1. “The truth about intimate relationships is that they can never be any better than our relationships with ourselves.”
-James Hollis, The Middle Passage

2. What does it mean to be a teenager of high value?

3. TO DO LIST
Discussion: What does it mean to be a teenager of high value??
Self-confidence
Independence
Integrity
Vulnerability
“Love Me, Love Me Not” Blog Post
Reflection

5. Reflection Question…
After reading this blog, what does:
“We’ve got to love ourselves before we can love someone else” mean to you?
Do you agree or disagree with our discussion?

6. What does it mean to be a teenager of high value?
In order to attract extraordinary people, we have to be extraordinary. And we have to be extraordinary not only for others, we have to do it for ourselves.
-Matthey Hussey
“We are what we repeatedly do.”
-Aristotle
If we want to embody and exhibit our best qualities, we have to be living them.

7. What does this mean to you?
SELF- CONFIDENCE
What does this mean to you?

8. Self- confidence is…
Certainty…the state of feeling certain about the truth of something and a high-value teenager is confident about his/her worth.
Know your abilities, your appeal, and certain about what you deserve. Never settling for less than your highest standards.
Never seeking approval.
If you are not getting what you want or need from a relationship, you are able to walk away knowing that union is not right for you.
Not to be mistaken for arrogance or full of self- importance.

9. INDEPENDANCE
What does this mean to you?

10. Independence is…
…self-determination. Being engaged in meaningful activities that you are passionate about everyday.
Surrounding yourself with people who reinforce your values and confidence.
Understanding that a partner is not to fulfill a void.
You do not NEED anyone, the person you find is the person you CHOOSE and WANT to be with.
“I am a complete person without you, but I desire to have you be a part of my life because you are worth of it.”

11. INTEGRITY
What does this mean to you?

12. INTEGRITY is…
Consistency…A person who sticks to their principles. This establishes trust.
Sticking to your values and not changing them to seek approval
Knowing your standards and being comfortable with them.
Being loyal to your friends, not being critical of others, refraining from gossip.

13. VULNERABLITY
What does this mean to you?

14. VULNERABLITY is…
…allowing yourself to become alive to your most authentic self.
Be real
Act with no guarantees
Ask for help
Get rejected
Embrace negative emotions
When we numb sadness and pain, we numb joy and happiness.

17. Reflection Question…
After reading this blog, what does:
“We’ve got to love ourselves before we can love someone else” mean to you?
Do you agree or disagree with our discussion?
Anonymous Questions…?