1. The Sandwich Generation of Care
Parenting Our Children And Our Parents
Presented by:
ABC Home Care Services, Inc.

2. SQUEEZE
Adult Children are Squeezed between the needs of their aging parents and demands of their own children, spouses, work and/or career.

3. Feels like a Double Decker Sandwich!
39 year old:
75 + year old parents/children 0-20.
55 year old:
80+ year old parent/children 10-37

4. Can You Relate? Home work After-school activities
Doctor or Dental appointments
Meal prep
House cleaning
Career
Monitoring health and medications
Finances
Assistance with activities of daily living
Family mediator

5. Family Caregiving
Nearly a quarter (23.9%) of U.S. Households are now involved in caring for an elderly family member of relative, spending an average of 20 hours a week in care giving related chores.
The average caregiver is 57. More than one in three are older than 65.
80% of caregivers are not paid to provide assistance seven days a week, however, they do.

6. Caregiving is a Woman’s Issue!

7. 72% of caregivers are female. (wives and or daughters)
Nearly 65% are also employed outside the home.
Expect to spend 18 years helping an aging parent.
Approximately 90% will be caregivers.

8. Family Caregiving (cont.)
More than 60% of all family caregivers say they have suffered from depression.
Long distance caregivers miss 15 million days of work each year (National Council on Aging)
Long-term family care giving takes a significant toll on workers. Lost productivity, absenteeism interruptions and replacing employees due to elder care, costs American business in excess of $11.4 billion annually.

9. Generational Needs What their children want and need.
What they want and need.
What their parents want and need.

10. Children Wants and Needs:
Independence
Respect
Sounding Board
Patience
Guideline Flexibility
Acceptance
Money
Support
Security
Unconditional Love
Make Choices
Control of Own Life

11. What Caregivers Want & Need:
Help
Appreciation
Pressure off
“My turn”
Independence
Listing Ear
Acceptance
Time with others my own age
Solitude
Space
Unconditional Love
Control of own life

12. Parent Wants and Needs:
Acceptance
Independence
Respect
Control
Sharing
Involvement
Emotional Support
Interpersonal relations
Interaction
Inclusion
Purpose
Control of own life

13. Common Needs
Sense of Control
Sense of Purpose
Independence
Love

14. Do My Dreams End Here? Help our children move on into adulthood.
Revitalize our marriage and or relationships.
Review satisfaction and success with our careers.
Realignment of our roles at home (husband and wife)
Are we where we wanted to be by this time.

15. Solutions for the Sandwich at Home
Clarify the house rules
Have a weekly family meeting
Prepare a long-range financial plan
Access community programs and services
Agree on a date for leaving the nest
Respect Privacy

16. Take Care of Your family!
Don’t neglect your own family to take care of your parent.
Involve the whole family in care-giving responsibilities.
Educate the whole family on care needs/problems.
Take a vacation.
Make regular dates with members of or the whole family for special time.

17. “Growing Old Isn't for Pansi’s.
“Selective Hearing and being able to laugh at yourself.”

18. ABC Home Care Services, LLC
1234 West End Street
Somewhere, CA 94412
(415)