1. Dating violence: For Teens and Young Adults
Facilitator: Janessa Rivera, Owner of R.E.B.I.R.T.H Journey LLC

2. What is Dating violence?
Dating Violence is the physical, sexual, or emotional abuse between a couple.
Used to describe the abuse between individuals in a dating relationship between the ages of years old.
Also identified as Teen Dating Violence (TDV)

3. Facts about Dating violence
February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month.
Young ladies ages years old experience the highest rate of dating violence, at a rate of 3 times more than the national average of Domestic violence reported incidences in people ages 25+ years.
50% of young people who experience teen dating violence including situations like rape, physical, and/or sexual abuse will attempt suicide.
1.5 million HS students nationwide experience dating violence annually.
Of the reported Dating Violence victims, 21% are females and 10% are males.
Twelve states in the U.S. don’t allow a victim of dating violence to apply for protection under their civil domestic violence restraining/protective order laws. These states are: Alabama, Arizona, Georgia, Kentucky, Maryland, New York, Ohio, Oregon, South Carolina, South Dakota, Utah, and Virginia.

4. Activity: have audience stand up and take a step forward for each thing they have experienced with a past/current significant other. Start off the activity by saying the phrase “Has your significant other ever …”
Been jealous
Checked your phone/texts
Checked your social media
Called you negative names
Been controlling
Kept you from hanging out with or talking to family/friends
Gone days without speaking to you bc they are upset
Been possessive
Made you feel guilty for saying No to them about something
Pressured you into having sex, sexting, or sending nudes/videos
Made you fear doing something to cause them to be upset for fear of their reaction towards you
Embarrassed you in public
Yell at you in public
Threaten to break up with you if you don’t do exactly what they say/want
Punch, pinch, push, shove, pull your hair, poke your eye, smack, slap, spit on you

5. If you stepped up for any of the questions during the previous activity, you may have been a victim of dating violence and an unhealthy relationship.

6. Signs of dating violence:
PHYSICAL ABUSE: Using force to hurt or restrain an individual
Punching
Pinching
Pushing/shoving
Poking
Pulling Hair
Smacking/Slapping
Spitting
Mushing
Grabbing
Kicking

7. Signs of dating violence:
EMOTIONAL ABUSE: Using words, verbal threats, and manipulation to control and hurt an individual
Threatening
Name calling
Teasing
Shaming
Embarrassing in public
Controlling who to befriend/talk to/hang with
Manipulation
Guilt Tripping
Controlling behavior
Monitoring phone/text/social media
Blaming you for their anger or how they negatively react

8. Signs of dating violence:
SEXUAL ABUSE: Forcing unwanted sexual activity or advances, blackmailing and coercing with sexually explicit photos/videos
Rape
Using guilt to obtain sexting, sexual videos, sexually graphic photos
Forcing oneself on to the other with out consent
Posting/Sharing private photos/videos without consent
Using drugs or alcohol to impair the individual and force them into sexual activity

9. What to do if you or someone you know experience Dating Violence?
Tell some one you trust, preferably a parent or adult such as a counselor or teacher
Separate and give yourself space from the abuser
Call National Hotline
Text LOVEIS to 22522
Download these Phone Apps:
ONE Love Foundation - Guide to help user decide of the acts they are experiencing are unhealthy
Circle of 6 - App that can be used amongst friends as a private chat that will help code conversation to be able to ask for help from another user without the abuser finding out

10. Things to say to Youth who are suffering from Dating Violence
“It’s not your fault” “I want you safe” “You don’t deserve thus, you deserve respect” “This is important” “What do you need” “I am glad you told me” “I am here if you need me or ever want to talk” “Thank you for trusting me”

11. Broken Crayon closing Exercise
Give everyone a piece of paper
Hand out crayons- some broken and some whole
Ask each person to draw a heart with their crayon on the paper and inside of the heart write SELF LOVE
#BrokenCrayonsStillColor

12. About The Presenter Janessa Rivera
Website:
Facebook: The Rebirth Journey