, you change your life!
Think of a recent, vivid, specific, adverse event, whether small or large. •
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Habit 5:
Be Prepared for Battle
Trigger - the event, conversation, challenge that cause the stress or problem •
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Habit 5:
Be Prepared for Battle
Trigger - the event, conversation, challenge that cause the stress or problem
Thoughts - what you say to yourself in the heat of the moment •
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Habit 5:
Be Prepared for Battle
Trigger - the event, conversation, challenge that cause the stress or problem
Thoughts - what you say to yourself in the heat of the moment
Reactions - emotions and actions) •
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25. What is TTR and Why is it Important?
Trigger  Thoughts  Reactions
Thoughts create reactions. If you can be aware of your thoughts, you can change them and ultimately change your reactions to the challenges and adversity that comes your way. •
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26. Thought  Reaction Connections
Thoughts
Reactions (Emotions and Actions)
Positive outlook (things can/will improve)
Hope, optimism, energy, action
Appreciation for what you’ve been given (I value what’s been given to me)
Gratitude, contribution, paying it forward
Positive contribution (I made a difference/contributed)
Pride, confidence, sharing, planning
Danger (something bad will happen)
Anxiety, fear
Loss (I have lost something that matters to me)
Sadness, depression, withdrawal, mourning
Trespass (I have been violated, a boundary has been crossed)
Anger, retaliation, resentment, aggression
Causing harm (I have caused harm or pain)
Guilt, shame, regret, apologizing, compensating
Negative comparisons (I don’t measure up)
Embarrassment, hiding, striving to prove self •
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27. Habit 6: Cultivate Positive Emotion
How a surprising but easily formula will save your relationships and transform your life. •
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28. Habit 6: Cultivate Positive Emotion Positive can undo negative.•
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29. Habit 6: Cultivate Positive Emotion Positive can undo negative.
Make decisions in a positive frame of mind. •
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30. Habit 6: Cultivate Positive Emotion Positive can undo negative.
Make decisions in a positive frame of mind.
Build your emotional bank account. •
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31. Habit 6: Cultivate Positive Emotion
Coaching Question: What or who makes you laugh? What games do you like to play? •
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Habit 7:
Don’t Be a “Maximizer”
How overabundance can rob you of satisfaction and make you ineffective. •
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Habit 7:
Don’t Be a “Maximizer”
Embrace the idea of having enough. Don’t leave behind good enough in pursuit of the best. •
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Habit 7:
Don’t Be a “Maximizer”
Embrace the idea of having enough. Don’t leave behind good enough in pursuit of the best.
Own your choices and leave behind regret. •
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Habit 7:
Don’t Be a “Maximizer”
Embrace the idea of having enough. Don’t leave behind good enough in pursuit of the best.
Own your choices and leave behind regret.
Be decisive and don’t second-guess your decisions. •
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Habit 7:
Don’t Be a “Maximizer”
Coaching Question: In what ways are you a maximizer? Give a specific example of how this tendency has shown up recently and wasted time or resources. •
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Habit 8:
Don’t Go It Alone
Why authentic connections are more important than ever and how you can cultivate them. •
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Habit 8:
Don’t Go It Alone
Strong relationships increase your resilience. •
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Habit 8:
Don’t Go It Alone
Strong relationships increase your resilience.
Daily social interaction is essential for your well-being. •
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Habit 8:
Don’t Go It Alone
Coaching Question:
Among your closest confidants, what specific step could you take to strengthen each of those relationships? •
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Habit 9:
Write it Down
The revealing reasons you need to tap into the power of the pen starting today. •
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Habit 9:
Write it Down
Writing a goal down on paper dramatically increases the likelihood you will achieve it. •
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Habit 9:
Write it Down
Writing a goal down on paper dramatically increases the likelihood you will achieve it.
Writing about your life goals is good for your health and has been proven to strengthen your immune system. •
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Habit 9:
Write it Down
Coaching Question:
What is the biggest challenge you face today? Will you try writing through it and see what you discover? •
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45. What are Your Happiness Triggers?
Anticipation
Smiling
Service
Gratitude
Connection
Flow
Play
Relaxation
Financial Savvy
Winning Words
Movement
Savoring
Purpose •
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