1. ICR Lesson 3
9.ICR.1 Understand healthy and effective interpersonal communication and relationships.
9.ICR.1.4: Summarize principles of healthy dating

2. Communication Video Clip
What happened in the video?
Summarize good communication skills

3. Statement of Objectives
So far in this unit, we have been discussing relationships. Today we are going to discuss qualities of healthy dating relationships. By the end of the lesson, you will be able to describe a healthy relationship and recognize behaviors that may be considered unhealthy.
Also, you will understand the definition of dating violence

4. Focus: Fish Bowl Activity
Split into two groups- boys and girls. Girls will go first and answer open ended questions, while the boys listen by being active listeners
After, boys and girls will switch roles

5. Focus (Alternate): Letter
Listen to the following story from an anonymous female
Can abusive relationships happen in teen relationships?
What was unhealthy about this relationship?
Why did the author stay in the relationship?

6. Draw Activity
You will create a pro and cons chart of being a male and also being a female.
Brainstorm your thoughts for a few minutes on your own paper- then you will draw it using nearpod.
This activity will open up different views and perspectives from both males and females.

7. Principles of healthy dating
1. Must accept and feel good about ourselves.
A healthy relationship should result in a heightened sense of self-worth for both partners.
You should not feel less due to being in a relationship

8. 2. Communication Must be able to communicate needs and wants clearly
Need to share and listen both ways
Need to handle issues with proper communication- NOT with physical violence, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, control, criticism
Listen, negotiate, compromise

9. 3. Honesty and Openness Be yourself from the start of the relationship
Person you are dating should allow you to be YOU
Have similar beliefs, interests, lifestyles
Self disclosure and openness deepens healthy relationship

10. 4. Respect
Work together to solve differences without demeaning or insulting each other
Respect each other’s individuality
Follow honesty is the best policy
Listen and value each other
Genuine care

11. What are some healthy dating qualities?

12. Healthy Dating Qualities
Companionship
Spend time together/similar interests
Trust
Loyalty
Share joys and struggles together
Show care
Concern for each other’s well being
Realistic expectations
Concern for feelings, not competitive
No jealousy issues

13. Unhealthy Relationships
Dating Violence: A threat or act of violence against one member of a dating relationship by the other member
This includes acts of sexual violence, physical abuse and verbal or emotional abuse

14. Dating violence can happen to teens and it can happen to teens of both genders
Effects of a violent relationship: -May suffer from low self-esteem -May become involved with alcohol and drugs -May engage in risky sexual behaviors

15. What are some unhealthy dating qualities?

16. Unhealthy Dating Qualities
Poor or inappropriate communication
Lack of respect
Makes on feel less and lowers self-esteem
Possessiveness
Violence or seeking control
Fear
Shallow, lacks openness
Opposite lifestyles
Lacks commitment, care, trust, interests

17. Why might someone who is in an unhealthy dating relationship stay in that relationship?

18. Where can someone who is in an abusive relationship seek help?
Parent
Teachers
Guidance counselors
Coach
Family
Local domestic violence agency

19. Conflict in a relationship is ok. Violence is never ok.

20. Let’s analyze relationships
See videos from prezi
What good/bad qualities did you see on each clip?

21. Grab Bag Activity
Healthy and unhealthy characteristics are in a bag. Students will grab one out of the bag at a time and class will discuss if it is a healthy or unhealthy quality

22. Independent Practice Make it Or Break it AD
You are going to create a ad/poster describing the kind of person you want in a relationship.
You can include qualities you desire and qualities that you don’t desire.
Include hobbies, interests and interests that may “break it”