2. What is bullying?

3. Bullying is: Intentional, hurtful, deliberate action against someone who has less power It is not normal conflict. It is not “just teasing”.

4. The damage is real. And it can last.
Withdrawing from activities
Missing school
Trouble studying
Trouble sleeping
Depression
Wanting revenge
Suicidal thoughts

5. Normal Conflict vs. BULLYING Equal Power; friends Imbalance of power
Happens occasionally
Accidental
Meant to get both parties to laugh
Remorse – takes responsibility
BULLYING
Imbalance of power
Repeated offenses
Happens on purpose
Serious hurt physically or emotionally
No remorse - blames the victim

6. Hurtful Teasing Sensitive topic Purpose is to upset
Friendly Teasing vs
Equal power; friends
Neutral topic
Playful purpose
Purpose is to include
Funny
Hurtful Teasing
Imbalance of power,
not friends
Sensitive topic
Purpose is to upset
Purpose is to leave
out
Sarcastic

7. Bullying is a 3-headed beast
verbal
mental
physical

8. Verbal
It can include:
Name-calling, teasing, threatening, intimidating phone calls.
Racial and Ethnic Harassment
Examples: ethnic jokes, racial name calling and racial slurs.
Harrassment on other “Off Limit” topics
Examples: religion, social status, appearance, gender, sexual content

9. Mental Social/Relational Aggression:
Spreading rumors, excluding others
Intimidation:
Graffiti, a dirty trick, taking possessions
Written Aggression:
Negative messages through texts, instant messaging, , note passing, etc.

10. Physical punching pushing hitting kicking tripping rude hand gestures
destroying someone’s property

11. The bullying triangle
bullies
victims
bystanders

12. In order to get power, they need:
Bullies want power BUT
In order to get power, they need:
victims
bystanders
helpers

13. Reasons Why Someone Bullies
They think they’ll gain power
They think they’ll gain popularity and attention
They are acting out problems from home
They are copying what someone else does that they look up to

14. Victims Targets of the abuse It is not your fault. You are not alone.
Ignoring it will not stop the problem.
You need to tell someone.

15. LEAD BY EXAMPLE BYSTANDERS
They are the largest and most underused resource in our schools.
They are 85% of the school population - the silent majority.
Too often they ignore the bullying and lose empathy towards the victims.
LEAD BY EXAMPLE

16. Change Begins with the Bystander
You can take the lead
You can look for the good in others
You can be the difference
That makes the difference

17. Game Plan to Stop Bullying
Make an Interception
Get them out of there! “Walk with me real quick, I need you to help me with something.”
Try a Pep Talk
Be positive, ask what’s going on.
“Hey is everything okay? You are a good person and I know you are better than this.”
Run Interference
Change the subject.
“What did you think about the announcements this morning?”
Blow the Whistle
Know when to get an adult.
“Let’s go get a teacher before this gets out of hand.”

20. What roles do you see being played out?
Situation Cards
What roles do you see being played out?
What could be done to stop the bullying, teasing, and the hurting of others?

21. Do the RIGHT Thing