1. Family Life Education 6th Grade
Coach Staup
Coach Johnson
Coach Cruz

2. Effective Refusal Skills to negative peer pressure
Passive, Assertive and Aggressive Communication
Effective Refusal Skills to negative peer pressure

3. Passive communication
When a person does not communicate his/her…
Feelings
Ideas
Opinions
Ex: Not speaking up when something is wrong
He/She has a hard time expressing concerns
& makes apologies for what was said and/or done

4. Assertive Communication
Expresses feelings in a way that is
Honest
Respectful
Doesn’t harm others
Ex: Respectfully speaking up when something is wrong

5. Aggressive Communication
Disrespectful words and/or actions
Name calling
Put downs
Sarcasms
Interruptions
Loud voice
Intimidating Body Language
Standing too close
Glaring at the person
Threatening hand movements

7. Body Language Body language is nonverbal communication
3 types of Body Language includes:
The look on a persons face
The action of someone's hands
The way a person stands

8. Keys to assertive behavior
If possible, know how you feel about the situation ahead of time.
Avoid settings where peer pressure is likely to occur
Practice body language consistent with the verbal message
Remain relaxed and breath deeply

9. Keys to assertive behavior
Be firm in your right to say “no”
Use a clear and firm tone of voice
Make eye contact when you state how you feel
Repeat the word “no” until the person understands how you feel

10. Keys to assertive behavior
Suggest an alternative
Give a reason
Clearly state your opinion or disagreement
Avoid emotional terms
Use “I” messages
Ask questions to reverse the pressure
Avoid using ‘put-downs’
Remove yourself from the situation if you feel uncomfortable

11. Peer Pressure Assertive refusal skills &
Positive and negative peer pressure

12. What is Peer Pressure?
The influence of a peer or group of peers encouraging a person to change his or her values, attitudes, or behaviors in order to conform to group norms.
Can be positive or negative.

13. Positive & Negative peer pressure
Eating from the salad bar instead of fast food
Playing a sport outside after school instead of playing video games.
Can you think of any others?
Negative
Using tobacco, alcohol or other drugs
Engaging in sexual activity
Bullying another student
Can you think of any others?

14. 3 Techniques of assertive refusal skills
Everyone needs to have the tools to resist negative peer pressure. One method that has been shown to be effective is the three assertive techniques model.
Say “no” firmly and keep repeating it.
Take the offensive. Let the person know how the continued pressure makes you feel.
Refuse to discuss the matter any further. Leave.

15. Sexual Harassment & Bullying
Identify and learn how to use the resources in the family, school and community to report bullying and sexual harassment.

16. Bullying
If bullying or sexual harassment occurs, it is important to get support and help from our friends, family, teachers, counselors and administrators.
These situations are hurtful to the young person who experiences it and it is not something he/she has to keep going through.
There are adults in your life that you can go to for help in getting the behaviors to stop.

17. Class discussion
Does it surprise you that almost half of the middle school students say they have been bullied at school? Why or why not?
Do you think the percentage of students who say they have been bullied at school is increasing or decreasing?

18. Sexual Harassment
Law defines sexual harassment as: Any unwelcome behavior – of a sexual nature – that makes a person feel uncomfortable, fearful or powerless, and interferes with your school work.
Sexual harassment can happen to anyone. It includes unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal, visual, or physical conduct of a sexual nature.
Sometimes it is gets confusing to understand the difference between flirting and sexual harassment.
The key word in the definition of sexual harassment is ”unwelcome.”