1. Learning to Thrive Personal Resilience for students
Paul Warwix
Paul Murray Sheran Murray Paul Warwick Anne Bentley
Life in 5 Chapters
Read/sign consent forms
Notes on Board: Confidentiality (It stays in the room)
Preventative
Resilience to stress – a process
Curiosity
Self-kindness
Use of Training pack
Introductions: You
Us – a d our roles today

3. (Adapted from Mowbray, 2011)
Resilience
“the capacity to mobilise personal features that can enable us to prevent, tolerate, overcome and be enhanced by adverse events and experiences”
(Adapted from Mowbray, 2011)
Emphasise prevent, as well as enhance

4. BELOW LINE (un-resilient)
Thoughts
Feelings
Behaviour
Introduce this more; give more explanation
Perhaps by building on an example provided by the audience.
E.g. it can be difficult to separate things out
John gave an example of anew employee coming thinking they’re not good enough, people will think I’m useless, feeling inadequate, etc.
EVENT = THREAT

5. Un-resilient Thoughts Feelings Behaviour THREATENING EVENT
“Can’t cope!”
“Not right!”
“It’s wrong!”
“I’m bad!”
“xxxx’s fault”
“Disaster!”
“Not fair!”
Feelings
Panic
Anger
Fearful
Depressed
Despairing
Despondent
Resentful
Shocked
Behaviour
Blaming
Withdrawing
Drinking
Smoking
Weepy
Impatient
Frenetic
Introduce this more; give more explanation
Perhaps by building on an example provided by the audience.
E.g. it can be difficult to separate things out
John gave an example of anew employee coming thinking they’re not good enough, people will think I’m useless, feeling inadequate, etc.
THREATENING EVENT

6. ABOVE LINE (resilient)
Thoughts
“Doing well”
“No one’s fault”
“I can influence …”
“Not letting xxxxx down”
Feelings
Calm
Clear
Steady
Purposeful
Warm
Good in own skin
Behaviour
Exploring
Planning
Reflecting
Discussing
Doing
Learning
Smiling
EVENT = CHALLENGE

7. HABITUAL RESPONSE Below-line reaction EVENT = THREAT UNRESILIENT STATE
UNHELPFUL BEHAVIOURS
UNHELPFUL FEELINGS
UNHELPFUL THOUGHTS
EVENT = THREAT
Below-line reaction

8. UNRESILIENT STATES Above line response EVENT = OPPORTUNITY
HELPFUL BEHAVIOURS
UNHELPFUL BEHAVIOURS
HELPFUL FEELINGS
UNHELPFUL FEELINGS
HELPFUL THOUGHTS
UNHELPFUL THOUGHTS
EVENT = OPPORTUNITY
Above line response

9. SELF-AWARENESS NOTICE
UNRESILIENT STATES
RESILIENT STATE
UNRESILIENT STATE
HELPFUL BEHAVIOURS
UNHELPFUL BEHAVIOURS
HELPFUL FEELINGS
UNHELPFUL FEELINGS
HELPFUL THOUGHTS
UNHELPFUL THOUGHTS
SELF-AWARENESS NOTICE
HABITUAL REACTION
CHOICE
ADVERSE EVENT / THREAT

10. Understand resilience Learn intervention tools
Learning to Thrive
Understand resilience
Become self-aware
NOTICE
Deepen Motivation
VALUES
Learn intervention tools
Practice Resilience

11. Patterson and Kelleher 2005
“Those we interviewed repeatedly and passionately told us that the process of privately clarifying, publicly articulating, and consciously acting on their personal values is the greatest source of strength to help them navigate through the storms of life and come out on the other side stronger than before.”
Patterson and Kelleher 2005

12. What matters MOST to you ”I value above other things ….
Eliciting Core Values
What matters MOST to you
What is MOST important
(Your deepest values?)
Start by writing down three of your top core values
”I value above other things ….
honesty?....” etc
People were talking about conflict/dissonance – so we need to talk more about this:
EXPLAIN THAT WE ALL HAVE LOTS OF VALUES AND THEY ARE IN A HIERARCHY BUT CAN ALSO CONFLICT
This is about knowing what is motivating us and this information is helpful (knowledge is power)
Through self-awareness we can consciously prioritise our core values
Shared values to emphasise

13. Core Values = information
Motivations Direction Lifetime goals Standards

14. Prioritising core values
Meaning
Resolve
Integrity
Congruence
Resilience

15. Ten Best Things = Time Out
Reflect
Build trust
Choosing our view: (practising appreciation)
Choosing our future: (practising optimism)
Better to do one sheet per table
DO NOT FORGET THE FLIPCHART BIT
Feedback was unstructured – and so too chatty
Don’t make asides about the university
COMMON THEMES?

16. Tool 1 Values Awareness Tool 2 Ten Best Things Tool 3 Thought Diaries
My thoughts affect my emotions
My emotions create my mood, which influences my actions
My mood and actions affect my quality of life and my thoughts

17. Tool 5 Tool 4 Mind-set reframe
Tool 3
STOP PROCESS
Tool 5
Goal
setting
Tool Mind-set reframe

18. Resilience Training UNCONSCIOUS TO CONSCIOUS UNHELPFUL TO HELPFUL
UNCONSCIOUS TO CONSCIOUS
UNHELPFUL TO HELPFUL
DIS-EMPOWERED TO EMPOWERED
Notice:
Thinking/Feeling/Behaviours
Thinking patterns
Choose: intervene

19. Early lessons
Sign up = 72 = 37 turn up Engagement = ‘safe space Tools important Connections important – ongoing support The need is real

20. EXTERNAL VALUES
Externally judged Need constant reinforcement Less control More stress More anxiety
INTERNAL VALUES
Internally judged for inherent worth Control Persistence Consistent wellbeing
MAKE THE POINT OF EXPERIMENTING WITH OUR BEHAVIOURS – BE CURIOUS/SEE HOW IT GOES/FEELS

21. Conflicting with core values
Discomfort, guilt, shame (Dissonance) Un-resilient

24. Student Resilience Training
not
What resilience is
Self-awareness
Practising choice
Using intervention tools