1. Family & Social Health
Coach Schneider
Unit 3

2. Family & Social Health
“Abstinence is a choice, and it’s a choice every day, one day at a time. The decisions you make today directly impact your tomorrow. Choosing abstinence means choosing to take control of your destiny.”
-A.C. Green,
Former L.A. Lakers player and current author, speaker, and youth mentor

3. A.C. Green – 4X NBA Champion

4. Family & Social Health
Barry Sanders – Pro Bowl Selection 10X (Played 10 years)
David Robinson – “Admiral” NBA Champion, Gold Medalist, All-Star

5. Family Basic rule of society Extended family members Roles
Members of the family in addition to parents, brothers, and sisters.
Roles
Parents & Guardians
Setting example
Discussions
Expecting behaviors
Enforcing consequences

6. Family Role of Grandparents Other family members Dysfunctional Family
Reinforce behaviors and skills taught by parents and guardians
Other family members
Practice behaviors taught by parents, guardians and grandparents
Dysfunctional Family
Family that doesn’t promote loving, responsible relationships

7. Healthy Family Relationships
Self-Respecting Behavior
Treating oneself in healthful and responsible ways
Value of others
Self-centered behavior – an action that fulfills personal needs with little regard for the needs of others
Healthy attitudes towards sexuality
Sexuality – feelings and attitudes a person has about their body, sex role, and relationships.
Learning healthful sex roles
Sex Role – behaviors, attitudes, values, and beliefs that a particular cultural group considers appropriate for males and females on a basis of their biological sex.

8. Family Effective communication skills Clear sense of values
Value – standard or belief
Responsible decisions
Resolve conflict
Conflict – disagreement between two or more people or two or more choices

9. Family Coping skills Delayed Gratification Express affection
Voluntarily postponing a reward in order to complete a task or responsibility
Express affection
Fond or tender feeling that one has towards another
Acts of kindness (give and receive)
Work ethic
Attitude of discipline, motivation, and commitment towards a task

10. Family Respect authority
Authority – power and right to apply laws and rules
Curfew – fixed time when a person is to be home

11. Dysfunctional Family Chemical Dependence – or drug addiction
Compelling desire to use a drug even though it harms the body, mind, or relationships
Codependence
Neglecting oneself to care for, control, or try to “fix” someone else
Addiction
Compelling desire to use a drug or engage in a specific behavior, continued use despite negative consequences, and loss of control

12. Dysfunctional Family

13. Dysfunctional Family Perfectionism Violence Domestic violence Abuse
Compelling need to be flawless
Violence
Use of physical force to injure, damage, or destroy oneself, others, or property
Domestic violence
Abuse by one person in a relationship to control the other
Abuse
Harmful or cruel treatment of another person
“No excuse for abuse”

14. Dysfunctional Family Child abuse Spouse abuse Parent abuse Elder Abuse
Abandonment
When a person chooses to give up or refuses responsibility for those in their care
Mental Disorder
Mental or emotional condition that makes it difficult for a person to live in a normal way.

15. Codependent Relationships
Intimacy
Deep and meaningful kind of sharing between two people
Enmeshment
Condition in which a person becomes obsessed with the needs of another person and no longer can recognize their own needs
Interdependence
Condition in which two people depend upon one another, yet each has a separate identity

16. Improving Dysfunctional Relationships
Intervention
Therapy
Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)
Recovery program for people who are dependent on alcohol and other drugs
Al-Anon
Recovery program for people who have family members or friends who have an addiction
Alateen
Recovery program for teens who have family members or friends with an addiction

17. Divorce (14)

18. Divorce Marital Separation Divorce
Cessation of cohabitation between a married couple by mutual agreement or judicial decree
Divorce
Legal way to end a marriage in which court decides the terms with respect to property, child custody, and spousal support.

