1. Question??? If you were dropped on an island and didn’t speak the
Lesson 4
“Effective Communication”
Question??? If you were dropped on an island and didn’t speak the
same language as the locals, how would you communicate to them?
Communication: the sharing of feelings, thoughts and information w/
another person; there are 3 types….
1) Verbal Communication: spoken or said
2) Written Communication: on paper, , texts, etc.
3) Non-Verbal Communication: use of body language,
motions, facial expressions

2. It’s not just what you say….but also how you say it!!!!

3. Question? How do you handle arguments with your friends when
you’re angry???
Types of Messages…..
1) You-Message: statement that blames or shames
another(pointing fingers)
ex. “You are so annoying when you talk like that!”
2) I-Message: a positive way to communicate…it contains….
a) the behavior
b) the effect of the behavior
c) feeling that results
ex. “Because I had to wait for you(a), I missed the 1st
half of the game(b) and I’m very upset(c)!”

4. When can communication get confusing? Has communication among
your friends gotten easier or harder with cell phones/ etc.???
What does this mean? LOL <3U !!! TTYL BTW OMG
Mixed Messages: statements that have two meanings
a) may include body language
b) tone of voice
“Sarcasm”
This can lead to….
Hidden Anger: anger that is not expressed,
it will build up and be taken out
on someone else
ex. road rage, yelling at a pet
Anger Cues: signs a person is angry or upset
ex. red face, heavy breathing
crossed arms, eyebrows