1. Bring your expectations in line with reality
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2. Your Expectations Myth: A good marriage will always be romantic.
Reality: There will be ups and downs. “Being in love is
something you DO” (C.S. Lewis). To love is a decision rather
than just a feeling.
Myth: My spouse will make me happy.
Reality: No one has the power or ability to make another
person happy. A person’s sense of happiness must come
from deep inside him / herself. It is a personal choice.
Myth: If we really love each other, everything else will fall
into place.
Reality: marriage needs constant nurturing. It is a dynamic
relationship rather than a static one.
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3. Your Expectations Myth: My partner should intuitively know my needs.
Reality: No one has the ability to read their partner’s mind.
Needs must be verbalized in clear language.
Myth: conflict means a lack of love.
Reality: conflict is inevitable, we are different. Conflict,
when dealt with appropriately, is a source of growth
for the relationship.
Myth: We must have the same definition of what it means
to be loving.
Reality: you have had different life experiences, you are
man and woman, you will view love differently (love and
respect connection). To have a loving marriage, you have
to put yourself out and love your partner the way
he / she wants to be loved.
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