1. Fostering Resilient Kids
Fostering Resilient Kids
We know they’re stressed.
What do we do?
Deborah Giboa, MD

2. Chores are the canary in the coal mine of kids’ character…

3. Valuing achievement ahead of character increases risk.

4. Kids are capable of far more than the stereotypes we perpetuate

6. What is “Happiness?”

7. hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy
INGREDIENTS:
Confidence
Competence
Relationships
hap·pi· ness: noun

8. “Happiness Now” Pressure
Unattainable
Conflicts with resilience
Removes opportunity for resilience “practice”
Causes us to change the narrative to support everything being ok
Limits the resources we offer
We’re terrible at predicting it for others

9. WHY DO ADULTS SAY NO? Love Genuine enjoyment responsibility Fear
Future consequences
Relationship rupture
Guilt

10. CULTURE OF “SUCCESSFUL” FAMILIES
Myth:
“Only I can fix this!”
Truth:
Failure must be experienced.

11. RESILIENCE CHALLENGES
Mistakes
Accidents
Pain
Social consequences
Judgment
11:00 News…

12. HOW DOES FAILURE HELP? independence → confidence Leads to competence
Builds relationship
Teaches resilience. 12

13. WHAT DO WE NEED TO DO? Doing = learning. When-not-if language
Life skills
Relationship skills
Problem-solving
Expectation of failure
Look for chances to take one step back.

17. 5 protective factors of resilience
social competence
problem-solving skills
autonomy
sense of purpose
use of storytelling
5 protective factors of resilience

18. Resilience in Practice
Build trust
Demonstrate gratitude
Express empathy
Connect resources
Offer solutions
Resilience in Practice

19. “That’s a pretty fine fix you’ve gotten yourself into there, kiddo.
I’ll be interested to see what you do.”

20. Empathy
without intervention.

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