1. IMPROVING SELF-ESTEEM

2. Self-Esteem
Day 1

3. LIFE IS FULL OF EVENTS THAT ARE BEYOND OUR
CONTROL – OFTEN EVENTS THAT ARE
DIFFICULT OR HURTFUL,
BUT WE DO HAVE CONTROL OVER
OUR RESPONSES TO THESE EVENTS
-Don’t let others make you feel down.
-Keep your own self-esteem high.
~How we feel about ourselves is key~
It’s called SELF-ESTEEM

4. TAKE THE SELF-ESTEEM SURVEY

5. Set a specific, measurable goal to improve your self-esteem:
get up everyday and say “It’s a great day”
choose to enjoy life
put yourself up *****(positive self-talk)*****
put those around you up
think positive every night just before sleeping
don’t hang out with negative people!
baby step out of your shyness! Take risks!!
don’t compare yourself to others!! (see your good points)

6. Are we born with self-esteem,
or is it shaped in us???

7. WE’RE NOT BORN WITH SELF-ESTEEM
WE’RE NOT BORN WITH SELF-ESTEEM. DOES A LITTLE BABY THINK, “I HOPE NO ONE SMELLS MY DIRTY DIAPER…OR… "I HOPE NO ONE WILL LAUGH AT MY BALD HEAD.” IT IS SHAPED AS WE GROW UP.
Who shapes it??

8. W are NOT born with self-esteem - it is shaped in us!
teachers
media
family
community
parents
SELF!!!
friends

9. So, if we aren’t
born with it
that means we
can change it !
(if it’s low)

10. 1. In Sports Psychology an athlete is taught to stay positive,
WHEN IT COMES TO THOUGHTS, YOU HAVE A LOT OF MIND CONTROL!! YOUR BODY LISTENS
AND RESPONDS TO YOUR THOUGHTS!!!!
Your mental self-talk can be:
P O S I T I V E or N E G A T I V E
2 examples:
1. In Sports Psychology an athlete is taught to stay positive,
to stay calm, be focused, be confident, to “see yourself as a
winner,” and to “picture the ball going in the hole.”
Many athletes find success with this positive thinking and imagery.
2. In relaxation therapy you imagine a place or event that is
peaceful, restful, beautiful and happy. The body actually responds
with lower blood pressure, lower pulse rate to calm down and relax.

11. Negative thinking damages them.
Just as making positive statements to yourself helps
you to build confidence, improve performance,
and improve your mental skills,
Negative thinking
damages them.

12. Whatever you tell yourself, your sub-conscious brain will
believe as truth and it will work to make that true for you !!!
For instance, if you say you aren’t a morning person your sub-conscious brain will reinforce that idea! You may feel tired, hit the “snooze bar” and spill things, etc.

13. Example: If you were taught as a child that all dogs will bite you, your
mind will automatically raise that fear everytime you see a dog.
(even though your friend tells you that their dog is friendly,
your mind believes and sends the fear message! You have to re-train
your brain!!!)

14. Positive Self-talk :) The #1 best way to improve self-esteem
and stay strong against “mean” people
is:
Positive Self-talk :)
Do the “Positive Self-Talk” Worksheet…

15. Self-Esteem
Day 2

16. “Everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was”. -Richard L
“Everyone who got where he is had to begin where he was” -Richard L. Evans

17. "Mini Self-Esteem" folder.
Personality Surveys
Please see "Personality Surveys" PowerPoint in 'The Best PowerPoints" folder in the
"Mini Self-Esteem" folder.

18. DO THE WHAT MAKES ME ME WORKSHEET

19. READ THIS POEM: Being Myself and Proud of It:
Here’s to Kids Who Are Different
Here’s to kids who are different,
The kids who don’t always get A’s,
The kids who have ears twice the
size of their peers,
And noses that go on for days...
The kids they call crazy or dumb,
The kids who don’t fit, with the guts and the grit,
Who dance to a different drum...
The kids with the mischievous streak,
For when they have grown, as history’s shown,
It’s their difference that makes them unique.

20. Self Esteem Homework Choose 1 of the following:
1. Create a poster that shows how self-esteem is damaged and how it can be improved. It can be drawn or you can use magazine pictures and words, or things printed from online (don’t forget to site it if you get it online)
2. Create a poster about helping a friend who has low self-esteem. Show how this could lead to drug and alcohol use, and other dangerous decisions.
3. Create a Power Point presentation on self-esteem (why it’s important, how it gets damaged, and how to improve it)
4. Research and then write a 3 page report about the importance of positive self-esteem.
5. Create a tri-fold brochure for teens about self-esteem. The booklet should be 6 pages and include information about what self esteem is, how it is formed, how it can be damaged, and ways to improve it.
6. Create a poem or song that sends a message about how to have positive self esteem or the struggle to have good self esteem, or a message about facing a loss and how teens can overcome the hurt they are feeling. (You will not need to perform it, but can get 10 extra credit points if you do)

21. Self-Esteem
Day 3

22. 3 Additional Ways to Stop Negative Self-Talk:
CHOOSE 1:
1. log it - keep a journal
2. Picture a stop sign
3. Wear a rubberband and snap yourself
for each negative thought!
STOP

23. Assertiveness Survey outloud:
# a piece of scratch paper 1-10

24. Write how many “A’s” you got ???
Write how many “B’s” you got ???
Write how many “C’s you got ???

25. More than 2 A’s = PASSIVE
More than 2 B’s = ASSERTIVE
More than 2 C’s = AGGRESSIVE

26. PASSIVE: AGGRESSIVE Shy Not confident Lower self-esteem
Get taken advantage of
Get frustrated if your ideas aren’t heard
Become a victim
Tries to fit in and will do unhealthy stuff-
alcohol, drugs, sex…
Revengeful
Angry, intimidate
controlling
Hurtful
Name caller
Complainer
AGGRESSIVE

27. AGGRESSIVE in trouble with the law, in trouble with parents,
1. Aggression gets you in trouble-suspended at school,
in trouble with the law, in trouble with parents,
it can get you hurt, or killed, people come back to
hurt you
2. You don’t learn to problem-solve (“when I’m mad,
I need to hurt somebody to fix it”)
3. Aggressive behavior is a relationship buster!
who wants to be around someone who is blaming,
controlling, always has to be right, my way or
no way…

28. Is pushed around Stands up for self Forces others Keep it stuffed down
12. Don’t be passive *BE ASSERTIVE* Don’t be aggressive
Is pushed around
Stands up for self
Forces others
Keep it stuffed down
Problem solves
Lashes out in anger
Is controlled
Is in control
Out of control

29. strong voice! 1. 2. Good eye contact! 3. Say what you want
B E I N G A S S E R T I V E:
strong voice! 1. 2.
Good eye contact! 3.
Say what you want
or how you feel!

30. Self-Esteem
Day 4

31. THINKING POSITIVE THOUGHTS AT NIGHT

32. SELF-ESTEEM C.D. CASES PROJECT

33. Self-Esteem
Day 5
Continue Working On
C.D. Cases

34. Have the confidence to dream big:
1 risk, dream, or goal I want to accomplish
in the next week is:
in the next month is:
in the next year is:
in the next 5 or 10 years is:
Your goal could be: family, career, social, physical, educational, or personality/character...