1. Interpersonal RElationship Skills
Kamal Nayan Pradhan
Shailaja Upadhyaya

2. Forethought
No matter what we do, we do it with people. People create technology. People implement the technology. People make it all happen. People ultimately use whatever it is we create. No matter how small your organization or how technical its process, it takes people to be successful.
Harry E. Chambers
Author, The Bad Attitude Survival Guide
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3. Facts and inferences
Diva, buyer with XYZ company, was scheduled for a10 o’ clock meeting in Singh’s office to discuss the terms of a large order. On the way to that office, the buyer slipped on a freshly waxed floor and as a result received a badly bruised leg. By the time Singh was notified of the accident, Diva was on the way to the hospital for X-ray. Singh called the hospital but no one there seemed to know anything about Diva. It is possible that Singh called the wrong hospital.
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4. Facts and Inferences contd..
1. Mr. Diva is a buyer.
2.Diva was supposed to meet with Singh.
3. Diva was scheduled for a 10 “0”clock meeting.
4.The accident occurred at the XYZ company.
5. Diva was taken to the hospital for X-ray.
6.No-one of the hospital which Singh called knew anything about Diva.
7. Singh had called the wrong hospital.
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5. Learning Point Listening is the Key Taking notes??
Confirming understanding.
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6. Interpersonal Relationship
Interpersonal skills are the life skills we use every day when we communicate and interact with other people, both individually and in groups.
People who have worked on developing strong interpersonal skills are usually more successful in both their professional and personal lives.
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7. Please, think of any moment, incident in your professional /personal life where you think that interpersonal communication seriously broken down (intentionally or unintentionally) and you had an important lesson for your life.
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8. Forms of IPR Friendship Family and kinship Professional relationship
Marriage
Casual relationship
Brotherhood and sisterhood
Acquaintances
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9. IPR for an individual Personal growth and development
Entertainment and ejoyment
Sense of security
Context of understanding
Interpersonal needs
Establishing personal identity
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10. IPR for a manager/leader
Understanding self
Building a positive functional multidisciplinary team
Improving intra and/or inter team communication, coordination and cooperation
Improved decision making and problem solving
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11. WE KNOW THIS
communication is the process by which people exchange information, feelings, and meaning through verbal and non-verbal messages:
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12. How does a person communicate? I like your Idea. I disagree.
I hate it.
I LOVE WHAT YOU JUST SAID…!!
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13. Feelings and Attitudes
Words 7%
Tone of voice 38%
Nonverbal behavior 55%
Albert Mehrabian ,Communication Studies
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14. Use them all !
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15. Interpersonal relationship
Reciprocal social and emotional interaction between two or more individuals in an environment
Close association between individuals who share common interests and goal
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16. Principles of interpersonal communication
It is inescapable
It is irreversible
It is complicated
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17. Interpersonal Communications
What people talk to each other?
How people talk to each other?
Why people talk to each other the way they do?
We followed a framework..
Transaction Analysis
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18. Exercise
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19. Memories come with Emotions…
…Theory
Human personality is multifaceted
Memories come with Emotions…
Ah !!Ego states
Ah! Ego States!
Sigmund Freud
Wilder Penfield
Eric Berne
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20. Ego states..
“a consistent pattern of feeling and experience directly related to a corresponding consistent pattern of behavior.”
Reflection of deeper rooted psychological orientation.
Parent
Child
Adult
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21. Self reflection
Remember something your parents/guardians often said that you still believe
Remember your childhood and explain how you felt about the rain..
Share one learning from your own experience…
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22. Understanding Ego states
Parent:
The parent represents a massive collection of recordings in the brain of external events experienced or perceived in approximately the first five years of life(or more).
“Never talk to strangers”
“If you are scared ,wake me up”
“ People with Tattoos are bad people”
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23. “It was fun walking barefoot in the rain”
Child:
The Child represents the recordings in the brain of internal events associated with external events the child perceives.
“It was fun walking barefoot in the rain”
“When I saw my teacher angry ,I was really scared”
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24. Allows a person to validate and evaluate “parental” and “child” data.
Adult:
Allows a person to validate and evaluate “parental” and “child” data.
"You have just made an autonomous, objective appraisal of the situation and are stating these thought-processes, or the problems you perceive, or the conclusions you have come to, in a non- prejudicial manner.”
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25. Interpersonal relationship
Stimulus..
Response
Transaction
Parent
Adult
Child
Parent
Adult
Child
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26. Key for PAC
Controlling Parent = do’s and don’ts, set limits, make judgment without logic, rationale and analysis.
Nurturing Parent = loving, caring, protecting and showing sympathy.
Adult = logical, rational, and analytical.
Natural Child = spontaneous, carefree playfulness, curious, energitic,and rebellious.
Adaptive Child = submissive
Litte Professor = creative, institutive and manipulative
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27. Identify Your dominant Ego State
Exercise’s Result
Identify Your dominant Ego State
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28. Building Interpersonal Relationship
Understanding your counterpart’s Ego state.
Understanding what ego state he/she is wanting you to be in..
Responding to your benefit
For All of these analysis your Adult Ego state should be Dominant!!
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29. Complementary transactions
CP and CP
NC and NC
CP and AC
A to A
Your response??
stimulus
people who are not punctual do not work hard
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30. Improving Interpersonal Communication
One to one
Transaction Analysis
Listening-----Understanding------Responding
One to Many
Seeking information
Bringing in
Testing understanding
Proposing
Giving information
Shutting out
Disagreeing
Defending/Attacking
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31. Improving…….. listening skills
Paraphrasing: what the speaker has said to confirm understanding
Looking for central ideas in the message
Clarifying and asking questions until the message is clear.
Concentrating on the message, not on the speaker
Being aware of listening blocks and avoiding them.
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32. Improving Interpersonal Communication
Seeking information
Asking questions to find out what people think
Bringing in
Used to involve a quiet member of the team in the conversation, normally includes using their name
Testing understanding
Making certain that you have really understood another’s contribution, usually by asking questions
Proposing
Suggesting something on which the team can take action. ‘it’s really cold today’ is not a proposal, ‘let’s turn up the heating’ is
Giving information
Offering views and making statements
Shutting out
Any way in which you stop another person from contributing. It can include interruptions, side conversations, asking a question of one person but letting another answer, etc. It can be very subtle
Disagreeing
Anything that says you can’t go along with what’s being proposed or stated
Defending/Attacking
Graduating from disagreeing; getting off the topic and talking about the person. ‘Why can’t you ever make a sensible suggestion?’ is one example. It usually results in the other party fighting back and can continue in a loop for a long time.
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33. Games people play for recognition
It Weren’t For You
What If Yes But
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34. Confirming responses
Messages that tell you that you are valued by the other person
Examples of confirming messages:
“you matter to me”
“you are special”
Nonverbally
Thumbs up,agree-nodd,smile,wide eyes,leaning front..etc.
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35. Value assumptions/life positions
I’m ok, You’re not ok.
I’m not ok, You’re ok.
I’m not ok, You’re also not ok.
I’m ok, You’re also ok.
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36. Thank you.
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