1. RAISING TEENS IN THE 21 ST CENTURY James G. Wellborn, Ph.D.

2. TEXTING, SEXTING & CELL PHONES James G. Wellborn, Ph.D.

3. Internet Technology Sex Stupid teenagers (and politicians and professional athletes and...) High school romance Anonymity THE PERFECT STORM www.DrJamesWellborn.com

4. SEXTING STATS www.DrJamesWellborn.com Frequency 4% sent images (Girls=65%) 15% received images from Pew Why teens sext: Fun or flirtatious = 66% (most common response) Sexy present to boyfriend = 52% girls Responding back = 44% A joke = 40% Feel sexy = 34% girls Pressured = 12% girls

5. TEXTING INFO www.DrJamesWellborn.com Kids who text 120+ times a day: 3 ½ times more likely to have had sex More likely to have been in a physical fight More likely to binge drink, use illegal drugs Decreased importance of moral, aesthetic, and spiritual goals Greater importance of wealth and image Greater explicit prejudice toward a broad range of social outgroups.

6. Whats a parent to do? www.DrJamesWellborn.com

7. TEXTING, SEXTING & CELL PHONES www.DrJamesWellborn.com Educate yourself Have the talk. Set ground rules Make them earn it Computers in common areas Webcams Monitor devices and accounts monthly Test their readiness Warning signs. Consequences

8. INTERNET www.DrJamesWellborn.com Have the talk Dont exaggerate the dangers Teach about privacy and personal information Emphasize trust and good judgment Complete transparency Permanent record Sex, flirting, pornography and sexual harassment Sexual Communication and the law

9. TEXTING, SEXTING & CELL PHONES www.DrJamesWellborn.com Set the ground rules Parents have all passwords Personal information Acceptable words and information No sexting or chat rooms visits All apps must be preapproved Pictures (and tagging) Private vs Public information Friends vs friends Online bullying/harassment Language Sending or receiving aggressive messages

10. TEXTING, SEXTING & CELL PHONES www.DrJamesWellborn.com Educate yourself Have the talk Set the ground rules Make them earn it. Computers in common areas Webcams Monitor devices and accounts monthly. Test their readiness Warning signs. Consequences

11. ELECTRONIC MEDIA READINESS TEST www.DrJamesWellborn.com Novice 6 months of appropriate internet use Knows internet and social network account rules Texts responsibly Remains trustworthy Owns up to violations and mistakes

12. ELECTRONIC MEDIA READINESS TEST www.DrJamesWellborn.com Expert 6 months as Novice Resists social pressure Assertive Self-control Media savvy Talks to you about problems (optional) After 17 years old, give up

13. TEXTING, SEXTING & CELL PHONES www.DrJamesWellborn.com Educate yourself Have the talk Set the ground rules Make them earn it Computers in common areas Webcams Monitor devices and accounts monthly. Warning signs. Consequences

14. TEXTING, SEXTING & CELL PHONES www.DrJamesWellborn.com Monitor devices & accounts monthly Review pictures Check for rogue apps Review texts

15. WARNING SIGNS www.DrJamesWellborn.com Use computer parents dont check Close/minimize browser when parents are around Furtive, suspicious behavior/innocent, loving behavior Privacy settings to limit access Lie/omit details of online activity Hide/delete instant messages/texts Use private browsing modes Clears browser history Apps that hide apps Ghost email and social networking profiles adapted from TRU Insights and McAfee, 2012

16. SOCIAL MEDIA CONSEQUENCES www.DrJamesWellborn.com First violation 1 month probation Supervised electronic media use Daily talks for 7 straight days Return to previous level if successful

17. SOCIAL MEDIA CONSEQUENCES www.DrJamesWellborn.com First violation If violation is visiting chat rooms sexting ghost accounts Shut down all forms of electronic communication. Disable camera.

18. SOCIAL MEDIA GROUND RULES www.DrJamesWellborn.com Second violation Lock them out of their accounts Drop them to pre-Novice level for 3 months Third violation in 12 months Close their accounts permanently Lock out internet use from home Cancel phone texting and internet Check for Ghost accounts Consult

19. www.DrJamesWellborn.com e.g., 5 part series on Sexting Theres A Stranger In My House WWW.BrentwoodHomePage.com Parenting Teens Newsletter www.drjameswellborn.com/newsletter RESOURCES