2. Ephesians 3:17b-19
And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

5. RELIGION
Striving to follow a set of rules in order to earn a certain reputation or reward

6. RELATIONSHIP
What I do flows effortlessly out of who I am

7. WHO WE ARE DETERMINES WHAT WE DO
Ephesians
WHO WE ARE DETERMINES WHAT WE DO

8. Ephesians 4:1-6
As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. 2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3 Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 4 There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called; 5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.

9. Love isn’t truly love unless it’s tested (and chooses to persevere)

10. Ephesians 4:1-6
As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. 2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3 Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 4 There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called; 5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.

11. God created us to image Him by relating to one another as a loving community of unity in diversity (not uniformity in sameness)

12. Ephesians 4:7-10
7 But to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it. 8 This is why it says: “When he ascended on high, he took many captives and gave gifts to his people.” 9 (What does “he ascended” mean except that he also descended to the lower, earthly regions? 10 He who descended is the very one who ascended higher than all the heavens, in order to fill the whole universe.)

13. Ephesians 11-13
So Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, 12 to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up 13 until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.

16. Ephesians 4:14-16
Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. 15 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.

17. gossip
Never share negative information about someone else unless you are part of the solution
Refuse to listen to gossip about others
Proverbs 26:5-6
Without wood a fire goes out; without a gossip a quarrel dies down.

18. gossip
Never share negative information about someone else unless you are part of the solution
Refuse to listen to gossip about others
Spread second-hand affirmation liberally!

19. Correction
Proverbs 27:5-6 Better is open rebuke than hidden love. 6 Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.

20. Correction
Proverbs 12:1 Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid. Proverbs 15:31-32 Whoever heeds life-giving correction will be at home among the wise. 32 Those who disregard discipline despise themselves, but the one who heeds correction gains understanding.

21. James 4:6
But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.”

22. Resolving conflict
Matthew 18 principle

23. Resolving conflict
Ask God to help you feel the same grief and pain He feels over sin and broken relationships.
Ask God to reveal to your friend what He wants to change.
Ask God to give him or her grace to repent and forgive (as He has done for you).
Ask God to help him or her to be receptive to the conversation, and to value reconciliation.
Pray Eph. 4:1-6 over the relationship

24. How to apologize Offender: I was wrong (own it; no excuses)
Will you consider forgiving me?
Person who was hurt:
Look in their eyes & stay with their heart
Tell them, “I forgive you.”

25. Love is the motive! Rooted & established in love
Bear with one another in love
Speak truth in love
Build up body in love