19. Divorce – What Happens? Stage One Stage Two
Marriage deteriorates; partners show less affection and begin to detach from one another. Conflict resolution may be tried. First stage may last several years.
Stage Two
One or both partners seek legal counsel.
Annulment
Legal way to end a marriage when its decided the marriage wasn’t legally binding
Dissolution
Legal way to end a marriage in which partners themselves decide terms with respect to property, custody, and support

20. Divorce – What Happens? Stage Three Stage Four
Issues regarding property, and support payments are finalized
Property examples - house, car, jewelry, money, etc.
Stage Four
Issues of custody, visitation, child support negotiated, and the divorce is finalized
Single Custody
Arrangement in which one parent keeps legal custody
Joint Custody
Both parents have legal custody
Visitation Rights
Guidelines set for visitation for non-custody parent

21. Divorce – What Happens? Stage Five Stage Six
Each partner establishes a new identity with family, friends and co-workers
Stage Six
Each partner makes emotional adjustments to the new lifestyle. Effects both partners and children

22. Effects of Divorce

23. Effects of Divorce Feeling of loss of control
Spending less time with parents
Declining academic performance
Grieving
Acting out with harmful behaviors
Resenting parental dating
Having difficulties in relationships
Symptoms of anxiety and stress

24. Changes Single Custody Joint Custody Standard of living change
Change in role models
Change in amount of parental supervision
Step Family
Family rule changes
Change in budget
Change in relationships

25. Other Family Changes Family member called to Active Duty
Parent goes to jail
Parent loses a job

26. Initiating Friendships

27. Initiating Friendships
Conversation
Verbal exchange of feelings, thoughts, ideas, and opinions
Rejection
Feeling of being unwelcome or unwanted
Conversation Keepers & Conversation Killers
Dating
Having social plans with a person in whom you are interested

28. Dating Dating skills People pleaser Takers or Users
Skills that help a person when they are dating
People pleaser
Is a person who constantly seeks the approval of others
Takers or Users

29. Setting Limits Affection Respect Sexual feelings
Fond or tender feeling that a person has toward another
Respect
High regard for someone or something
Sexual feelings
Strong physical attraction

30. Abstinence Responsible decision Reputation Promotes health
Protects safety
Follows laws
Shows respect for self and others
Follow guidelines of parents/guardians
Reputation
Persons overall character as judged by other people

31. Peer Pressure
Influence that people of similar age or status place on others to behave in a certain way
Self-Respect
Having high regard for oneself because one behaves in responsible ways

32. Harmful Relationships (17)
People Pleaser
Person who constantly seeks approval of others
Enabler
Person who supports harmful behaviors of others
Clinger
Person who is needy and dependent (demanding)
Fixer
Person who tries to fix other people’s problems
Distancer
Person who is emotionally unavailable

33. Harmful Relationships
Controller
Person who is possessive, jealous, and domineering
Center
Person who is self-centered
Abuser
Person who is abusive
Liar
Person who doesn’t tell the truth
Promise Breaker
Person who is not reliable

34. Marriage Commitment (18)

35. Marriage Committment Commitment Five Stages of Marriage
When two people marry, they take vows, or make promises
Five Stages of Marriage
First Stage – First two years
Maintain individual identity as a family is formed
Develop cooperation and reduce the need to control each other
Develop a sexual bond that leads to deeper intimacy
Develop effective decision making style
Recognize difficulties from parent relationships and anticipate how they may affect their marriage

36. Marriage Commitment Stage Two – (Year 3-10)
Recognize and confront weaknesses of both partners
Examine relationship and avoid dysfunctional behaviors
Reaffirm commitment to sexual intimacy, including sexual fidelity
Examine the influence of children on marriage and agree upon child raising methods

37. Marriage Commitment Stage Three – (11-25yr)
Maintain individual identities and develop mutual dependence
Recognize neither person will be perfect and forgive mistakes
Confront crisis of middle age, including aging, sexuality, and job, and financial security
Maintain and develop intimacy

38. Marriage Commitment Stage Four – (26-35yr) Stage Five – (36yr +)
Reevaluate tasks from previous stages
Recognize the physical changes that accompany aging and affect sexuality, and to rekindle romance
Grieve over losses such as the death of parents and children leaving home
Stage Five – (36yr +)
Prepare for retirement
Renew intimacy and develop ways to continue sexual intimacy
Prepare for death and for the death of the marriage partner

39. Parenthood