1. Bullying

2. What is Bullying? Definition: Types: Physical aggression
A person is being bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more persons
Imbalance of power
Repeated actions
Intentional Actions
Unequal levels of affect
Types:
Physical aggression
Social aggression
Verbal aggression
Intimidation
Written aggression
Sexual harassment
Racial & cultural harassment

3. Normal Conflict
Bullying
Equal power; friends
Imbalance of power; not friends
Happens occasionally
Repeated negative actions
Accidental
Purposeful
Not serious
Serious- threat of physical harm or emotional hurt
Equal emotional reaction
Strong emotional reaction on behalf of victim
Not seeking power or attention
Seeking power, control
Not trying to get something
Trying to gain material things or power
Remorse-takes responsibility
No remorse-blames victim
Effort to solve problem
No effort to solve problem

4. Reasons why students bully others
To gain power
To gain popularity and attention
To act out problems from home
To copy what someone else does that they admire
They perceive it as fun
They have low self-esteem (sometimes)

5. Boys vs. Girls Boys Characteristics: Tactics: Name calling
Intimidation
Control
Humiliation
Power domination
Threats to one’s safety
Tactics:
Name calling
Physical attacks
Pushing
Shoving
Kicking
Spitting
Extortion (money, belongings)
Defacing victim’s property
Repeated physical attacks
Inappropriate sexual behavior

6. Boys vs. Girls Girls Characteristics: Tactics: Social cruelty
Manipulation
Hurt feelings
Subtle rejection/ostracism
Character assassination
Tactics:
Name calling
Isolating the victim
Ethnic slurs
Spreading false rumors

7. Ha Ha So Strategies Victims
Help: Seek assistance from an adult, friend, or peer
Assert Yourself: Make assertive statements to the bully addressing your feelings about the bullying behavior
Humor: Use humor to de-escalate a situation
Avoid: Walk away or avoid certain places in order to avoid a bullying situation
Self-Talk: Use positive self-talk to maintain positive self-esteem during a bullying situation
Own-it: “Own” the put-down or belittling comment in order to diffuse it.

8. Help! Victim Don’ts Cry or act hurt Lose temper Escalate
Return the aggression
Get others to gang up on the bully
Tease back
Call the teaser names
Bring weapons to school

9. Why don’t they get involved?
Bystanders
Most ignored and underused resource in school
85% of the population
Become desensitized over time
Why don’t they get involved?
Fear of retaliation
Don’t know what to do
Afraid they’ll make things worse
Worry about losing social status
Don’t believe that adults will help

10. Bystander Bystander Request that the bully stop
Seek adult help if the bully does not stop
Speak up and/or offer support to the victim
Take the bully aside and ask him or her to “cool it”

11. Tattling vs. Telling

12. Consequences of Bullying
The Bully
Fights
Theft
Vandalism
Drunkenness
Bullies also 5 to 6 times more likely to have serious criminal records by young adulthood
The Victim
Experience physical and psychological damage
Cut school for fear of being bullied
Experience depression, poor self-esteem, and other mental health problems as adults
Fear of using school property (bus, restrooms, and locker rooms)
Drop out of school
Change schools
Attempt suicide
Seek revenge

13. Consequences of Bullying
The Bystander
Fear of association with victim(s) may bring bullying their way
Learn that bullying is a way to gain prestige and attention
Fear reporting bullying incidents because they may be labeled a “snitch,” “tattler,” or “informer”
Experience feelings of guilt and of helplessness for not assisting the victim

14. Take a stand Stop rumors Don’t pass on a hurtful note
Speak up to a bully: “We don’t do that here”
Ask someone new to join you at lunch
Say “hi” to a new student or someone you don’t know very well
Include someone new in one of your activities
Join up with someone who is being bothered and take them out of the situation
Let adults know when someone needs help

15. Bullying is when a person is exposed, repeatedly to negative actions; an imbalance of power.
A) True
B) False

16. A difference between normal conflict and bullying is:
A) Bullying causes a strong emotional reaction on behalf of the victim
B) Bullying is accidental
C) Bullying happens occasionally
D) Bullying does not seek power or attention

17. Reasons students bully include all of the following except:
A) To gain power
B) To gain popularity
C) To be different from others
D) They perceive it as fun

18. Which of the following is a characteristic of a girl bully?
A) Intimidation
B) Humiliation
C) Social cruelty
D) Power domination

19. The Ha Ha So Strategies include all of the following except:
A) Help
B) Assert Yourself
C) Humor
D) Self-defense

20. Bystanders do not get involved in bullying situations because:
A) Don’t believe that adults will help
B) Believe that adults will help
C) Fear that the victim will be mad at them
D) Believe that the victim knows what to do

21. The difference between tattling and telling is:
A) Telling: The behavior is purposeful
B) Telling: The purpose is to get someone in trouble
C) Telling: The behavior is accidental
D) Tattling: The behavior is done on purpose

22. Consequences of bullying include all of the following except:
A) Bullies are more likely to have criminal records by young adulthood
B) Victims cut school for fear of being bullied
C) Victims experience only physical damage
D) Bystanders fear association with victims may bring bullying their way

23. All of the following are examples of ways you can take a stand except:
A) Stop spreading false statements
B) Ask the bully to join you at lunch
C) Don’t pass on a hurtful note
D) Let adults know when someone needs help