1. Wellness 10: Outcome W5 Assess one’s self-awareness and
self-management for the purpose of enhancing the well-being of
self and others.
Created by Jennifer Foley

2. Self Awareness
One’s ability to
perceive own emotions
and tendencies.

3. Self Management
One’s ability to stay flexible and positively direct personal behaviour.

4. Self-Awareness Strategies
Quit treating feelings as good or bad
Observe the ripple effect from your emotions
Lean into your discomfort
Identify triggers for your emotions
Know who or what pushes your buttons
Watch yourself like a hawk
Keep a journal of emotions
Don’t be fooled by moods
Stop and ask yourself why you do the things you do
Visit your values
Check yourself
Spot your emotions in books, movies and music
Seek Feedback from ’Sounding Boards’
Observing the reactions of others to your emotions
Get to know yourself under stress
Others?
Source:

5. Introvert vs Extrovert
Where do you put your attention and get your energy? Do you like to spend time in the outer world of people and things (Extraversion), or in your inner world of ideas and images (Introversion)?
Everyone spends some time extraverting and some time introverting. Don’t confuse Introversion with shyness or reclusiveness.
They are not related.
Take a minute to ask yourself which of the following descriptions seems more natural, effortless, and comfortable for you?
Adapted from Looking at Type: The Fundamentals by Charles R. Martin (CAPT 1997)

6. Extroverts
I like getting my energy from active involvement in events and having a lot of different activities. I’m excited when I’m around people and I like to energize other people. I like moving into action and making things happen. I generally feel at home in the world. I often understand a problem better when I can talk out loud about it and hear what others have to say.
The following statements generally apply to me:
I am seen as “outgoing” or as a “people person.”
I feel comfortable in groups and like working in them.
I have a wide range of friends and know lots of people.
I sometimes jump too quickly into an activity and don’t allow enough time to think it over.
Before I start a project, I sometimes forget to stop and get clear on what I want to do and why.

7. Introverts
I like getting my energy from dealing with the ideas, pictures, memories, and reactions that are inside my head, in my inner world. I often prefer doing things alone or with one or two people I feel comfortable with. I take time to reflect so that I have a clear idea of what I’ll be doing when I decide to act. Ideas are almost solid things for me. Sometimes I like the idea of something better than the real thing.
The following statements generally apply to me:
I am seen as “reflective” or “reserved.”
I feel comfortable being alone and like things I can do on my own.
I prefer to know just a few people well.
I sometimes spend too much time reflecting and don’t move into action quickly enough.
I sometimes forget to check with the outside world to see if my ideas really fit the experience.

8. IQ =
Intelligence
Quotient

9. What Do We Know About IQ? Burning Queston??
Predicts school grades relatively well
Does not predict success in life
Predicts 6% of jobs success
Peaks in late teens
Culture-bound
Racial controversies
Gets you in the door
Burning Queston??
Why do some people with a high IQ struggle in life while some people with a moderate IQ succeed?

10. Mr. Emotional Intelligence
The Office – “Listening Skills”
The Elevator – “Empathy”
The Water Cooler – “Emotion Radar”

11. EQ =
Emotional
Quotient

12. What Emotional Intelligence Is NOT…
Cognitive Intelligence (IQ)
Aptitude
Achievement
Vocational Interest
Personality
Static Results (They can change over time)
IQ Versus EQ
Cognitive, intellectual, logical, analytical & rational abilities
Emotional, social, communicative & relational abilities
Personal information bank – memory, vocabulary, etc.
Grasping own as well as others’ wants & needs
Gauges how well one acquires and organizes new knowledge
Gauges how well one copes with environmental demands & pressures

13. Emotional Intelligence
A cross-section of emotional & social abilities that determine how well we:
Understand and express ourselves
Understand and relate with others
Cope with daily demands & pressures
Source: The BAR-on Model of Emotional Intelligence

14. BARon Model for Emotional Intelligence by Reuven Baron, PhD
Source:

15. Emotional Intelligence Influences
Internal
External
Thinking Patterns
“Self Talk” Tapes
Values
Others?
Triggers
Stressors

16. Emotional Intelligence & Gender
Across Cultures & Nationalities:
Women tend to score higher in two categories - social responsibility and empathy
Men tend to score higher in one category - stress tolerance
In North America:
Women tend to score higher in one category: interpersonal relationship
Men tend to score higher in one category: self-regard

17. Emotional Intelligence & Success
Success is defined as your ability to set and achieve your personal and professional goals.
IQ’s relevance to success is estimated to be low
4-25%, may be no higher than 10% (Sternberg, 1997)
EQ’s relevance to success is estimated to be high
27-45% of job success (Stein & Book, 2000)
Common sense, as well as research, now tells us that being able to make your way through a complex world by successfully dealing with people & your environment is
the most important element of intelligence…
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EI).

18. Assess YOUR Emotional Intelligence (EQ)
Queendom – The Land of Tests
Institute for Health & Human Potential
Discovery Health

19. Listening Continuum Burning Questions??
Ignoring ↔ Pretending ↔ Selecting ↔ Attending ↔ Empathizing
Burning Questions??
Where Do You USUALLY Fall On This Scale?
Where Would You LIKE To Fall On This Scale?

20. Proactive vs Reactive
Decision-Making…
What’s the
Difference?

21. Through which lens do you make YOUR decisions?
Analytical
Conceptual
Impulsive
Procrastinating
Flexible
Proactive Skeptics
Fatalistic
Dependant
Followers Behavioral
Agony
Impulse
Escape
Spontaneous
Thinkers
Controllers
Charismatic Play it Safe Compliance
Rational
Intuitive
Emotional
Normative
Avoidant
Consensus
What’s YOUR Preferred Decision-making Style??
McGraw-Hill Irwin Publishers