1. Aurora Lucas & Shanna Syme
Transforming language:
nonviolent communication in educational settings
Aurora Lucas & Shanna Syme

2. Non-Violent Communication Violent Communication
Vs.
Violent Communication

3. Who created NVC and why? Marshall Rosenberg
October 6, February 7, 2015
He received his Ph.D in Clinical Psychology from the University of Wisconsin
Conducted trainings in over 60 countries worldwide

5. Why it’s important to us
Aurora
&
Shanna

13. Observation vs. Evaluation
1) She procrastinates
Vs.
She studies for exams the night before
______
2) You never do what I want
The last three times I suggested we do something, you said that you did not want to do it.

14. Observations John was angry with me yesterday for no reason.
Yesterday evening, Nancy bit her fingernails while watching television.
My father is a good man.

15. Feelings I am happy that you can come. I feel like hitting you.
I feel misunderstood.

16. Needs
What others say and do may be the stimulus for, but never the cause of our feelings.
We have four options as to how to receive the message:
Blame ourselves
Blame others
Sense our own feelings and needs
Sense the feelings and needs hidden in the other person’s negative message

17. Needs I feel frustrated when you come late.
I am grateful that you offered me a ride because I was needing to get home before my children arrive.
I need to feel popular on campus.

18. Requests
I’d like you to be honest with me about yesterday’s group meeting.
I would like you to drive at or below the speed limit.
I want you to understand me.

19. Differentiating observation from evaluation
Differentiating feeling from thinking
Connecting with the universal human needs in us that are being met or not met in relation to what is happening and how we are feeling
Requesting what we would like in a way that clearly and specifically states what we do want (rather than what we don’t want), and that is truly a request and not a demand (i.e. attempting to motivate, however subtly, out of fear, guilt, shame, obligation, etc. rather than out of willingness and compassionate giving).

20. Empathy
VIDEO

21. Gratitude
“MAT 48 professors are the best!”

22. Feedback
Do you have a better understanding of Nonviolent Communication after the presentation?
How likely are you to use NVC in your personal life? Why?
How likely are you to use NVC in your professional life? Why?
Did the presenters work well together?
We welcome other comments / thoughts / ideas!