1. Building a Partnership
Beverly O. Ford, PhD

3. Outcome Self-Sufficiency

4. Which Path to Self-Sufficiency?

5. Why A Partnership YOU WORK TOO HARD! Participants Control Outcomes
Participants Have Strengths & Resources

6. WHAT IS A PARTNERSHIP?
Participant is Lead Partner
You are Back Up Partner

7. Language of Partnership
Helping : We can help you find a job.
Partnership : You and I will work together to find a job.

8. ASK … DON’T TELL
Statement: We can give you a transportation allowance.
Question: Who do you know who could help you with a ride to class? ? ?

9. Thinking vs Non Thinking Questions
How did you get here today?
Could you ask your sister to help?
What could you do to get a ride?
Who do you think you could ask to help?

10. OPEN THINKING QUESTIONS

11. THEIR IDEAS FIRST
Helping: You need to call the GED site to find out about classes. Empowering: What do you think you should do to find out about the GED class?

12. Your Ideas As Back Up
Your Question: Where do you think you could get an outfit for your interview?
Participant: I guess I could ask my girlfriend and try a consignment shop.
Back Up Response: Great ideas! I will also check to see what we can do to help.

13. Helping: We can get you childcare.
THEIR RESOURCES FIRST
Helping: We can get you childcare.
Empowering: You and I will work together to find child care. Who do you know who might help?

14. PROBLEMS BELONG TO THEM
Helping: We will help you with childcare. Empowering: You and I will work together to find childcare. Who do you know who might help you?

15. What Problems Do Participants Ask You to Solve?

16. THEIR IDEAS FIRST

17. SHUT UP AND LET THEM THINK

18. PROMPT WHEN THEY ARE STUCK

19. REINFORCE MISERIES & GOALS

20. REINFORCE STRENGTHS & PAST SUCCESSES

21. LAVISH WITH PRAISE!

23. WHAT SHOULD YOU ASK? 1. I don’t have anyone to encourage me.
2. Would you call the employer for me?

24. CONFRONTATION: Difficult Conversations

25. What Should You Say? 1. I need a job right now.
2. I heard you can get me childcare.

26. Behaviors Blocking Outcomes Behaviors Not Attitudes
What to Confront
Behaviors Blocking Outcomes Behaviors Not Attitudes

27. TELLING OR ASKING? 1. How do you think you could meet some new people?
2. You could try meeting new people at your kids school.
3. You should ask your older children to help more.
4. What could you do to get the older children to help more?

28. THE RELATIONSHIP

29. THINKING OR NON-THINKING?
1. How did you get here today?
2. What could you try to find a ride to your interview?
3. Why don’t you ask your friends for help?
4. Who could you ask for help?

30. CAUTIOUS WORDS Perhaps… Maybe… Could it be that… Have you considered…
Is it possible that…”

31. AVOID ACCUSATIONS What you need to do is… What’s wrong with you is…
Your problem is…
You are never going to get anywhere unless you…

32. GET PERMISSION FIRST

33. THE HYGIENE PROBLEM

34. Partnering To Plan Participant’s Plan Participant is Lead Partner
You are Supporting Partner

35. Organizing the Plan

36. PLANNING SKILLS

37. OWNERSHIP AND COMMITMENT

38. PARTICIPANT DIRECTED PLANNING

39. PARTICIPANT WRITES PLAN

40. ASK. DON’T TELL

41. PARTICIPANT IDEAS FIRST YOUR IDEAS AS BACKK UP

42. ASK PARTICIPANT TO SET PRIORITIES

43. ASK PARTICIPANT TO SET TIMETABLES

44. WHAT HELP DO YOU NEED FROM ME?

45. SIGNING OF PLAN = COMMITMENT

46. PROBLEMS BELONG TO THEM

47. HELPING DO FOR Because We Care
More dependent and less self-sufficient.
Lessens participants’ skills and their competence
More Time Consuming
Can Create Burnout

48. Can Do Everything by Themselves
ABANDONING WALK AWAY
Lack of Caring
Can Do Everything by Themselves
Uncomfortable for You

49. EMPOWERING PARTNER WITH
Participants Bring Strengths and Resources
Participants Capable of Finding Resources/Solving Problems
Relationship Should be Partnership

50. POWER OF PRAISE Reinforces Behaviors You Want
More Effective than Criticism
Praise Person and Action
Praise Small Steps

51. Your Resources as Back Up