1. RESOLVING CONFLICTS NON-VIOLENTLY
LESSON FOR LIFE
RESOLVING CONFLICTS
NON-VIOLENTLY

2. EXPRESSIONS OF VIOLENCE
Our world today…
Bullying
‘Crossing a line’ (decency, public discourse)
Shaming /name calling / insulting /screaming
Pushing, pinching, shoving
Road rage / out of control behavior
Murder /Weapons (guns, knives, etc.)
Thirst for revenge / payback /retaliation
Gangs
Abuse of power
Others

3. Gospel of Jesus Catholic Social Teaching Hallmarks of Notre Dame
Learning Communities
Gospel of Jesus

4. “I came that you may have life and have it to the full.” (John 10:10)
“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.” The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself,’ There is no other commandment greater than these.”
(Mk. 12:30-31)

5. Catholic Social Teaching
IDEALS

6. PRINCIPLE OF HUMAN DIGNITY:
Regardless of race, gender, age, national origin, sexual orientation, religion, employment, economic status, health, intelligence…etc.
PRINCIPLE OF RESPECT FOR ALL OF HUMAN LIFE:
From womb to tomb
PRINCIPLE OF ASSOCIATION:
Because we are social beings, all institutions must foster the growth and safety of its members
PRINCIPLE OF PARTICIPATION:
Everyone has a right and responsibility to participate in society and no one has a right to shut out people from participating

7. 5. PRINCIPLE OF PREFERENTIAL PROTECTION FOR POOR AND VULNERABLE PEOPLE: People made poor, marginalized and/or rendered invisible must have access to resources to achieve their full human potential 6. PRINCIPLE OF SOLIDARITY: I am by sister/brother’s keeper. To care is NOT an option, it is a moral responsibility 7. PRINCIPLE OF STEWARDSHIP: All that we have is ‘on loan’ and needs to be passed on to future generations 8. PRINCIPLE OF SUBSIDIARITY: Problems are solved and issues resolved at the level at which they happen 9. PRINICPLE OF THE COMMON GOOD: All people have a right to conditions that will enable them to thrive

8. of a Notre Dame de Namur Learning Community
HALLMARKS
of a
Notre Dame de Namur
Learning Community

9. We proclaim by our lives even more than by our words that God is good.
We honor the dignity and sacredness of each person.
We educate for and act on behalf of justice and peace in the world.
We commit ourselves to community service.
We embrace the gift of diversity.
We create community among those with whom we work and with those we serve.
We develop holistic learning communities which educate for life.

10. WE PROCLAIM BY OUR LIVES EVEN MORE THAN BY OUR WORDS THAT GOD IS GOOD.
We honor the dignity and sacredness of each person.
PRINCIPLE OF HUMAN DIGNITY and PRINCIPLE OF RESPECT FOR HUMAN LIFE
We educate for and act on behalf of justice and peace in the world. PRINCIPLE OF THE COMMON GOOD
We commit ourselves to community service.
PRINCIPLE OF PREFERENTIAL PROTECTION FOR POOR AND VULNERABLE PEOPLE
We embrace the gift of diversity.
PRINCIPLE OF HUMAN EQUALITY and PRINCIPLE OF SOLIDRITY
We create community among those with whom we work and with those we serve. PRINCIPLE OF PARTICIPATION AND ASSOCIATION
We develop holistic learning communities which educate for life. PRINCIPLE OF STEWARDSHIP

11. Gospel of Jesus Catholic Social Teaching Hallmarks of Notre Dame
Learning Communities
Gospel of Jesus

12. CONFLICT

13. Definition of Conflict Our needs and expectations (of ourselves and others) are different…conflict arises when different needs/expectations arise that are different from what we believe.

14. Experiencing/feeling conflict…tension… discomfort…challenge…
…is a fact of life!

15. ALL AREAS OF OUR LIVES
SELF
PROFESSIONAL
FAMILY

16. CONFLICT AVOIDERS. FIXERS. SEEKERS ‘PEACE AT ALL COST’
CONFLICT AVOIDERS FIXERS SEEKERS ‘PEACE AT ALL COST’ ADRENALINE ADDICTS (Exercise)

17. CONFLICT CAN BE GOOD Motivator Can be productive
Necessary for any change to happen
Renew relationships
Instrumental for growth

18. IT IS HOW WE HANDLE CONFLICT THAT DETERMINES THE KIND OF PERSON WE ARE

19. VIOLENCE (Intentional use of words, actions or physical force so as to injure, abuse, damage or destroy)

20. TYPES OF ABUSE Physical Verbal Nonverbal Emotional Psychological
Spiritual
Sexual
Cultural
Neglect
Institutional

21. EXPERIENCES OF VIOLENCETV
Movies
Video Games
Toys
Social Media
In your school
In your home, neighborhood

22. ACTIVE NONVIOLENCE (the use of peaceful means in an active, persistent manner to bring about social change and a means of building a community committed to the well being of all)

23. EXAMPLES OF NONVIOLENT ACTIONS
Dialogue
Conversations
Talking it out
Standing up for someone/something /advocating for oneself
Trusting each other
Encouraging / Supporting
Organizing
Peaceful demonstrations
Letter writing to local papers
Petitions
Vigils
Delegations to address administration
Calling for a meeting
Civil Disobedience (Obedience for Justice)

24. NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION
Depending on the situation, non-verbal communication can escalate conflict and violence AND it can also be used to calm a situation.

25. SOME EXAMPLES Facial expressions Posture Eye contact Leaning forward
Nodding
Open body posture
Hand gestures
Showing empathy
Appropriate encouragers (un-un, oh, ok, yeah)
Other:

26. UNDERLYING POWERFUL EMOTIONS PRESENT IN EVERY CONFLICT
GRIEF FEAR ANXIETY VULNERABILITY

27. THEREFORE…
EVERY CONFLICT OR TIME OF TENSION MUST BE ENTERED INTO WITH RESPECT AND INTEGRITY FOR ALL THOSE INVOLVED.
No one leaves having felt diminished or ‘less than.’

28. Not every conflict has a solution, but every conflict can be an opportunity to grow in empathy.

29. Gospel of Jesus Catholic Social Teaching Hallmarks of Notre Dame
Learning Communities
Gospel of Jesus

30. “Live with the life of Jesus… love with his heart, think with his mind, act with his courage.” (Julie Billiart)