1. Do we have a Bullying Problem?
advisement: Bullying
What Is Bullying?
Do we have a Bullying Problem?
What Can you do to Help?

2. Good Beginnings Begin with the basics : Use the Golden Rule:
Do only what you are ok with being done to you
Be very careful of your Cyber actions
During this discussion, keep specific people out of your comments

3. Why is it important to discuss Bullying?
Safety
Distraction from learning
Healthy relationships
Responsibility

4. What is Bullying
Behavior intended to cause harm, distress or humiliation
Unwanted and aggressive behavior
Repeated Behavior over time
Felt imbalance of power

5. One person making fun of another.
Bullying can be...
One person making fun of another.
One person trying to beat up another.
A group of people ganging up against others, can include threats, rumors, or attacking physically
excluding someone
from the group.
Not only are these things wrong morally but they are also illegal. You can be arrested for touching, or hitting another person if that person says it was unwanted and he took offense to that hitting. Also, can be arrested for disorderly conduct.

6. Bullying can be:
Direct or
Indirect

7. Direct Bullying (Face to Face)
Hitting, kicking, shoving, spitting…
Taunting, teasing, racial slurs, verbal harassment
Threatening, obscene gestures, rolling eyes, forcing someone to do something they don’t want to do

8. Indirect Bullying (Behind the Back)
Getting another person to bully someone for you
Spreading rumors/Gossip
Deliberately excluding someone from a group or activity
Cyber-bullying
Telling someone not to be friends with another person

9. Types of Bullying 4 Main Types
1. Physical Bullying
2. Emotional Bullying
3. Social Bullying
4. Cyber Bullying

10. Who is involved in Bullying? Bully/Victim/Bystander
Triangle
The Bystander is the most influential person in the triad
Victim
Bystander

11. V Will you support the Bully? Will you support the Victim? Bully
Starts the bullying and takes an active part
Defender of the Victim
Dislikes the bullying and helps or tries to help the victim
Follower/Henchman
Takes an active part, but does not start the bullying
Possible Defender
Dislikes the bullying and thinks he ought to help but doesn’t V
Supporter
Supports the bullying but does not take an active part
Passive Supporter
(Possible Bully)
Likes the bullying but does not display open support
Disengaged Onlooker

12. Supporting a Bully leads to:
Enabling
is unwittingly protecting a person from the consequences of their actions out of a sense of love, compassion, fear, or survival instinct
Entitlement
is the belief that it is our right to use violence or threats of violence to express feelings, meet needs, or satisfy wants.
occurs when violence is accepted as the norm by adults or young people who ignore, rationalize, or minimize incidents of violence.
Tolerance

13. One Time Incident vs. Bullying
Who can give me an example of a one time incident
Who can give me an example of a bullying situation

14. Numbers on Bullying 20% of students report being bullied.
70% of students have witnessed bullying.
1 in 4 teens are bullied each year.
What does that say to you?

15. What About Our School? Do you ever observe/Have Knowledge of:
Physical Bullying?
Emotional Bullying?
Social Bullying?
Cyber Bullying?

16. Think About It!!! Do you ever Laugh when a classmate makes a mistake?
Make fun of people in a mean way?
Join in when someone is being teased?
Gossip or Spread Rumors?

17. Bullying: What Can You Do?
Let someone know what is happening!!!
It’s okay to ask for help
Being bullied is not your fault!!
Who????
Parents, Teachers, Advisor, Principal, Vice Principal

18. Tattle vs. Report- what’s worth reporting
Incidents when you
feel threatened
witness someone else being threatened
when you just know something is wrong
Examples
Physical actions
Verbal threats
Other students are in danger
Student examples

19. Youth Who Bully are More Likely to:
Get into frequent fights
Be injured in a fight
Steal, vandalize property
Drink alcohol
Smoke
Be truant, drop out of school
Report poorer academic achievement
Perceive a negative climate at school
Carry a weapon
Frequent or persistent bullying behavior commonly is considered part of a conduct-disordered behavior pattern.
Researchers have found bullying behavior to be related to other antisocial, violent, or troubling behaviors. They are more likely than their non-bullying peers to…
Sample Citations:
Byrne, B. J. (1994). Bullies and victims in school settings with reference to some Dublin schools. Irish Journal of Psychology, 15,
Cunningham, P. B., Henggeler, S. W., Limber, S. P., Melton, G. B., & Nation, M. A. (2000). Patterns and correlates of gun ownership among nonmetropolitan and rural middle school students. Journal of Clinical Child Psychology, 29,
Nansel et al. (2001)
Nansel, T. R., Overpeck, M. D., Haynie, D. L., Ruan, W. J., & Scheidt, P. C. (2003). Relationships between bullying and violence among US youth. Archives of Pediatric Adolescent Medicine, 157,
Olweus (1993). Victimization by peers: Antecedents and long-term outcomes. In K. H. Rubin & J. B. Asendorf (Eds.), Social withdrawal, inhibition, and shyness (pp ).

20. Longitudinal Study of Bullies (Olweus, 1993)
60% of boys who were bullies in middle school had at least one conviction by age 24.
40% had three or more convictions.
Bullies were 4 times as likely as peers to have multiple convictions.
Finally, bullying behavior also may be an indicator that boys are at risk for engaging in later criminal behaviors.
In a longitudinal study in Norway, 60% of boys who were identified as bullies in middle school had at least one conviction by the age of 24, and 35-40% had three or more convictions. So, children who bullied were three to four times as likely as their non-bullying peers to have multiple convictions by their early 20s. (Olweus, 1993a).

