1. Healthy relationships include:
Bottom line: If you don’t have healthy relationships in your life you will not live a happy life.
Healthy relationships include:
-Trust
-Mutual Respect
-Open Communication
-Boundaries

2. What is a healthy relationship
A relationship that….
Promotes self-respect
Encourages productivity and health
Free from violence and drug abuse
Is equal

3. How do you know if you are in an unhealthy relationship?
You are always mad at the person
You are always giving up what YOU like
You cry a lot/upset a lot
You contemplate leaving the relationship often but never do for some reason
Your friends or family keep telling you it’s a bad relationship
You have changed a LOT to be in this relationship
It just doesn’t feel right

4. Harmful Ways of Relating in Relationships Which type are YOU?
The People Pleaser
The Enabler
The Clinger
The Fixer
The Distancer
The Controller
The Center
The Abuser
The Liar
The Promise Breaker
Never be one of these OR date one of these!!

5. The People Pleaser Constantly seeking approval from people
Wants to be liked
Will do anything to be liked (drink, drugs, sex)
“Doormats”
They will never have a healthy relationship because they don’t respect themselves and people don’t respect them

6. The Enabler
Supports other people’s harmful behavior (gambling,drinking,drugging,etc.)
In denial of their friend or lovers problems and feeds into them
Will never have a healthy relationship because they enable the people they are with to be unhealthy as a result their needs are never met

7. The Clinger Needy and dependant on others
Turns to others to make themselves feel good
Suffocates the people they are with
Clingers won’t have healthy relationships because they drive their lovers away by being too clingy

8. The Fixer Trys to fix other people’s problems Quick to give advice
Avoiding their own problems to fix others

9. The Distancer Emotionally unavailable Busy, Avoiding
Keep people at a distance to avoid being hurt
They won’t have a healthy relationship because they will never let themselves get close enough to someone to have a good relationship. Ps do you really want to be with someone who is never there for you?

10. The Controller Possessive, Jealous
Tells other person what to wear, what to do, what to believe
Don’t like to share
It’s not healthy to be in a relationship with a controller because relationships are supposed to be equal not one person telling the other what to do
Too often this one is seen with teenage boys to their teenage girlfriends 

11. Match-ups The Controller and Enabler
A jealous teen male who demands all his girlfriend’s attention. She enables this and makes excuses for him like “he really loves me and that’s why he wants me with him all the time”
The Clinger and the Distancer

12. Conclusion and Homework
These don’t just happen with boyfriends and girlfriends these can be relationships with your friends or family. Be careful of these and know which one you tend to be.
Homework: The Ideal Mate. List 20 characteristics (not physical) that you would like in your ideal mate then rate it M=mom has this quality D=dad has it Me=if you have this quality and star your top 3. This is for my eyes only me or share with me on google docs please.