1. The Five Strategies of The Virtues ProjectTM
Speak the Language of the Virtues
Recognize Teachable Moments
Set Clear Boundaries
Honor the Spirit
Offer Spiritual CompanioningTM

2. Empathy Check Who is the presenter? What is The Virtues ProjectTM?
What are the virtues?
Is there a hidden religious agenda?
What is the purpose of this workshop?
What will I be expected to do?
Is it too late for my family?
Will my kids think it’s dorky?
Will this be worth the investment?

3. The Gifts Within

4. 4 Key Principles of The Family Virtues Guide
The parent is the primary educator of the child.
Children are born in potential.
Their natural qualities can develop into positive or negative traits depending on how they are educated in the early years.
Character develops as children learn to make responsible, moral choices.
Self-esteem is a natural outcome of living by spiritual principles.

5. Encourage Mastery
Encourage Meaning
Name a Virtue

6. Ways to Speak the Language of the Virtues

7. Make a virtues “positivity sandwich”
ACT With TactTM
Make a virtues “positivity sandwich”

8. In Teachable Moments
Stop Shaming
Start Naming Virtues

9. “I saw the angel in the stone ~ and carved to set it free.”
Michelangelo

10. What Destroys Conscience?
Shaming
Name-calling
Beating or hitting
Over-protecting
Over-punishing
Ignoring effort
Lack of clear boundaries

11. What Builds Conscience?
Naming virtues
Clear boundaries
The opportunity for
reparation
Acknowledging effort

12. Every Child Is Born In Potential

13. Boundaries Courtesy Respect Trust Assertiveness
We will follow directions and treat each other as we would want to be treated.
Respect
We will listen to each other, fully present, without interrupting, rescuing, advising, comparing or teasing.
Trust
We will hold all personal information shared among us as private during and after this workshop.
Assertiveness
I will do what is right for me, participating in a way which is comfortable for me.

14. Assertiveness Respect Trust The A.R.T. Of Boundaries
Do what is right for you
Respect
Be deeply present without
advising
interrupting
rescuing
criticizing
teasing
Trust
Be worthy of trust. What we say here stays here.

15. Guidelines for Effective Family Ground Rules
Be Moderate
Have no more than 5 or 6 rules.
Be Specific
Fit them to your family.
Be Positive
Focus on virtues.
Focus on Do’s rather than Don’ts.
Establish specific, relevant consequences
Let the “punishment” fit the “crime”.
Make consequences Educative, not Punitive
Give an opportunity to make reparation.

16. Guidelines for Effective Family Ground Rules
Be Consistent
Be trustworthy ~ keep your boundaries.
Communicate Rules Clearly
Use visuals. Humor helps.
Make sure children understand the reasons when they receive consequences
Ask “What was this consequence for?”
Ground Rules are Non-Negotiable
Make sure that you can live with the rules and then keep them.
Be Flexible
Revise the Ground Rules as ages and circumstances change.

17. Boundaries Keep Us Safe

18. Honor the Spirit
Mastery
Meaning
Mystery

19. “I have no magic secrets. I make character my magic secret.
I have no miracles.
I make right action my miracles.“
14th Century Samurai

20. (Using the Virtues Cards)
The Virtues Pick
(Using the Virtues Cards)
Form a SHARING CIRCLE with 1 or 2 others
Share something about yourself and YOUR
LIFE at this time
Read your virtue aloud and share how it
SPEAKS to you today
Others are to companion in SILENCE with no
cross talk
When each speaker finishes the others give
that person a VIRTUES ACKNOWLEDGMENT

21. Personal Virtues Shield

22. Explore Mystery Honor Meaning

23. Simple Steps for Spiritual Health
Create a Routine of Reverence
Take time every day for reflection.
Enjoy Yourself
Spend non-compulsory time alone
and with people you enjoy.
Make Time for Friendship
For listening and companioning, for being together.
Lead your life with Integrity
Tell the truth. Do it now.
Expose yourself to Beauty
Be in nature.
Spend time with the Arts.

24. Images and Symbols in Dreams and Meditations
Journaling Questions
for
Images and Symbols in Dreams and Meditations
Who/What are you?
What do you represent?
What is your message for me?
Why are you here?
How can I carry out...?
What actions can I take?
How can I help (or serve) you?
What is your gift to me?

