1. Three Rules To Live By
BASES

2. Activity – Common Teen Struggles
DEPRESSION ABUSE/NEGLECT
ANXIETY (SOCIAL/GENERAL) POVERTY
CUTTING/SELF-HARM LIVING WITH PARENTAL SUBSTANCE ABUSE/MENTAL HEALTH
BULLYING ADD/ADHD
SUICIDE LONELINESS
EATING DISORDERS CHILD OF AN ALCOHOLIC
ALCOHOLISM DRUG ABUSE
TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS OTHER: _____________

3. Statistics 11% of youth have a mood disorder (6.8% depression)
8% of youth have anxiety issues (18.1% of general population has social/general anxiety issues)
8% of youth engage in self-harm (1 in 12 teens cut)
10% of youth have a behavior or conduct disorder
20% of students in high school (grades 9-12) experience bullying
When bystanders intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds 57% of the time!
3.9% of adults experience suicidal thoughts
Suicide is the second leading cause of death for young people behind auto accidents
Sources: Mental Health Facts – Children and Teens, Mental Health Facts in America, Children’s Mental Health Report

4. Statistics Continued 11% of high school students have eating disorders
30% of the US population have had an alcohol use disorder at some point in their lifetime
11% of children live with one or more parents who have a substance use disorder
1 out of 3 women and 1 out of 5 men have some evidence of a psychiatric disorder
65% are mothers and 52% are fathers
1 in 100 children are victims of confirmed child abuse or neglect
23% of all children are living in poverty
Sources: Mental Health Facts – Children and Teens, Mental Health Facts in America, Children’s Mental Health Report

5. Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE’s Study)
Looks at ten childhood experiences before age 18
10 Adverse Childhood Experiences
1. Emotional abuse 6. Alcohol or other substance abuse in the home
2. Physical abuse 7. Mentally ill or suicidal household members
3. Sexual abuse 8. Parental separation or divorce
4. Emotional neglect 9. Incarcerated household member
5. Physical neglect Witnessing domestic violence

6. What does depression and anxiety look like?
Sadness/hopelessness
Irritability, anger, hostility
Tearfulness or frequent crying
Withdrawal from friends and family
Loss of interest in activities
Restlessness/agitation
Feelings of shame and guilt
Lack of energy and motivation
Difficulty concentrating
ANXIETY
Restlessness, feeling on edge
Difficulty concentrating
Trouble falling asleep
Lightheadedness
Difficulty relaxing
Easily startled
Anticipating the worst
Excessive worrying and concerns
Difficulty breathing

7. Demi Lovato – Be Vocal, Speak Up
Demi Lovato discusses her struggles
Be Vocal, Speak Up website

9. BASES 3 RULES
Be nice
Pay attention
Be honest

10. BE NICE – Invisible Scars
Treating others with respect
Sympathy vs. Empathy
You can’t always see mental illness/addiction/struggles/ abuse just by looking at someone

11. BE NICE – Seek Understanding
Try to understand what someone might be struggling with
Depression
Substance abuse issues
Family addiction
Abuse/neglect
Bullying
Cutting/self-harm
Anxiety

12. BE NICE – “To this day” Shane Koyczan

13. PAY ATTENTION – The Power of One
Chris Herren
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The Purple Project
“Unguarded”
Stand up for yourself and others

14. PAY ATTENTION – Be Mindful
Be aware of your environment
Watch body language
Pick up on the things people don’t say, but are communicating in other ways
Recognize when a friend might be in trouble and need help
Warning Signs
Seek help/outside assistance

15. PAY ATTENTION – Self-Awareness
Thoughts
Feelings
Actions
Urges
Reactions

16. PAY ATTENTION – Self-Awareness Continued
Learning how to identify our internal experiences is an important skill in developing our self-awareness and our communication skills
Being able to effectively communicate them to others is the next step
“I feel…..” vs. “I feel that….”
Some risks to exposing our internal experiencing to others

17. PAY ATTENTION – Rise Above!
Don’t define everything as “good” or “bad”
“Good luck, bad luck, who knows?”
Don’t define the events of life, it is just the way it is

18. BE HONEST – “Linda, Listen!”
3 year old Mateo
Be Honest is BASES 3rd rule
You need to remember to be nice and pay attention first
Being honest to the point of hurting someone else’s feelings misses the point

19. BE HONEST – WWHPD? WWHPD = What Would Healthy People Do?
Healthy people are:
Secure
Socially interested
Interdependent
Responsive
Am I being the healthiest person I can be today?

20. BE HONEST – Support Networks
Key ingredients to healthy relationships
Caring
Commitment
Communication
Honesty is a major component

21. Stress Reducing Techniques
Stress Reduction Techniques
Journaling
Proper Nutrition
Reality Testing Conversation
Support Network
Balanced lifestyle
Spirituality
Professional Counseling
Meditation
Exercise
Group/community involvement

22. 2% Rule What you control is 2% - within arms reach
Everything outside of your reach (98%) is outside of your control
You control a lot even with just 2%
“I have survived countless disasters – 1% of which actually happened.”

23. Review of the 3 rules
BE NICE
PAY ATTENTION
BE HONEST

24. Local Resources North County Community Mental Health (CMH)
Charlevoix office
Petoskey office
Suicide Prevention Lifeline TALK
Mental Health Access Number
Substance Abuse Access Number
BASES in Charlevoix – substance abuse assessments, teen outpatient counseling, and groups

25. THANK YOU! Bay Area Substance Education Services (BASES)
208 W. Lincoln
Charlevoix, MI 49720
Rob Thomas – Someday
“And maybe someday, We'll figure all this out, Try to put an end to all our doubt, Try to find a way to make things better now.”