1. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, TRAUMA & RECOVERY
Tonier Cain
P.O. Box 175
Arnold, MD 21012

2. BECAUSE HE LOVES HER
WHY ARE YOU CRYING?
He just loves me too much!

3. Age:6 I believed verbal and physical abuse was love.
I watched my father beat my mother everyday .
She’s at the hospital again.
He’s gone? Why? He loves her!

4. She found love… Her new boyfriend beats her, he loves her.
If It’s love why does she scream and cry?
She’s gone to the hospital again.
He’s gone, why? He loves her!

5. Trauma felt at 9 years old.
Verbal and physical abuse from mother
Molestation
Left to care for siblings
Started drinking alcohol

7. TERRIFIED ELEVEN Removed from mother Placed in foster care
Dysfunctional family

8. HOPELESS FOURTEEN She loves me, she wants me back.
How do I live without her.
Attempted suicide

9. 19 years old and beyond Drug addiction
Introduction to Criminal Justice System
Mental Institutions

10. MARRIED CHILD He beats me, does he love me?
She moved in with my little sisters.
Abuse from him and her.

12. RETRAUMATIZED Arresting Officers Correctional Officers
Drug Addiction Counselors
Seclusion and Restraints
Over-medicated
Hospitals
State Agencies

15. After Trauma Treatment
Drug and alcohol free
Secure attachment with daughter
Medication free
Advocate
Board Member
Council member
Homeowner and more

17. What if…………… At age 9 someone recognized my trauma
I embraced trauma treatment then
School employees, hospitals, state agencies, rehabs., arresting officers were all trained in trauma

18. Isn’t it possible that the results could’ve been this……….
This child, to this woman, to this mother without the destruction
A THOUGHT, HUH?