1. SESSION 5
Managing behaviour
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2. SESSION PLAN Managing behaviour. Triggers and patterns.
Principles of managing behaviour.
Rewarding behaviour.
The behaviour toolkit.
Troubleshooting.
Choices and consequences.
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3. MANAGING OUR BEHAVIOUR
If we really want our child’s behaviour to change we have to change ours first.
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4. MANAGING BEHAVIOUR Aim to: Speak in a calm, friendly way
Watch what you say
Treat them kindly
Give them time and attention
Try to understand the goals and needs behind their behaviour
Change is possible – but it takes time.
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5. BEHAVIOUR DETECTIVE
What did you discover from the detective activity? Did you find any triggers or patterns to your child’s behaviour?
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6. GIVE TIME AND ATTENTION
Remember from session 2 that:
Sometimes children act up because they are not getting enough attention.
It is good to have special time when possible.
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7. AIM TO BE CONSISTENT
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8. COMMUNICATE CLEARLY Make eye contact. Be aware of your tone of voice.
Give simple commands.
Explain calmly.
Check understanding.
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9. PROMPTS Visual: show picture of tap.
Physical: put your hand over child’s hand to assist turning tap on.
Modelling: let them watch someone turning tap on and then copy.
Gesture: point to tap.
Verbal: “Turn on the tap.”
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10. REWARDING BEHAVIOUR Behaviour that is noticed increases.
Behaviour that is ignored decreases.
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11. What rewards does your child really appreciate?
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12. PRAISE Children can’t get enough praise.
So that your child knows exactly what they have done, praise needs to be:
Specific
Accurate
Concrete
“I’m so pleased you gave Gran a nice hug.”
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13. BREAK
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14. THE BEHAVIOUR TOOL KIT
Tokens in a jar To encourage positive behaviour.
Star charts To encourage and help children do routine tasks.
Limited choices To encourage cooperation.
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15. TROUBLESHOOTING Trial and error Ways to cope Know when to back off
Don’t go on a guilt trip
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16. TROUBLESHOOTING Planned Ignoring Removing Distraction/humour Time out
Withdrawing privileges
Choices and consequences
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17. CHOICES AND CONSEQUENCES
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18. PATIENCE AND PERSISTENCE!
Choose your battles.
Decide what behaviours you can afford to ignore.
Use distraction techniques.
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19. REFLECTION Today we have looked at: Last week’s focus for the week
Managing behaviour
Triggers and patterns
Principles of managing behaviour
Rewarding behaviour
The behaviour toolkit
Troubleshooting
Choices and consequences
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20. A behaviour you want to deal with. A specific strategy to try.
FOCUS FOR THE WEEK
A behaviour you want to deal with.
A specific strategy to try.
To use the rewards you have identified.
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21. We will be looking at home and school.
NEXT WEEK
We will be looking at home and school.
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