1. Meeting the Deeper Needs of School Leaders
Viv Grant: Director-Integrity Coaching

2. Wellbeing: Are we all on the same page?
Webinar Overview
Wellbeing: Are we all on the same page?
Understanding the emotional and psychological costs of school leadership
How Listening supports care of ‘The Soul in the Role.’

3. A Question
“How can we nurture teachers and school leaders for the long haul & stop putting subsistence strategies ahead of deeper needs?” The Centre for Courage and Renewal

4. Well-Being: Our Definition
‘Well-being is about having a healthy and courageous relationship with self. It is concerned with doing the inner work that brings integrity and authenticity to the outer work of being human.’

5. The Primary Challenge
“ is to help people develop a set of practices that keep their dreams whole while cultivating an awareness of current reality around them”

6. What’s got in the way …?

7. The School Leader’s Front Stage
“The front stage becomes the place where we perform for our audience, often more than one audience at a time … the front stage becomes our place for conviction and confidence.” Walker [2007]

8. A Space that allows you to ‘Be’

9. Where do your ‘support’ relationships fit?
HIGH Accountability/LOW Trust
THE HALLMARKS OF THIS TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP ARE:
FEAR
MISTRUST
RESENTMENT
LEADING TO RESTRICTED PERSONAL PERFORMANCE
LOW Accountability/LOW Trust
COMPLACENCY
SMUGNESS
ARROGANCE
LEADING TO COMPROMISED PERSONAL PERFORMACNE
HIGH Accountability/HIGH Trust
-OPENNESS
-CO-OPERATION
-UNDERSTANDING
-EMPATHY
LEADING TO HIGH PERSONAL PERFORMANCE
LOW Accountability/HIGH Trust
SELF MOTIVATION
SELF DOUBT
SELF –RELIANCE
LEADING TO CONFUSION AROUND EXPECTED PERSONAL PERFORMANCE STANDARDS

10. I accept you I value you I hear you I respect you I understand you
A Space that says …
I accept you
I value you
I hear you
I respect you
I understand you

11. The Sacrifice Syndrome

12. The Sacrifice Syndrome
‘ When leaders sacrifice too much for too long – and reap too little – they can become trapped in the Sacrifice Syndrome’ [Boyatzis and McKee]
Dissonance becomes the default
Dissonant leaders are at the mercy of their own volatile emotions and reactivity

13. Therefore, we must attend to …
Deepening Self-Understanding
Developing Emotional Resources
Sustaining a sense of vocation and purpose
Bringing congruity to original ideals and current realities

14. Superficial Listening Distorted Listening
What Get’s in the Way?
Pretend Listening
Judgmental Listening
Superficial Listening
Distorted Listening
Past Behaviour-Based Listening
Jumping Ahead Listening

15. The Result….

16. Taking Care of the Soul Involves Listening that …
1. Develops reflection and thinking skills. 2. Supports psychological well-being and confidence 3. Maintains vocational vitality 4. Encourages problem-solving and creativity

17. Taking Care of the Soul Involves Listening that…
5. Builds confidence in leadership knowledge, skills and practice 6. Enhances communication and Relationship management skills 7. Grows emotional resilience 8. Increases self awareness and self management

18. Bringing You Back Home to Yourself

19. What would this look like for you?

20. The Sacrifice Syndrome and Renewal
‘ Sustainable, effective leadership occurs only when the experiences of the sacrifice and stress of leadership are interchanged with those of renewal’
‘While resonance will lead to effective leadership, unless a leader moves in and out of renewal, he or she will not be able to sustain it.’
Boyatzis and Mckee: Resonant leadership

21. Listening: A Pathway to Renewal
It can become the means through which you:
Come to know and trust yourself
Clarify your thinking and adopt new ways of being
Find the courage to learn how to change and grow
Discover meaning from your own life experiences

22. Empathy Counts!
“ Empathy reminds you that amidst the chaos of school life, you are worthy, you are valuable, and your story has the right to be listened to.”

23. An Invitation – ‘To Connect Back to You’
FREE 30 min call
The call will help you to:
Create a sense of clarity about what you really want out of your life as a school leader
Gain perspective on any challenges you may be currently facing
Identify the steps that you can take to bring about positive change
To book your call: Simply type ‘Coaching call’ and add your address in the question box and we’ll be in touch

24. FREE ‘Coaching for the Soul’ Workshop
Date: Thurs 17th Nov Venue: St Marylebone School, Westminster, London Time: 9.00 – To book your place: Simply type ‘Coaching workshop’ and add your address in the question box and we’ll be in touch
The session is for you if you want to understand how coaching enables schools leaders to:
Overcome the symptoms of the Sacrifice Syndrome
Develop a greater alignment between their inner and outer selves
Increase their levels of emotional resilience

25. Self Care is Never A Selfish Act …