25. Tools for Spiritual Growth
Work with your VIRTUES
to set spiritual goals
to chart your course
to invite the presence of the Creator
Prayer
as guidance, thankfulness, truth-finding
as grief-work, communion
for forgiveness
Meditation
Visualization
Listening for Guidance
Intuition – A Gut Feeling
Journaling
Dreams ~ Ideas ~ Log of Events
Prayer ~ Meditation

26. Cultivating the Divine Virtues
Surprising
Simple
Sacred

27. From the Family Virtues Guide
“Idealists dare to have big dreams
and then act as if they are possible...
Idealism does not mean that you are
an idle dreamer. Idle dreamers just
WISH that things were better.
Idealists do something to
MAKE things better.“
From the Family Virtues Guide

28. What Re-creates You?

29. Spend Non-compulsory Time Together

30. Kinds of Prayer Petition Song/Dance/Art Service Contemplation Praise
Thankfulness
Communion
Encounter with the Real
Awareness of Presence throughout the day

31. Get to the Heart of the Matter
The Art of Spiritual CompanioningTM
Get to the Heart of the Matter

32. Don’t Get Furious.
Get Curious!

33. The Art of Spiritual CompanioningTM
Is Not Is
A Fix Walk Along
A Rescue Respect
Curing Caring
Advice Presence
Sympathy Compassion & Detachment
Telling Listening
Victim-based Virtues-based

34. The Art of Spiritual CompanioningTM
Offer receptive silence
Ask cup-emptying questions
Focus on perceptual cues
Ask Virtues reflection questions
Ask closure & integration questions
Offer Virtues acknowledgments

35. The Spiritual CompanioningTM Process

36. Mentor’s Roles and the Five Strategies

37. In Retributive Justice the Teacher Is a Detective Asking …
What was the crime?
Who did it?
How should they be punished?

38. In Restorative Justice the Teacher Is a Mentor Asking …
What happened?
Who was hurt?
What virtues were needed?
What amends can be made?

39. Guidelines for Establishing Clear Boundaries
1. Be Moderate
2. Be Specific
3. Be Positive - Virtues Based
4. Have Specific, Relevant Consequences
5. Make Consequences Educative
6. Be Consistent
7. Communicate Rules Clearly
8. Be Sure Consequences are Understood
9. Make Bottom Line Rules Non-Negotiable
10. Make Expectations Clear

40. What Is Your Leadership Style?

41. Students Need Visual Symbols
A Rainbow of Respect
Students Need Visual Symbols

42. Virtues: The Gifts of Character
Integrity
Joyfulness
Justice
Kindness
Love
Loyalty
Moderation
Modesty
Orderliness
Patience
Peacefulness
Perseverance
Purposefulness
Reliability
Respect
Responsibility
Self-discipline
Service
Tact
Thankfulness
Tolerance
Trust
Trustworthiness
Truthfulness
Understanding
Unity
Assertiveness
Caring
Cleanliness
Commitment
Compassion
Confidence
Consideration
Cooperation
Courage
Courtesy
Creativity
Detachment
Determination
Diligence
Enthusiasm
Excellence
Flexibility
Forgiveness
Friendliness
Generosity
Gentleness
Helpfulness
Honesty
Honor
Humility
Idealism

43. Speak the Language of the Virtues

44. Conscience Makers & Breakers

45. A Virtues Project School Offers

46. Create a Virtues Based Vision Statement

47. Create a Virtues-based Vision

48. Business Is Business

49. Business

50. Tactics

51. Virtues Project Strategies
Corporate Applications
Organizational Assessment
Leadership Development
Creating a Vision Statement
Creating a Mission Statement
Cultural Change

52. Corporate Applications
Virtues Project Strategies
Corporate Applications
Performance Appraisal
Act with TACT
Strategic Planning
The Five Strategies
Staff Development
Personal Virtues Profile

53. Give your partner a Virtues Acknowledgment
Teachable Moments
Describe one of your darkest hours at work.
What virtues were needed?
Describe one of your shining moments at work.
What virtues were involved?
Give your partner a Virtues Acknowledgment

54. Strategic Planning With the Five Virtues Strategies
Naming Virtues
What are our core virtues, our strengths? What VIRTUES do we need to cultivate to move forward?
What is the Teachable Moment
For our organization?
How clear are our Boundaries?
What boundaries do we need to establish?
How shall we honor the Spiritual Dimension?
What rituals, rites of passage, ceremonies are needed?
What are our true issues?
What needs to be heard? How well do we companion one another?