1. Put First Things First Think Win-Win
Habit 3 and 4
Put First Things First
Think Win-Win

2. Not enough time to get it all done!
Habit 2 – you decided what was most important to you, what should be first
Habit 3 – helps you plan on how to put those things first
Will power- the strength to say yes to your most important things
Won’t power- the strength to say no to less important things and to peer pressure

3. Packing More into Your Life
When you pack for a trip, if you are more organized then you can fit more into your suitcase
To get more organized in your life to fit more in, you can use the Time Quadrant Model which divides things into important and urgent categories

4. What is Important?/What is Urgent?
Important - Activities that contribute to your mission and goals
Tests, exercise, relationships, work, projects
Urgent-Pressing things, in-your-face-things, activities that demand immediate attention
Phone calls, interruptions, a test tomorrow, car breaks down

5. There are 4 Time Quadrants
Important and Urgent
The “Procrastinator”
Exam Tomorrow
Friend gets Injured
Late for Work
Project Due Today
Urgent and Not Important
The “Yes-Man”
Unimportant phone calls
Interruptions
Other people’s small problems
Peer pressure
Important and Not Urgent
The “Prioritizer”
Planning/Goal setting
Essay due in a week
Exercise
Relationships
Relaxation
Not Urgent and Not Important
The “Slacker”
Too much TV
Endless phone calls
Too much computer games
Mall marathons
Time wasters

6. Quadrant 1 – The Procrastinator
There will always be Q1 things that we can’t control
Last minute meeting
Illness
By putting things off, like volunteering until the last couple of weeks, people become a “stress case”
Spending too much of your time here causes
Stress and anxiety
Burnout
Mediocre paerformance

7. Quadrant 3 – The Yes-Man
People who spend a lot of time in this quadrant attend to matters that are urgent and may seem important, but are not. For example, a ringing phone. This quadrant is also full of things that are important to other people, but are not important to you
Results of spending too much time here
Being a people pleaser
Lack of discipline
Feeling like a doormat for others to wipe their feet on

8. Quadrant 4-The Slacker
This is the category of waste and excess. There is nothing here that is urgent or important
What appears to be relaxation or renewal turns into wasted time
The results of Q4 are
Lack of responsibility
Guilt
Flakiness

9. Quadrant 2- The Prioritizer
The quadrant of excellence
The place where you want to spend the most time
This person plans ahead for doing first things first
Results of spending time here are
Control of your life
Balance
High performance

10. Where do you spend most of your time?
We all spend time in all the quadrants, but the goal should be to increase the time spent in Q2
Shrink Q1 by procrastinating less
Say no to Q3 activities
Cut down on Q4, slacker activities

11. Habit 3- Two Parts Time Management
Learning to put first things first
Prioritize items to fulfill mission and meet goals
Learn to overcome fear and peer pressure
It takes courage and guts to stay true to your first things like your values and standards

12. The Comfort Zone Relaxation Freedom from risk
Things you are used to doing
Things you enjoy doing

13. The Courage Zone Things you have never tried before Hard moments
Opportunity
Bravery
Risk

14. Why Enter the Courage Zone?
Adventure, risk and challenge is included
Everything that makes you feel uncomfortable is here
A place for opportunity
Because you miss 100% of the shots you never take

15. Never Let Fears Make Your Decisions
Many people let fear make their decisions
They don’t try anything new for fear of failure
There may be teams you never tried out for, clubs you never joined, someone you never spoke to for fear of being uncomfortable
Don’t let fear make your decisions, you make your decisions!

16. Baby Steps Set a goal to use a planner.
Identify your biggest time-wasters.
If you are a “pleaser” try saying no for a day when you know it’s the right thing to do.
Don’t procrastinate.
Make time on your schedule for your big rocks.
Don’t give into peer pressure

17. Habit 4 Think Win-Win
Attitude toward life, a mental frame of mind that says I can win and so can you.
No one is superior and no one is inferior
Win – Win is not
Win-Lose
Lose-Win
Lose-Lose

18. Win-Lose Totem Pole-getting to the top Win-Lose is competitive
Examples of Win-Lose
Using other people for your own gain
Trying to get ahead at the expense of another
Spreading rumors
Always insisting you get your own way
Becoming jealous/envious when something good happens to someone else

19. Lose- Win
These people avoid confrontation so they take the blame to keep the peace
It’s the doormat syndrome
Giving into peer pressure
Set low expectations and compromise your standards

20. Lose-Lose The downward spiral Revenge is lose-lose
I don’t care what happens to me as long as _________ doesn’t do well

21. Win-Win The All You Can Eat Buffet
There is plenty of success to go around
Examples of win-win
Your best friend got accepted at the college you wanted to get into. You didn’t make it. You are happy for your friend
You want to go out to dinner, your friend wants to see a movie. You get takeout and rent a movie for home

22. Win-Win It is contagious
Sometimes though not everyone thinks win-win or you won’t be able to find a win-win solution. Then you need to decide not to play or to walk away
Increase how much you think win-win because it will make you feel great!
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23. Baby Steps
Pinpoint the area of your life where you most struggle with comparisons. Perhaps it’s with cloths, physical features, friends or talents.
Show sportsmanship.
Form a study group before a test so everyone can help each other do better.
Next time someone close to you succeeds, be genuinely happy for them instead of feeling threatened.