1. Intimate Relationships a person’s desire for a warm, close relationship. The sharing of that which is inmost with others (could we get any cheesier?)

2. Intimacy Involves Including Another in Your Self Concept
Attribution process
-less of a distinction between themselves and others
-costs and rewards are not as important
-Partner’s self schema is part of our own
-shared memory

3. Parent-Child Attachments
Ainsworth: three types of attachment styles in infancy
Secure
Avoidant
Anxious-ambivalent
Hazan, Shaver, and Bradshaw (1988)

4. Hazan, Shaver, and Bradshaw
Infants
Secure 62%
Avoidant 23%
A-A 15%
Adults
56%
24%
20%

5. Childhood Attachment and Romantic Relationships
seeking or avoiding intimacy in adulthood has roots in childhood experience
Securely attached people learn how to foster intimacy
Couples with securely attached people are happiest

6. Friendship Superficial Developed based on the exchange principle.
Based on exchange AND mutual concern

7. Self-Disclosure Revealing of personal information about oneself
Social Penetration Theory
Development of a relationship moves from discussion of superficial topics to more intimate topics
Cultural Differences between North Americans and Eastern cultures

8. Romantic Relationships
Initial Romantic encounters are often ambiguous
Pick up lines
Unrequited Lovegrieve, assign blame, accept failure, move on
Emphasis on Persistence

9. Sternberg’s Theory of Love

10. Men in Love Men appear to be more eager to fall in love than women do
More likely to believe in love at first sight
More likely to be idealistic
Fall in love faster and out of love more slowly

11. Sex and Relationship Issues
Dating relationships with sex last longer…why?
The Coolidge effect

12. Ending Relationships Women more likely to initiate break ups
Initiator suffers the least
Men and women deal in different ways