1. Say Something! Do Something! Standing Up to Bullying Behavior
Tuesday, January 10 ~ 9:30 – 10:30
Presented by Kevin King, Principal and Tammy Cook, School Counselor
Research information provided by Trudy Ludwig and Stan Davis

2. What is Bullying?
Bullying behavior that is repeated, hurtful and intentional.
Bullying behavior is a choice.
Bullying behavior is learned and can be unlearned but it requires adult intervention.
If it happens 1 time it is mean and rude
If it happens more than once it is bullying behavior.

3. Types of Bullying Physical Verbal Relational Taunts Teases
Forming an exclusive club
Giving the silent treatment
Rumors or gossip to hurt someone’s reputation
Sending hurtful text messages or s
Posting hurtful and personal information online
Pretending to be friends to get something

4. Change Our Way of Thinking
Adults encourage bullying if they believe:
Bullying is part of growing up
Children who bully will grow out of it
Children should resolve their own conflicts without adult support
There is no time for this touchy-feely stuff in school
We need to focus more on achievement tests
Kids just need to toughen up
This is an issue that should be dealt with at home

5. Interventions That Do Not Work
Blaming the target
“Don’t let it bother you.”
“You’re too sensitive, just toughen up.”
Giving Ineffective Advice
“Just ignore it and it will stop.”
“Tell her how you feel when she bullies you.”
“If you’re not bleeding or throwing up, you’ll be fine.”
“If he hits you, hit him back.”
“Do it back to him so he knows how it feels.”
Programs that are imposed on staff or require too many rules or too much time to implement.

6. Interventions That Do Work
Clearly defined, concrete school-wide behavior expectations
Predictable & escalating consequences for bullying behavior
Positive emotional tone between adults & youth
Acknowledge positive actions
Provide aggressors with opportunities to restore situation
Empower bystanders to make a positive difference
Protect targets and bystanders from further retaliation by aggressors
Help empower targets and bystanders
Educating all students and adults about bullying behavior
Building empathy and respect for others
Creating safe spaces for kids to hang out
Building community in the classroom and on the playground
Create a youth advisory board – meet regularly to fully understand their perspective

7. What is Happening at NES to Prevent Bullying
Clearly defined, concrete school-wide behavior expectations
Positive School-wide Behavioral Support System
Predictable & escalating consequences for bullying behavior
Restorative Agreements and Behavior Notices
Positive emotional tone between adults & youth
Building empathy and respect for others
Building community in the classroom and on the playground
Restorative Practices, Responsive Classrooms, Robert Marzano Presentations, Caring School Communities Cross-age Buddies, Character Themes
Acknowledge positive actions
Knights Honors
Provide aggressors with opportunities to restore situation
Restorative Practices
Empower targets and bystanders to make a positive difference
Educating all students and adults about bullying behavior
Principal Stories
Assemblies
Looking Ahead
Protect targets and bystanders from further retaliation by aggressors
Creating safe spaces for kids to hang out
Create a youth advisory board – meet regularly to fully understand their perspective

8. A Closer Look at Restorative Practices at NES
Restorative Practices -Language/Questions/Circles
What Happened?
Who was affected? How?
What would you like to see happen to make things right?
What do you need to do to make things right?
PLAN OF ACTION

9. Developmental Guidance in Classrooms (Booklist Available)
Kindergarten/1st Grade – Friendship, Listening, Tattling, etc.
2nd and 3rd Grade – Acceptance, Empathy, Friendship
4th Grade – Bullying, Teasing, Gossip/Rumors
5th Grade – Exclusion, Gossip/Rumors, Problem Solving
6th Grade – Rumors, Cyberbullying, Positive Thinking
Developmental Groups – All Students (Information on webpage)
Kindergarten - Small groups - Focus on friendship/self-control
1st Grade – Making and Keeping Friends
2nd Grade – Journey Through Friendship
3rd Grade – 7 Habits
4th – 5th Grade – Friendship Problem-Solving
6th Grade – Teen Talk – 7 Habits

10. Cross-grade Buddies Principal Stories Assemblies Classroom activities
Have You Filled a Bucket Today?
Crayon Box That Talked
One
Say Something
Assemblies
The Power of One
Knights Out Assemblies

11. How Can I Help My Child? Tools to Teach Your Children Say, “Stop” (only if child feels safe) Ask, “Why? Why? Why?” Say, “Go Away” Say, “So,” “Whatever,” “Who Cares” (keep a neutral tone) Change the subject Act silly or goofy (use humor in a harmless way) Turn an insult into a compliment (only if child feels safe) Agree (only if child feels safe) Report bullying to a trusted grown-up
COUNSELING WEBPAGE
What can I do?
How do I help?