1. Call to Attention
Never in the history of calming down has anyone ever calmed down by being told to calm down.

2. Creating Classroom Connections an introduction to Conscious Discipline
Presented by:
Roxie Heist, TATS
Andrea Dunckel, FDLRS

3. Conscious Discipline is an evidence based comprehensive social-emotional learning and classroom management program based on current brain research.
Conscious Discipline empowers adults to consciously respond to daily conflict, transforming it into an opportunity to teach critical life skills to children.

4. We tend to overlook or forget that children must be taught EVERYTHING.
Social skills are learned, not assumed.
Empathy, joint attention, self regulation, and relationships must be taught consciously.

5. First Three Years of Life
Mental model of self
Mental model for relationships
Attachment systems
Stress management
Self regulation
Ability to pay attention
Motivation to achieve

6. It’s All About the Relationship
Children come to school with 3 questions
Am I safe?
Am I loved?
What can I learn from this?
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8. Topology of Traumatic Wounds
Traumatic Wounds of Withholding in Childhood (love, shelter, food, clothing, attachment)
Traumatic Wounds of Aggression in Childhood (physical abuse/mandated reporting)
Traumatic Wounds Caused by Stressful Events (we don’t help them learn to process these events)
Traumatic Wounds Caused by Betrayal (don’t take it personal-find out what happened)
Traumatic Wounds Caused by Long Term Duress (this is the water torture of trauma)

9. Conscious Discipline Brain State Model
Executive State
(Prefrontal Lobes)
What can I learn from this?
self-regulation system
Emotional State
(Limbic System)
Am I loved?
attachment system
executive: regulate self to set achievable goals. comes on at approximately 3 years old, when they start asking “why”
emotional: regulate emotions. comes on at approximately 15 months, when they start saying “no”
survival: regulates physiology. comes on at birth
Survival State
(Brain Stem)
Am I safe?
arousal system
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10. Safety Survival Unconscious Online at birth fight, flight, fool
what does it look like?
screaming, yelling
physical aggression
throwing
hiding
running away
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11. relationships, attachment
Connection
Emotional
relationships, attachment
internal CD-ROM
motivation, attention
online at “no”
what does it look like?
whining, crying
focuses on negative
blaming, guilt
always/never mindset
am I loved?
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12. asks “what can I learn from this?”
Problem-solving
Executive
impulse/self control
working memory
planning, organizing
online with “why?”
what does it look like?
calm
rational
asks “what can I learn from this?”
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13. Conscious Discipline Brain State Model
Executive State
(Prefrontal Lobes)
What can I learn from this?
self-regulation system
Emotional State
(Limbic System)
Am I loved?
attachment system
Survival State
(Brain Stem)
Am I safe?
arousal system
the brain always functions as a whole
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14. Front Seat Back Seat Responsible Complaining Focused Emotional
Limbic
Front Seat
Responsible
Focused
Prefrontal Lobe
Trunk
Kicking, fighting
Survival
Brain Stem
Brake=
Impulse control
Map=
Direction
Goal Setting
Priorities
Steering Wheel=
Flexibility
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15. My state dictates your state
Our state dictates our perceptions, which then dictate our behaviors.
We will perceive conflict differently
from each state.
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