1. Mentoring & Big Sister Training
Molly Salisbury//

2. What is a mentor?

3. Coach // Advocate // mentor
Tells others what to do
Pushes to make people better by fixing mistakes
Advocate
Cheerleader
Your voice when you aren’t in the room
Provides opportunity
Mentor
Realistic aspiration
Provides advice, not direction

4. What is a sorority Big Sister?

5. Big sister Thoughtful Mentor and guide Relationship building
Intentional in timing of taking a littler
It’s a time (and sometimes financial) commitment!
Create a sense of belonging
Mentor and guide
Not just for social media posts
Impart words of wisdom
Share ins and outs of sorority experience
Be a good role model
Exhibit positive behavior
Relationship building
Maintain friendship
Keep in touch
Kind, nonjudgmental, and excited

6. How are Mentoring and being a Big sister Related?

7. Mentoring and Big Sister Experience
Value of near peer advice
Theory from Babson College & Susan Duffy
You can learn just as much from someone who’s just a few years older as you can from someone who is 15 – 20 years older
You have good advice to give and have influence over others
You get out what you put in
Take time to learn about someone and help them meet their goals
Creates the “family” feel
Need a group of women who support you
If you put in good, you get good out
Mentoring feels great
Can see the rewards of your little and her success
You feel better after helping someone out and seeing them succeed
Investing in relationships pays off
Mentoring teaches you how to be a mentee
Recognize the need to share big and small victories with mentor because your little might share those with you
Handwritten thank you not goes a long way

8. Six tips for being a mentor
Be yourself
Know why you’re here
And what you hope to provide
Understand how you impact
Remember you’re always a role model
Helping is why you’re there, not fixing

9. Activity

10. Reminders

11. Things to Keep in mind
Look back on Sisterhood Day during recruitment. Did your chapter talk about gifts or big/little week?
Make sure someone who trust is delivering your gifts – you are responsible for their behavior so choose wisely!
Gifts are not competition between you and your sisters
During delivery weeks, and always, be respectful to the Residence Life staff
Remember gifts cannot be left at the resident hall desks
Women should never be asked to perform at task, sing a song, answer a question, etc. to receive her gift.
No! Women talked about how influential their sisters have been in their college experience and how they have always been there for them. Gifts are fun, but far from the most important part of being someone big sister
3. Number of gifts or value of gifts should be reasonable and not an opportunity for one-upping each other
4 & 5. We need to be good neighbors, partners, etc.
6. Asking a women do anything, even if she is okay with it, to receive a gift is hazing. Again you responsible for the contents of your gift and behavior of those delivering, so make sure you can trust them!

12. Questions // Comments // Thoughts