21. Youth who are bullied have:
Lower self esteem
Higher rates of depression
Higher absenteeism rates
More suicidal ideation
160,000 students stay home due to a fear of being bullied.
What effects does bullying have on its victims? Bullying may seriously affect the psychosocial functioning, academic work, and the health of children who are targeted. Bully victimization has been found to be related to lower self-esteem, higher rates of depression, loneliness, and anxiety (e.g., Craig, 1998; Nansel et al., 2001; Rigby, & Slee, 1993).
Victims are more likely to report wanting to avoid attending school and have higher school absenteeism rates (Rigby, 1996).
Researchers also have identified that victims of bullying were more likely to report more suicidal ideation than their non-bullied peers. (Rigby, 1996).
Sample Citations:
Craig, W. M. (1998). The relationship among bullying, victimization, depression, anxiety, and aggression in elementary school children. Personality & Individual Differences, 24,
Rigby, K. & Slee, P. T. (1993). Bullying among Australian school children: Reported behavior and attitudes toward victims. Journal of Social Psychology, 131,

22. Health Consequences of Bullying (Fekkes et al., 2003)
Bullied Not bullied
Headache 16% 6%
Sleep problems 42% 23%
Abdominal pain 17% 9%
Feeling tense 20% 9%
Anxiety 28% 10%
Feeling unhappy 23% 5%
Depression scale
moderate indication 49% 16%
strong indication 16% 2%
Recent research has focused on health consequences of bullying. For example, in recent study of Dutch school children (ages 9-12) researchers found that bullied children (i.e., children who were bullied a few times a month or more), were more likely than their non-bullied peers to experience a whole host of physical ailments. They were, for example:
nearly 3x as likely as their non-bullied peers to experience headaches,
2x as likely to have problems sleeping, abdominal pain, and to feel tense
3x as likely to feel anxious
Nearly 5x as likely to feel unhappy, and
Much more likely to be depressed
Citation: Fekkes, M., Pijpers, F. I. M., & Verloove-VanHorick, S. P. (2004). Bullying behavior and associations with psychosomatic complaints and depression in victims. Journal of Pediatrics, 144,

23. It Takes Courage to be a Good Citizen
What would you do?

24. David is standing in line getting food in the high school cafeteria
David is standing in line getting food in the high school cafeteria. Two of David’s friends, Seth and Trevor, walk up to David and start giving him a hard time about the pants he is wearing and start calling David “lame” and say that David’s pants are “low rent.” Other students start to chime in and add comments about his clothes and behavior that shows he is “lame.” The cafeteria ladies tell the students to stop taunting David and they stop, saying they are just joking.

25. A group of girls were fighting with one of their friends, Nicole
A group of girls were fighting with one of their friends, Nicole. They created a “Rate Nicole” group on a social networking site. They posted embarrassing photos of Nicole from middle school and high school and invited their hundreds of “friends” to join the group to look at photos, and tell Nicole how she stacked up. Cruel and crude comments were posted on the group’s message board. One message said that some girls were planning to beat up Nicole. At school, Nicole got text messages on her cell phone saying, “Take a look at what everyone thinks of you.”

26. Jennifer has been eating lunch with her friends Sue and Kelly every day for the first two months of school. Suddenly Sue and Kelly begin hanging out with Angela. One day when Sue and Kelly are sitting at lunch with Angela, Jennifer comes to sit with them and they move around the table so there is no room for Jennifer to sit. Jennifer politely asked them to make a space and Angela says, “Sorry we are full here at this table, you will have to sit at another table.” Jennifer goes to another table to sit, even though if they were to move around the table there would be plenty of room. When Jennifer tries to talk to Sue and Kelly after school they walk away from her without saying a word and refuse to answer her questions about why they are mad at her

27. Laurie, Maria, and Tawanna decided to try out for the cheerleading team together. Though out tryouts, they’ve assured one another they will make it. Ellen, another girl in their class, is also trying out. When she approaches Laurie, Maria, and Tawanna to tell them good luck, Maria snickers and tells Ellen they don’t need luck – she is sure they will make the team. Then Laurie tells Ellen that she might as well give it up, since girls who are fat like she is never make the team. When Ellen turns back with tears in her eyes, Laurie and Maria laugh at her and walk away. Tawanna remains behind and tells Ellen not to worry about them, explaining that they can just be mean when they are under a lot of stress.

28. Put Yourself in Someone Else’s Shoes
If you were being bullied…
How would you feel?
What would you do?

29. Everyone Can Help Out!!! Good Citizens Do The Right Thing!
Don’t join in and Refuse to watch
Say something- “Hey don’t do that to him.”
Report Bullying to an adult
Invite the person being bullied to join your group
Be a friend to a person being bullied
Distract the bully so that he or she stops

30. Bullying: How Not to be a Victim
1. Act and look CONFIDENT
Bullies go after those who appear weak
Bullies repeat actions to those who they think they can
2. If someone is picking on you don’t show them it hurts
It is okay to feel sad or hurt over what a bully says but try not to show them
Express your feelings to your parents, friends and people you trust!!!

31. How can I help myself if I am getting bullied?
Strategies
How can I help myself if I am getting bullied?
Ignore what the bully or bullies say
Agree with what they say- Bullies don’t get satisfaction if they don’t get a negative reaction
Make a quick joke or a funny response
Change the subject

32. Bullying: How to Avoid Bad Situations
1. Stay in a group
Surround yourself with people you feel safe with
2. Avoid “hot spots”
Take a different path to classes
Go to the restroom a little earlier

33. The End