1. Introduction to

2. Terms to Know (Copy this chart into your notebook)
Page #
Definition
Habit 8
Paradigm 13
Principle 24
Personal Bank Account (PBA) 34

3. What is this book about? 7 life changing habits for success
Provides teens with a step-by-step guide to:
Improve self-image and self-esteem
Build healthy life-long relationships
Manage stress and conflict
Set and achieve their goals

4. Why is it worth reading?
It is a secondary version of Steven Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People which has sold 15 million copies and continues to be a #1 seller in relation to business and leadership
It is a national bestseller
Hundreds of testimonials have proven it to actually work!

5. Discussing Paradigms
“Paradigms are perceptions about the way things are.”
“Paradigms are like glasses. When you have incomplete paradigms about yourself or life in general, it’s like wearing glasses with the wrong prescription.”
SO CHANGE THEM WHEN NECESSARY!

6. When perceptions change based on new information
Paradigm Shift
When perceptions change based on new information

7. Paradigms to Consider Paradigms of Self Paradigms of Others
Negative paradigms of yourself can limit you while positive paradigms can help you achieve
Paradigms of Others
We often judge people (peers, parents, teachers, etc.) before we have all the facts (this is where stereotypes and prejudice begin, so beware)
Having incorrect paradigms of others may be preventing you from real communication and improvement

8. Paradigms of Life: What Defines You?
Friends-Centered: Defined by friends
Boyfriend/Girlfriend-Centered: Defined by your significant other
Stuff-Centered: Defined by your material wealth and possessions
School-Centered: Defined by your academic achievement
Parent-Centered: Defined by your parents expectations
Sports/Hobby-Centered: Defined by your athletic achievements or personal interests
Enemy-Centered: Defined by your hate for a group, person, or idea
Self-Centered: Defined by the idea that everyone else’s world is centered on you

9. Paradigms of Life: What Defines You?
Friends-Centered: Defined by friends
Boyfriend/Girlfriend-Centered: Defined by your significant other
Stuff-Centered: Defined by your material wealth and possessions
School-Centered: Defined by your academic achievement
Parent-Centered: Defined by your parents expectations
Sports/Hobby-Centered: Defined by your athletic achievements or personal interests
Enemy-Centered: Defined by your hate for a group, person, or idea
Self-Centered: Defined by the idea that everyone else’s world is centered on you

10. What SHOULD Define You = Principles
Universal values that apply to all human beings despite language, culture, social class, gender, etc.
Principles never change. They cannot be bought or sold. If you live by them you will excel, if you break them, you fail.
Examples:
ROCKS
Honesty
Integrity
Loyalty
Moderation
Fairness

11. Create Your Own Wheel of Principles
Choose the principles that you want to define you
Important to you, but should not be your center 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
Example:
Respect
Ownership
Commitment
Kindness
Safety
Earning my Master’s Degree
Family
Friends
Free time
My dog
My marriage
My wardrobe
Teaching

12. The Personal Bank Account

13. 3 Tips to Building Self-Esteem:
Deposits into you PBA

14. Symptoms of a low PBA balance Symptoms of a high PBA balance
You cave into peer pressure easily
You struggle with feelings of worthlessness
You’re overly concerned with what others think of you
You act arrogant to help hide your insecurities
You self-destruct by getting heavily into things that are unhealthy
You get jealous easily
You stand up for yourself and resist peer pressure
You’re not overly concerned about being popular
You see life as a generally positive experience
You trust yourself
You are goal driven
You are happy for the success of others

15. How to Maintain Your PBA
Deposits
Withdrawals
Keep Promises to yourself
Do small acts of kindness
Be Gentle with yourself
Be honest
Renew yourself
Magnify your talents
Break personal promises
Keep to yourself
Beat yourself up (self-criticize)
Lie
Wear yourself out
Hide your talents