1. November 15, 2016 Entry Task: Why do people date? Target:
Dating purposes & types of love

2. Ground Rules? What should they be?
Remind yourself of them from time to time…

3. AGENDA… The Paper Bag Princess The Purposes of Dating
Appointment with love
Types of Love
Ladder of Love
Love or Infatuation?

4. The Purposes of Dating

5. Socialization:
To develop appropriate social skills
To practice getting along with others in different settings

6. Recreation:
To have fun and enjoy the companionship of others
To try new and different activities

7. Mate Selection: To see others in many different settings
To compare the personality and characteristics of many people
To determine if you could live…for the rest of your life with this person

8. An Appointment With Love

9. Make a list Of everything you love <3
Now put a star next to the things that you loved if they were actual people that you love.
We will come back to this list in a minute…

10. Types of Love Romantic Love Sexual Love Pragmatic Love Platonic Love
Puppy Love
Sexual Love
The intimate expression of love.
Pragmatic Love
A rational, reasoning kind of love.
Platonic Love
The spiritual and intellectual relationship between a man and a woman.
Companionship Love
A love typically found in good friendships.
Altruistic Love
Selfless love or concern for the spouse.
Manic Love
A crazy, possessive, jealous kind of love.
Self-Love
An egotistic, narcissistic kind of love.
In an ideal marital relationship, you would experience all types of love, everyday. However, until you are married, you can still experience most types of love with a variety of people.

11. The Ladder of Love

12. Ladder of Love Mature love for others Love for children
Love for the opposite sex
Love for someone the same sex, older
Love for same sex friend
First love outside the family
Love of other relatives
Love for secondary caregiver
Love for primary caregiver
Self-love
Love for humankind, very unselfish love.
Unselfish love with ability to love without expecting anything in return.
Begins with interest in the other sex and continues throughout life.
Role model and exemplified what you wanted to become.
Close friend of the same age and sex.
You had fun with this person and loved him for the times shared.
Love of a relative which brought a special sense of security.
This person met your needs and cared for you. Usually your father.
Your primary caregiver (usually mother).
Until you love yourself, you cannot truly love another.

13. Love vs. Infatuation Grows slowly Long lasting Trust More realistic
More thoughtful
Happens quickly
Short-lived
Physical thrills
Jealousy
Rush to marry

14. LOVE INFATUATION Love grows over time Known under many circumstances
Learn all characteristics of the person
Other person centered
Happens suddenly
Under one circumstance
Know only a few character traits
Self centered

15. LOVE INFATUATION Only for one person
Face problems and try to solve them
Physical attraction is a small part
Endures
Can wait for marriage
More than one person
Problems are glossed over
May be based only on physical attraction
Doesn’t want to wait for anything
May end suddenly
Seen as deprivation

16. Love vs. Infatuation
Each group will divide the statements about love into two piles.
Infatuation
Love
Divide into groups of 4-5.

17. Date Mate Assignment
As a high school student there are several things that attract you to your ideal date (boyfriend/girlfriend). So you will create your ideal date as you see him or her.
Identify 20 characteristics (physical, emotional, cognitive, social) that you look for in a girl/boy.
List these in order of priority
For the top 7 priorities, create a statement as to why these are important to you.
Extra (but not required) Create a model using pictures from magazines, etc. of your perfect DATE MATE!