1. Write down 5 goals you have for yourself in the next 5-6 years
academic, jobs, social, sports etc.
Keep these goals in mind as we discuss “dating” today.
Before we begin...

2. Like we said a few days ago
Like we said a few days ago...you guys are at the age where you are beginning to be interested in other people (some of you have already started 😍 )
Let’s review what healthy and unhealthy relationships look like…
HEALTHY UNHEALTHY

4. What are some important things to consider when beginning to date?

5. The Three T’s of Teen Dating
TIME - Be with that person as often as you can (within reason)
TALK - Get to know as much as you can about that person
TOGETHER- Be with that person in multiple different situations (around family, friends, in public, etc.)

6. In groups

7. Let’s talk about boundaries
Sometimes when we are “twitterpated,” we make choices that we normally wouldn’t make.
This is why it is so important to establish your boundaries BEFORE you start dating.

8. What is a boundary?
Guidelines, rules, or limits that a person sets in order to protect him or herself.
Think of them like laws - they are there to protect us, and keep us safe!

9. Why are boundaries important?
They allow us privacy and comfort in our relationships.
They allow us to respect ourselves, and respect the rights of others
They allow us to develop healthy, strong and meaningful relationships

10. How do we set boundaries?
Talk to parents and family members about dating expectations
Determine what is important to you
Decide now!
What you will say
How you will act
What you will do
……..when faced with a decision to make in regards to your boundaries!

11. Boundaries Activity
Using the worksheet provided, you will be establishing some dating boundaries/standards.
In class, you will only be filling out the left hand column (You column).
I will give you minutes in class.
As homework (yes, homework), you will be asking your parents the same questions. If there are any items you don’t agree on, discuss them with one another.
Your parent will need to sign the bottom of this assignment.

12. Love yourself!

13. Let me entertain you* I will split the class into four teams
Each person, on each team will get a turn
When it is your turn, you will roll the dice
According to what number is on your dice, that corresponds with an activity you must do
points
Do what the dice says: 10 pts
If you want another option, you can roll again, and if you do that, you get 7 pts
Your third roll is only worth 5 pts
If you decide not to, you get 0 pts
After everyone has gone, the team with the most points wins!!
Let me entertain you*

14. If you roll a ... Sing “I’m a little teapot” Opera style
You are an aerobics instructor and must lead the class in a 30 second routine
Walk the “catwalk” around the room to “Dancing Queen”
4. Pretend you are the Crocodile Hunter, and you are being filmed on a hunt
5. Make up a rap about the end of school
6. Pull the ugliest face you have ever made and hold it for 10 seconds

15. Teen Pregnancy

16. Sex Has a Price Tag

18. What stood out to you?

19. Part two:

20. What else stood out to you?
Effects Boys too!
Adoption
What else stood out to you?

21. Parenthood is the leading reason that teen girls drop out of school.
More than 90% of teen mothers never graduate from high school.
more facts..

22. Now that we know possible educational outcomes for teens...

23. What kind of jobs can a person get without a college degree?
What about without a high school degree?

24. Typically, the less education a person has, the less money they make.

25. How much does it cost to raise a child?
The average cost of raising a child born in 2013 up until age 18 for a middle-income family in the U.S. is approximately $245,340

26. Think back to everything today
Think back to everything today...or this week that your parent (s) have done for you.
Did they make you breakfast? Help you find the things you need for today? Wash your clothes? Get you off to school? Give you lunch money or pack a lunch for you? Pick you up from school? Help you with homework? Make you dinner? Ran errands to buy groceries, pay bills? Worked to pay for where you live? Bought gas for the car you ride in?Make any doctor appointments? Pick up medications or prescriptions? Listened to you vent frustrations? Clean your house? Feed your pets?
Now imagine your busy teen life right now, ..on top of everything a parent has to do.
Parenting

27. Think back to the goals you wrote..
I asked you to think of some goals you have while in middle/high school
(the next 5-6 years?)
What were some of your goals?

28. Now.. After sharing some of your goals, look at them again.
If you found out you were pregnant today, or got someone pregnant…
How would that change your goals?

29. Who would you have to tell?
Parents, Coaches, Religious leaders, teachers, family members….

30. Parenting is an amazing thing..at the right time!
Other options for Teen Moms...
Parenting is an amazing thing..at the right time!
Enjoy being a teenager..while you are a teenager!
Teen mothers can also choose to place their child up for adoption!

31. Adoption
Adoption blesses the lives of many families who are not able to have children
(remember learning about male and female anatomy)

32. Newborn Safe Haven Law
Designed to prevent the tragic situation where a woman abandons her newborn baby in an unsafe place, putting the infant in danger

33. The only 100% guaranteed way to avoid teen pregnancy and STD’s is to remain sexually abstinent!
Remember..

34. You will choose a slip of paper out of the envelope, with occupations/jobs
Given your salary, you have to determine your monthly budget, with all the given bills that are realistically needed to live
You will have some choices to make, regarding your income and what you want
REAL LiFE
ACTIVITY

35. What did you realize? What was hard?
Did you have to make any sacrifices?
What did you realize?