1. Lesson 4: Selecting a Companion
The Family & the Home
Lesson 4: Selecting a Companion

2. Picking A Mate People in the world look for “chemistry”…
Physical attraction (Prov. 31:30)
What is had in common (Eccl. 2:1-11)
Material possessions (Mt. 16:26; Lk. 12:21)
Education or I.Q. (1 Cor. 1:26)

3. Biblical Rules for Picking A Mate
Pick a mate who…
Comes from a good background (Ezek. 16:44)
Respects God and his word (Psa. 19:7-11); respects God’s assigned roles for the husband and wife (Eph. 5:22-33)
Has spiritual goals and values (Mt. 6:33; Heb. 11:6)

4. Biblical Rules for Picking A Mate
Pick a mate who…
Can adjust, compromise, and serve (1 Cor. 13:4-7; Eph. 5:33; Phil. 2:2-4)
Is willing to correct major flaws (1 K. 16:31; 19:1-2; 21:1ff; 21:25)
Shows signs of maturity (1 Cor. 13:11)
Can and will communicate (Eccl. 9:9; 1 Pet. 3:7)

5. Biblical Rules for Picking A Mate
Pick a mate who…
Will offer more than physical beauty (Prov. 31:30; 1 Pet. 3:1ff)
Knows the difference between sex and love (Eph. 5:25ff; Tit. 2:4)
Will be a good friend and life-long companion (Prov. 2:17; Mal. 2:14-16)

6. Biblical Rules for Picking A Mate
Pick a mate who…
Will respect you (Eph. 5:33; 1 Pet. 3:7) and be committed to you for life (Mt. 19:6; Rom. 7:2-3; 1 Cor. 7:39)

7. Review Questions
1. What do people in the world look for in a mate? 2. What should Christians look for? What biblical rules do we need to follow in picking a mate?