1. When is it okay? When is it sexual harassment?
Flirting or Hurting?
When is it okay?
When is it sexual harassment?

2. Questions:
Flirting:
Is a good way to show interest in a person
Helps you to know the other person better
Makes you feel good about yourself
All of the above
Which of the following is not true of sexual harassment?
It is illegal in school
It is unwanted and unwelcome
Boys are never victims
It makes the victim feel embarrassed or ashamed

3. Questions: Sexual harassment can make a person
Feel anxious and depressed
Not want to go to school
Suffer from low self esteem
All of the above
Which of the following is not true about boundaries?
Everyone has the same boundaries
Your boundaries can be different with different people
You should stop if you accidentally cross someone’s boundaries
Different people have different boundaries

4. What is Sexual Harassment?
Sexual harassment is unwelcoming, unwanted attention that is sexual in nature. There are several different types:
Verbal:
Making sexual comments/jokes/insults, spreading sexual rumors, talking about another person’s body, repeatedly pressuring someone to date you, calling someone gender-related names, teasing a person about his/her sexual orientation
Physical:
Touching/grabbing/or pinching, pulling at someone’s clothes, blocking or cornering a person, forcing someone to hug or kiss you
Visual:
Making obscene gestures or movements
Cyber:
Posting sexual pictures or comments on-line, spreading rumors and/or images using text messages, or instant messages

5. Title IX of Educational Amendments of 1972
Is a federal LAW that protects ALL students from sexual harassment in school and during school-sponsored activities like clubs and sports teams.
All schools must adhere to this law and have a plan for dealing with complaints of sexual harassment.
Schools are required to put a stop to sexual harassment and prevent it from happening again.
Students who report are legally protected from retaliation from the harasser.
Schools can only stop this harassment if they KNOW about it…do not hesitate to report!

6. Know the Difference Flirting Hurting Is wanted and welcome attention
Is two-sided
Makes you feel attractive and liked
Makes you feel in control
Makes you feel good about yourself
Makes you happy
Is not disruptive
Is acceptable in school
Is unwanted and unwelcome attention
Is one-sided
Makes you feel threatened or bad
Makes you feel powerless
Makes you feel uncomfortable or ashamed
Makes you scared or unhappy
Interferes with your ability to concentrate
Is illegal- in and outside of school

7. If It Happens to YOU Remember it is not your fault
Trust your instincts
Set a boundary
Keep yourself safe
Write it down
Report it
Don’t give up
Ask for help

8. If You Accidentally Cross the Line
Pay attention to signals
Clear things up
Don’t take it personally
Take responsibility
Change your habits

9. Facts Girls are more likely to be sexually harassed than boys.
More students report non-physical harassment than physical.
At least 70% of gay and lesbian students report being sexually harassed at school.
The majority of students (85%) said that sexual harassment DOES happen at school.

10. Activity: What’s Okay? What’s Not Okay?1 2 3 4 5
He/she asks you help with homework
He/she sits next to you at lunch without asking if it’s okay
He/she sends you more than 5 texts a day
He/she gives you a neck massage
He/she puts an arm around your shoulder
He/she asks if you are dating anyone
He/she tells others that he/she wants to date you

11. Talk with a trusted adult:
If you need Help…
Talk with a trusted adult:
Parents
Teachers
Administrators
Coaches
School Nurse
Reagan Middle School
Support Staff:
School Counselors:
Mrs. Covell
Mrs. Fitzpatrick
Mrs. Piette
Mrs. Jefferson
School Administrators:
Mrs. Turner
Mrs. Kidwell
Mrs. Alexander

12. Ways to see ME… Ask your teacher for a pass
As your school counselor, I am here to support your academic and personal needs. If you need to talk about something occurring with you or you are concerned about a friend, there are many ways to let me know.
Ask your teacher for a pass
If I am unavailable fill out an appointment slip
See me during lunch
Stop by before homeroom or after school
Send me an at You can access on School Fusion from the Counseling page